Well I was with a guy for 2 yrs... then we broke up a year ago and it took me a while to get over him... other guys asked me out but i didnt like them or wasnt ready. I also like a guy friend of mine... but i know i cant have him. The thing is, i really want a boyfriend now. My life is fun, i have lots of friends but i want to find that special person. How can I meet guys?
2007-01-11 08:16:29 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Im 17... i have tried dating guys, but honestly felt nothing for any of them... not even attraction. Yes I know I need to meet guys in the real world, online stuff is freaky. Just dunno where to go to meet them.
2007-01-11 08:22:46 · update #1
*How did you meet HIM? Seemed to be one method that worked.
*If you are a young adult, I hear that libraries are great places to meet men-- much underrated too. Share a table with a guy who looks like someone you would like to talk to. The guy in the library probably knows how to read and might have some interesting conversation to start the friendship up. Do you?
*All the usual trashy places are filled with men leering and drooling to meet lonely and vulnerable young women-- that includes the dating sites on-line... just a cautionary note
*Take another look at your friends' brothers, your old 'guy friends' from years past, your friends' (genuinely) ex-boyfriends-- any of them have seeds of friendship with you that are worth cultivating?
*Join clubs and interest groups, real and online, where you genuinely have a passionate interest, gift, talent, background... you will attract guys with similar interests, gifts, etc.
*Take the time to really get to know YOU... you haven't actually been out there that long on your own... I know that everyone panics if they are not paired-off, but this might be the time to get to know the kind of person you really really want to spend the rest of your life with.... a life coach could be very helpful here
*If you are anxious about stepping out of the box and meeting people outside your usual comfort zone/ circle, then you might want to try the most effective method that I know for increasing your confidence while decreasing the negative 'buzz'-- Emotional Freedom Technique. This is an easy to learn, easy to apply energy psychology protocol. You can download the "Getting Started" package for free here> http://tinyurl.com/yh5zhu
all the best!
2007-01-11 08:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position that you are in now.... I wanted sooo badly to find someone to be with... It turned out that when I quit looking I found one and it was someone I was friends with for 10 years. We hung out all the time...I have been with him for 2 years now--
You should have a blast with the girls while you can!! Once you find a boyfriend you kinda lose touch with everyone else---UNLESS you really stay on top of hanging out with everyone...
You can meet a good guy at church. If you work in a building with other companies than scope out those guys, not the ones you work with... Also, I have a lot of friends that have met and married people from the internet~~i.e. eharmony, match.com, yahoo personals....~~Just be very careful if you do that...Tell your parents or a girlfriend where you are going if you go somewhere and give them the number of the person you are going to meet. If you live in an apartment complex you can meet guys there.... Just be careful of the bar flys and GOOD LUCK girl!!! JUST REMEMBER HAVE FUN WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND EVERYTHING ELSE WILL FALL INTO PLACE!!!♥
2007-01-11 08:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by RobbinATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice is to not do the online thing. people are really not always what they what they represent themselves to be. Yes there are sincere people out there, but very few and far between. I recommend getting involved in local activities and groups. If you have a passion for something, pursue it. Maybe join a club that has the same interests or passions. That way you may meet someone at least that has common interest with you. Even if it's church or school activities. Local theatre. etc etc.
2007-01-11 09:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are many ways for you to meet potential boyfriends. You could go to social places or events that you would enjoy or you would want your boyfriend to be interested in, and then meet new people at those places. A good thing to remember is to get out and meet new people, going with a group of friends may help as well. It may seem tough at first but you will have to try and be patient in finding a partner who you can honestly connect with. You could get current friends to introduce you to single guys who they might know. Attempt to find people who share some kind of common interest with you (i.e. you like music, meet people at concerts). IT is possible to find romantic interests online as well. There are dating services, chatrooms, and websites like myspace, in which you can meet guys. Of course be careful in however you go about meeting new people. Also remember to be honest and up front about things, you don't want to start a possible relationship with deceit.
Since you have an interest in this 'guy friend' of yours, you may want to find someone who has a similar personality.
All in all you just need to get out and go forward with your life, eventually someone will come along. Keep an eye out for a special someone but to focus all your attention on the search. Life can be fickle at times, you could be searching and searching for a long time and not have any luck, but when you least expect it, that’s when a new guy may come along.
…and trust me, you are certainly not the only one who is having trouble finding a special someone.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 08:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by kevin O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with an online connection since your already on and keep the distance. Get to know them on the computer when you have time, then when your sure you ready to give it a go, meet in person for a night on the town.
Myspace
yahoo personals
ask one of your lady friends to introduce you to some new.
2007-01-11 08:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Tai_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be happy with your life, happy with yourself, and happy being single, before you can be happy with someone else. If you are desperate and want someone right now than you might end up settling with someone, anyone, just to be with someone. Try making new friends, but concentrate on yourself, doing things you wouldn't have the freedom to do if you were with someone, enjoy being single while you can. Be yourself, be fun, upbeat and friendly, and you are sure to be noticed by the right guy evenually. Maybe not as soon as you'd like, but there will be a better chance he's good for you than if you just grab at the first guy who's around.
2007-01-11 08:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what most of your friends may tell you. The right guy will come along ... just be patient. Guys are usually turned off by girls that seem to be desparete anyway.
Perhaps you can take a trip, take some girl friends out of town or visit a friends family that lives a far ... the new environments may change your frame of mind.
2007-01-11 08:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by simply_made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl enjoy your single life. Just think about all the freedom you have. You can do what you want regardless of anyone's opinion( I'm talking about boyfriends). Unless you old don't worry about. Wait for the opportunity will present itself. Trust me I know. I was with a guy for a lil over a yr & I've been single for almost a yr & I enjoy it!
2007-01-11 08:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by pkbabe87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard some good things about eharmony.com and match.com if you are into religion some good religious dating services there. Just go to places that you like to go to and ask questions if someone interests you physically. If you enjoy swimming or sports, aerobics... go to a gym and talk to some of the guys ask for help. If you enjoy movies or books go to blockbuster or barnes and noble or the library and ask a guy which is a good horror movie talk to him and get his number. Then call him up when you are gonna watch it and say I don't think I can watch this alone.
2007-01-11 08:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, the right guy will find his way into your life. You sound young. Just enjoy your life.
Say yes to some of those guys that ask you out. But don't settle for the first one that is interested in you.
2007-01-11 08:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋