My ex & i went out for almost 3 years & broke up bout 8 months ago. Well, we stopped hanging out about 3-4 months ago. He lied to me about not having a girlfriend in another country. I guess they met thru friendster.com, so when he went there on march 2006 to visit his family, they also met each other in person and had dates when were were still together. I JUST found out about this last month,so now everything makes sense to me why he's changed and wanted us to really break up when he just got back from vacation.I had been wanting to break up with him but he wouldn't let me go.I just wish he did b4 he cheated. I'm finding things out myself cuz..let's just say their passwords on emails and all that are very easy to guess.Well, now they're getting married already! He's going to petition her! He DOESN'T know that I know. I've moved on too, but of course sometimes i feel this kind of weird feelings sometimes. What should I do? What do I do when i c 'em? we live in a small town.
2007-01-11 08:43:16 · 22 answers · asked by alwaysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do nothing. Say nothing except hi (for courtesy). Move on. End of story. He already ended it.
2007-01-11 08:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the weird feelings you are having. You were going out for a long time- it is only natural that you feel that way. He is a JERK for cheating on you to begin with.You deserve so much more than that so don't worry about him anymore! You said that you have moved on- THAT'S GREAT! Show him that life moves on without him. As for seeing him around- just act normally as if nothing has happened. If he starts acting like a big jerk about the break-up I would make him feel bad. I wouldn't mention that you know what really happened, but if you have to or really want to that's fine. I would not want the drama though, Hope I helped!!!
2007-01-11 17:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by clarecubbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should "Count Yourself Lucky" that this happened before you married him. At least you know his true colors. You can't change what he did or how he went about it. You deserve someone much better, someone that will cherish you for who you are and someone that you can trust. The weird feelings are natural, just give it time. You were with him for 3 years so naturally it takes time to let go of all of those feelings that you shared with him. And the part about being in the same small town is difficult, because only you know what you can handle. Don't let them get to you, and remember you don't have to be their buddies. How you react to them will be something you have to live with, I say "Count Yourself Lucky". Good Luck to you and may you find true happiness. God Bless!
2007-01-11 17:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have really moved on then you would not care.
The key is to really get over it........move on. He isnt worth
your time........he cheated on you & on her. Think about it....
once a cheat always a cheat......he kept you around just in case
things didnt work out with her. Now that he is marrying her....
all will be well until someone else comes along & then he will
cheat on his wife...........would you have wanted to be that wife??
the wife that has a cheating husband??
You had a good 3 years with him and now it is over.......time
to move forward with your life. Dont give him the satisfaction
of you being upset, sad, or causing drama..... just move on.
If you see them.......say "hi, congratulations on the engagement.
When are you getting married?? I am so happy for you."
Then leave.......go home and cry if you must, but dont let him
see you sad.
2007-01-11 16:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you moved on, but have you really. The best thing you can do is move on. If by chance you do run into them, bless them both and let it go.
All of your question seems like you were hurt badly. Now, the really hard part of this is to forgive three people in this relationship:
1. Your ex (obviously)
2. His new wife
3. Yourself-for still hanging on and not allowing yourself to grow from this experience. Do you know that the ideogram in the Chinese language for "obstacle" is the same ideogram for "opportunity"?.
2007-01-11 16:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by buddha bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act like nothing is going on. You don't want to drop your pride for a second, you deserved a better man in the 1st place. Just be polite and say hi to them and stuff, but don't go out of your way to see them/him, or mention that he cheated on you. The last thing you want to do is break up a happy relationship, you will just create enimies there. You've moved on, and don't be afraid to show him that.
2007-01-11 16:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by I_LOVE_VICTORIAS SECRET 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, maybe you just weren't the one. It's good you have moved on, but sometimes we still feel hurt or jealous because we are jus human. I think it's normal for you to feel this way.
If you see him around town, congratulate him on his engagement, Tell him you wish the best for him and leave him wondering how you knew.
Handle with maturity and you will come out smelling like a rose!
2007-01-11 16:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply turn your head when you see them. If you are in a store, go to another isle or give them congratulations. If you are at a resturaunt, send them a bottle of wine, and eat in the joy that you do not have to deal with him anymore.
What you do says a LOT about who you are, so simply be kind. Then know in your heart, the OTHER WOMAN probably saved you a LOT of misery. He is HER PROBLEMS now! You CAN and WILL find BETTER honey!
2007-01-11 16:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sista right now prayer is on your side so that you can heal and really get him out your system cause if you think about it you still have feelings for him when you see him with somebody elses .its ok just stay focus in prayer and you will be find god willl see you thur always look at it this way this break up cause could have just been a great blessing for you to press into what biggger blessing ahead of you walk in it ladysheck4u@aol.com anytime
2007-01-11 16:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by BROKEN AND BEAUTFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
1st of all i Congrats. u that u already know he is worthless .
2nd of all he is gone now so ur FREE which means u have gone ur way so forget him and ignore him ...f u see him somewhere act as if he isnt there and put a big smile so u wount seems nervous or something like that make him feeel sorry that he acted like that with u ..
there is a great person waiting for u out there so ignore his presence ..
Goood Luck
2007-01-11 16:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Non_SEnse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE-ON! I know you feel bad from the lies, and rejection, who wouldn't? Everyone would-believe me! But save yourself a whole lot of heart ache, and giving the two of them any satisfaction-and just move on. Most of all, consider yourself lucky you found out he was nothing but a deceitful piece of crap, and you deserve way better! Thank your lucky stars!!!!! Once a cheater-normally always a cheater!!!!
2007-01-11 16:54:24 · answer #11 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋