2007-01-11 08:31:11 · 27 answers · asked by Michael L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yesterday. If you loved her, be glad you had all those years together. All things end, be glad that you shared all those years
with her. And if she was any lady at all, she would want to to be happy. We were evolved to be partnered, that's just the way it is.... that's the way evolution made us. All of us suffer loss... but, hon, life is for the living. Find a nice lady on the internet -- Yahoo Personals, Match.com. If you are a neat guy, there is a lady for you there (along with a few nut cases, but hey, those are next to you in church too) Just one hint. If you do not have a killer smile, get one from the best cosmetic dentist in your area. You probably aren't 20 anymore and your teeth probably show it. Beautiful teeth radiate health, and healthy is sexy.
2007-01-11 09:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really comes down to if you are ready to start dating again. There is no set limit on waiting. Like you must wait at least a year, or some other such nonsense.
Have you properly morned her death? Are you ready to tell prospective ladies that your wife died and later give moderate details on how? Are you emotionally ready for the start of a new romantic relationship? Etc.
2007-01-11 18:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can estimate a time for you. Everyones mourning time and healing is different. There is also much to be considered on your emotional status in how you would react in a new relationship or the decisions you may make. Take your time. If it feels wrong...generally it still IS wrong for you. Be sure you are on the healing side of grief before you do something you will regret later. If you still are grieving, you won't mean to, but you will wind up judging and measuring up anyone you plan to date against your spouse. That is never a fair thing to do. Think a lot more about this.
2007-01-11 16:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by peacemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel ready, then that's the time to go out again.
You can't bring her back and I don't think you should be expected to waste your life here on earth. I'm sure your wife would want you to be happy again and if going out as soon as possible helps, then I say go for it!! I had a father-in-law that just didn't want to be alone and why would anyone want someone to be lonely. Sorry for your lose but remember, you only going around once, so make the best of it.
2007-01-11 16:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have been though a very traumatic time i am sorry to hear this hun. In answer to your question i think it should be when your ready but not before. I know at the moment you probably feel lonely but be careful here because being with someone else may make the grieving process worse because you will always compare her to your wife Good luck hun:)
2007-01-11 16:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by boopie240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation. Each person is different, and there is no set time to greave. I remarried within the same year my first wife died. One of my daughters said her mother picked the woman I married. Nice Huh? Just because I married again, I still have my first wife in my heart and mind. My second wife knows this and says it's OK.
2007-01-11 17:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by canbarra 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 'going out' - i think you mean dating someone else. I think it's a personal decision and you would know when you are ready. You can always go out with people and meet people as friends, and when you are mentally ready to move to the next level, your mind should tell you that 'it is time'. Just be careful not to rush into anything, when my father passed away, my mother re-married quite soon (she was in denial and rushed into it) and that marriage did not last even 1 year.
But having friends and going out may help lift your spirits and aid with the 'healing' process.
2007-01-11 17:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by sunnydayz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The psychological books say to wait 2 years before making another commitment after the loss of a spouse. But in the end, you have to live with yourself. So, when you're ready to move on, and say goodbye to that part of your life, then you're ready to date.
2007-01-11 16:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. When you feel that your ready to move on and find love again, then go ahead. Just make sure that you have taken time to grief and get your life back in order because you do not need the new person to come into your life and be reminded of her. In some cases some people are never ready to move on. it all depends on you.
2007-01-11 16:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can give time frames, but in truth only the widowed person will know. Many people feel that another romance would be like cheating. Many are healed by moving on. It is totally up to the person that is grieving. Nobody else can answer that one for you. If you are in that situation, good luck and God bless!
2007-01-11 16:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋