what should I do?? sooo confused...advice wanted..and lots of it!?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and I truly love him. He does everything every girl wants...he is a dream come true. However, lately I have been getting weird feelings, doubts, and 2nd thoughts. I don't feel like talking to him / cuddling as much as I used to, and don't quite look at him with that same enthusiasm. Whenever we hang out I am constantly analyzing my thoughts, and questioning whether or not I want to be with him. It is very confusing because I love him very much. I told him how I felt and he told me he had the same feelings about 3 months earlier, and assured me that everything was alright, that he loved me, and that losing me is the last thing on earth that he wants to do, but he told me to do what makes me happy

Has anyone else been in my situation?
Is this normal?
Is the newness wearing off?
Am I over analyzing the situation waaay too much?
Are my feelings coming from the overanalysis of the situation?
What would you do?
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

Answer 1

i think you should just relax and enjoy the time you have together. get out and do more activities together it will make you more enthusiastic than just lying around. you need to keep your mind busy with enjoyable things, so you don't have to worry about silly questions like that.

Answer 2

I've been in the exact same situation before. Well, except I'm a guy :P

I would suggest that the both of you just sit down and talk it through. If you both love each other than letting the relationship just drift apart isn't what either of you want, right? So, try some new stuff. Make it exciting again. Do something spontaneous and surprise him. In every relationship, there's a period where the relationship will seem to slow down and not be as exciting. That is normal but not something that will be impossible to work through. Sometimes it's possible to over analyze the situation and if you just relax and thing about what's causing you to be concerned, you'll feel better if you try to come up with solutions, rather than just worrying.

Since it is impossible to know all the details, I cannot tell you what you should do because in every relationship, it's different circumstances. I hope that some of what I said was at least a little bit helpful.

Good luck and follow your heart!!

Answer 3

Spend some time away from him and listen to your heart.

You may be growing apart, and a part of you has changed and now needs different things from a relationship. Love does not necessarily make a successful relationship.

It sounds like you need to spend time alone and checking in with your heart and your gut. All relationships go though stages and changes. I have been married for 20 years, so I know. We almost left each other many, many times.

Do what honors you and your life the best. It is O.K. to really go for what you want. And it is O.K. to put aside what you DON'T want.

I would also strongly advocate getting a bit of therapy (just for a while) so you can get an objective, third-party view of this relationship and how you are in it and what you want out of life in general. It could really be helpful.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Ahhh... you have reached the "It's too good to be true so I must do something to shake things up a bit" stage. Very normal at the end of the beginning of a relationship. It kinda makes you take a step back and analyze whether you really want this relationship to go further. Otherwise you'd just hummmmm throught life and that would be boring.

So... is it something you want to continue? Only you can decide. But it's definitely normal!

Answer 5

If he gave you a reason to think like this then I don't blame you for feeling this way. If he did cheat on you in the past then that's why you feel this way. You need to sit him down and have a long talk with him and tell him how you feel and if things don't go right then you have to move on with your life. Because you ain't happy and you ain't doing nothing but making yourself mad. So, I won't worry about it if he don't give you a reason too. But if he cheated on you he'll do it again. My boyfriend did me the same way every time we went somewhere I felted like he was cheating and I couldn't take it no more. A week later I found a phone number in his cell phone and it was some girl he was dating, behind my back and I broke up with him. It was hard because I loved him with all my heart, but I knew I had to let him go because if he did it one time he'll do it again and again.

Answer 6

sounds like the puppy love has been extinguished and now your experiencing a real relationship with feelings and thoughts stemming from the mind, not a falsely lead blind heart. It's time you should become friends at a higher level, you get to see each other minor blemishes and imperfections then work them in or out of your relationship. Love is such a mis-used term, so don't get hung up on it
What do you want to do? only you know this, are you bored? not attracted to him physically or mentally? tired of not having Independence? tired of routine? someone else catching your eye? sex fizzled?

Answer 7

Well, your feelings may not be the same he had, that's hard to prove. It's kind of difficult to know for sure how you feel about him if you're still together regularly. So you need some time apart. Although cliche, consider this:

You don't know what you have until it's gone.
If you love something, let it go, and if it comes back it's yours! (Or if you want him back).

Also, don't be with the one you can live with. Be with the one you can't live without :)

Good luck dear!

Answer 8

It really sounds like the fizzle went out...out of YOUR relationship with yourslef. Possbily, you have the iodea that your single life is over and maybe there is someone better.

YOu should taker an apptiture test and find out what passions you are avoiding. Thgen start developing them. If boyfriend blaks, and is niot supportive of you being yourslef, dump ASAP.

Answer 9

You are over analyzing the whole thing. Relationships ebb and flow. Every so often I look at Hubby Fred and wonder why I'm here. Other times, you can't keep me off of him. So yes, it's normal.

Answer 10

Overanalyzing and then some, perhaps you need to try some new things with him and see how that feels.

Imagine yourself 15 years down the road and still having these feelings can you live with them?