My husband has been scared to have sex with me. We have only done it 1 time in 4.5 months! My Dr. recommended that we do it last night and he finally gave in. He freaked out afterword because he said it felt shorter in there and he was afraid he was hitting the baby. Any chance of that? Im pretty sure he did'nt but looking for reassurance!
2007-01-11 09:01:23 · 30 answers · asked by Erica J 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's safe.
2007-01-11 09:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is shorter - everything is stretched. You cannot do any harm to the baby and it is good to do it because it can help with bringing on contractions at the right time and ease the labor. Al;so it helps with making the baby turn down the right way. You will in no way hurt the baby, it is impossible as the baby has a lot of protection, just by the placenta alone. Even if the water is broken the baby still has a lot of protection.
He should try getting under your legs lying sideways for better access and so that he can stroke your clitoris with his finger at the same time. All the stimulation will help you to a more natrual and easier birth. Tell him to lick your nipples a lot too. That will stimulate small contractions that will help ease the labor.
I found the whole pregnancy thing very sexy - it is just finding a time when she is not too tired...........
2007-01-11 17:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by charles c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40+3 and have been having sex all the time purely to jump start labour. He won't have done any harm but if the babies head is engaged then it probably does feel a bit weird for him. The baby is completely safe and sex is recommended up until your waters break. A friend of mine had the exact same problem though, her partner just didn't like the thought of the baby being that close. You haven't got long left now so hopefully it won't be a problem for much longer.
Good Luck !!
2007-01-15 13:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Laura H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex while your pregnant will not harm the baby at all. It sometimes can be uncomfortable especially for the woman but wouldn't hurt the baby at all. The Dr. most likely recommended this because it can help start your labor and also could make it easier for your to stretch during the delivery and possibly keep from having to have an episiotomy.
2007-01-11 17:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by CowboyzLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is fine. It may actually make the baby come sooner. Sexual intercourse helps soften the cervix causing it to dilate. Good luck! Motherhood is a wonderful adventure! Just be sure to take it all in, every second of it. It goes by quickly. My little girl is 4 months already! I can't believe how quickly the time goes.
2007-01-11 17:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by artsycasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you effaced yet? If not then there are still 4cm of cervix between him and the baby and there's no worries. My husband wont have sex with me either though so I understand the fears. I have placenta Previa and we did it in the beginning but I would bleed, it was enough to freak him out and he hasnt touched me in 8 months!!!! I'm going nuts here! But anyway, his fears are totally normal and not uncommon, but you can reasure him that no he can't hit the baby from there.
2007-01-11 17:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lil' Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he didn't hit the baby. That was probably your cervix or mucous plug he felt. The baby is a little ways up in there and surrounded by a fluid sack. Sex is good because it causes the cervix to ripen and the prostglandins in sperm can induce labor.
2007-01-11 17:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably was just the position you were in. it doesnt get "shorter". there is a long space with alot of fluid between where he was and where your baby is. more length that im sure her has. its just psychological. my husband is a little freaked out too. he doesnt want to squash the baby. im 34 weeks. my husband is very involved in our pregnancy. he talks to my stomach, he shines a flashlight on my tummy and tells our little girl that she should look at her fingers. when i eat, he speaks loudly to my stomach and tells her what she is going to be eating. its really sweet. i MISS the sex, alot. but, i understand why it freaks him out. but, there is more to sex than an orgasm, because if that was it, i could do that myself. its the intimacy i miss. to him, im carrying his baby, and he already has a personal relationship with the baby. so, dont worry, it wont be long now, and then you can be active again after birth. .. luck for u.. and Happy baby. -- stephanie.
2007-01-11 17:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're doctor gave you the go ahead, it's okay. It probably felt shorter because of swelling, pressure, YOU'RE PREGNANT. It's going to happen. Have your hubby talk to the doctor for reassurance. Good luck and congrats.
2007-01-11 17:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by ojibwechik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had sex ALL the time while she was pregnant. At the point you're at the only worry you should have is that it might induce labor, but that wouldn't neccesarily be a bad thing since you are full term.
2007-01-11 17:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Therious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably jus not used to havin sex. and the babys head will be far down. but the baby and u an the baby are safe. have sex and an orgasm it will trigger ur contractions an if he ejaculates inside u a hormone called oxytocin will set them off
2007-01-11 17:43:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋