I am new at this school and this guy that I really like he is so nice to some girls and so hot. So yea and today I was eating and minding my own business and then I hear someone say Ok i dare you to go the new girl and show her this note. And i heard him say i don't wanna show it to her u show it to her but I 'll write it and then so one of his friends come to me and says hi and sits down and says ok so you know the guy over there and he points and shows me and then he says well he has to tell you something and i open the note thinking it would be something really good but instead he says hi (whatever your name is) and then he writes Go to hell and then they all start to laugh now they say I like him and I really do and it is not his fault because he tries to be nice with everyone and he already has a g/f and she is very pretty but obviously I started to cry and me being the new girl I don't have a lot of friends. And then he said Oh **** when i fell of my chair crying and he laughed.
2007-01-11 08:48:58 · 43 answers · asked by Ashley Filipe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know I asked this already but help me!
Should I still like him or not?
nice he is he is only rude to me because i am new when there is another new girl he would probably be coo with me and he is in all my classes and when i stare at him he just smirks and kinda smiles
i am 13 he is 14! his bday was like 2 months ago
He is so popular and I don't know if he likes me please help and don't be mean i am feeling very lonely ever since i moved
2007-01-11 08:50:16 · update #1
Thanks so much guys! I never experienced this because everyone in my school was nice to me and I had friends and yea I ddi hear the song Move Along Thanks agian guys
~Ashley Filipe ♥
2007-01-11 09:38:50 · update #2
My dear sweet young lady, it is hard to be your age and then to be the new kid on the block makes it even harder. The kids you are dealing with are cruel and hurtful. I feel for you. I see that things have not changed after all of these years. I am a grandmother now. I know that telling you that this too shall pass will not do you much good. Please do not allow these people to effect who you are. You are God's daughter!!! A King's daughter!!! Never forget who you are...you are worth more than silver and gold...you are the brightest diamond...and like a diamond, you are beautiful to look at, yet strong and sturdy...so, dry your tears, fix your hair, put on your favorite outfit and wear a big smile...it will confuse them...they only do this because it gets a rise out of you!!! Take the high road...you will find friends of like mind and simular interests...concentrate on your studies, join a church youth group...just because they are in the so called popular crowd, doesn't mean that they are having fun...and besides, at any time they could find themselves in your position. People who belittle others have to do so because they don't value themselves so they have to put others down to make themselves feel important...they are really insecure. You really don't want to have "friends" like them, do you??? You are above them!!! As for the young man that you like....please forget him...he has a girlfriend and even if they break up, don't bother...he is abusive and isn't really a nice person...it is just an act to fool the adults and others...if he really was a nice person, he wouldn't have been party the abuse his friends gave to you...he would have stopped it or stood up and told them that they were wrong and appologized to you in front of everyone...did he do that??? NO!!! How could you like someone who laughs when you fell down...Again, if he was really as nice as you say, he would have gone over and helped you up and asked if you needed to go the nurse. Sweet child, do not be blinded because he looks good and fakes being nice...the devil does that too!!! You wouldn't want to date the devil, would you??? You just be your beautiful self...genuine beauty comes from within...you will attract the right friends and a young man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated...which is great and will appreciate all of your fine qualities. What I did was take all of the pain from my youth and turn it to good...while all of my abusive peers were making fun of me, I went to school, got good grades and became a well off professional in the business world...what became of them you ask??? Most of them are either dead, on drugs or alcoholics or unwed mothers on welfare or unemployed. One time I went home to visit my family and decided to go for a walk. Two of my abusers were sitting on the step of an abandoned store and were whistling at me. I was wearing my designer clothes and they thought they could get close to me...a woman with money to take care of them....as I got closer they began to recognize me and couldn't believe it...I looked at them and tossed them a $100 bill and told them to get some soap and a room for the night and take a bath and get something to eat and kept on going. Recently, I went on Classmates.com and told of my accomplishments and how well all of my children had turned out. Revenge is a dish best served cold. You don't have to retaliate...just live a good and productive life, make a difference in someone's life and that is all the revenge you will need...God bless you.
2007-01-11 09:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by PB&J P 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop liking him he does not deserve your crush, guys that are like that are not nice and he is not a nice guy don't matter what your heart sayz! He would not have writin that note, no nice guy would, do NOT ask desperate for his approval, he is with someone and a year older, I know how hard it is cuz i liked this guy talon once he was so nice (it seemed) and of course hot but he turned out to be an @$$ like your guy! I heard this saying all the nice guys are ugly all the hot guys are mean and all the hot and nice guys are gay, and in a way it is true=) Don't aim for the popular guy every one loves go for a guy that is still great but maybe not as good looking. guys can tell you like them when you look over at them and they catch you quickly looking away. Act proud and confindent and next time you see him don't look at him all day not even a peek! You should have said something like I am going to hell? i am not the one in the corner writing stupid notes trying to hurt people's feelings. Even if it is not your personality you have got to stand up for yourself, or every one will talk about you and walk all over you! Don't be afraid to be confindent just be yourself and i am sure you will meet some great friends........ and great guys=)
Good luck with ur problems
2007-01-11 09:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this sounds, focus on someone else for now-he has a girlfriend. Also, since you're new, this whole situation might seem the world to you now, but I promise you it won't mean ANYTHING later on. Rise above it, focus on your studies, and when you have an amazing career and that "hot guy" from Jr. High has a stupid job and no life and a beer belly from partying too hard and dropping out of college, you'll feel glad you studied hard and focused on improving yourself. Prince Charming will come along in due time, don't rush it. It'll happen when you least expect it (trust me)!
2007-01-11 08:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy and his friends all sound like jerks. I don't see how you COULD still like someone like that.
Also, if he already has a girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is try to come between that...especially if you are the new girl. That will only cause you trouble!
I'd find someone new that respects you and likes you back. Good luck :)
2007-01-11 09:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip sweetie! First of all, you are not the wimpering idiot that this whole thing is making you out to be! Remember that! If you like the guy...turn on the freaking charm! Act like a woman. Make him goofy around you. He may be popular, but even popular guys are human. Cute, stand offish, witty, and good looking is all you need to knock this one down. Your the new girl! Wow them and don't crawl under a rock.
2007-01-11 08:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by peacemaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it alone since he has a girlfriend... you do not want to start off on the wrong foot in a new school and going after another girls man will give you a bad name, espically if they are popular. I was the new girl one and it is going to take some time to deveolpe friends. I would get yourself involved in some school activities that will give you a chance to socialize with some of your classmates. Give it time... You will be okay!
2007-01-11 08:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by woodchuck1130 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my little angel, wish i was there to hold you.
Please don't get so upset, there are plenty of nice guy who are nice not only to his/her friends but also to new people (strangers).
Being nice doesn't mean you should only be nice to people you know, you should be good and friendly to new people in your community and let them know that they r welcome here and he/she is there to help you out any moment.
So I would say, step back and relax for a while. take a look at the bigger picture, if you really wanna be a guy who is so mean to new people in class.
I am sure u gonna find a very nice and friendly guy very soon, until then make friends and be happy. don't let them know that what they did has hurt, they might repeat it.
take care sweetie.
2007-01-11 08:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by shadab a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry abou tthings like this. Since your new at the school, your going to receive alot of that kind of junk. You probaly still have feelings for him, but sooner or later you have to understand that even if you DO get him to like you, he probaly won't be as great as he seems. He nice to some girls because he wants those girls to be..nice to him back. You will find someone right for you, and the person who right for you DEFINETLY wouldn't have done something like that. Try and meet some people at your new school, and I am sure you will begin to find where you belong.
2007-01-11 08:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, well the best advice i could offer is ignore him and all the other idiots. kids are by far the cruelst of people. i know it hurts but i think you should focus on trying to make at least one decent friend - girl or boy and just wait to see what happens in the future. i'd ferget him, if he was really a nice guy, he wouldn't have let what happened happen. hes not worth yor time.
2007-01-11 08:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by bananananana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was in your shoes i would be really depressed also. I'm sorry that things are not going so well for you but really i think that you should for the time being forget about guys and try maybe to get some female friends to help you when crap like that happens. just so you know it was not your fault that those losers with no life hurt you. i hope things will get better. keep your head up!!!
2007-01-11 08:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by ndbt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋