Im totally happy in my marriage..but the one thing that is going on that I cant stand is my husbands main priority is work, and money. Like the other day I asked him.."where do you see your self in 10 yrs" and he responded with "makin lots of money"
and that was it.
Am I wrong for hoping that he would of included me and the kids and not just money?
2007-01-11 08:14:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all pooh Im not happy in my marriage because he has money..how superficial is that? I wouldnt care if we lived in a box
2007-01-11 08:39:14 · update #1
my wife and I just had this conversation kinda. but she made me think by asking me a question during the conversation. Do you love us? I said of course and thats when it hit me.
I got so involved with work and paying the bill thats all I was doing was working and paying bills. We worked out a 10 year budget now I work only 50 hours a week and have weekends just for us. verses 80+ hourse and never a weekend with the family. best thing I ever did. Maybe he just isn't smelling the roses right now. give him a wake up call conversation and see if he comes around
2007-01-11 08:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by mrlyricman_2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Men are goal minded and they think of financial sucess as life sucess. Men's role in society is to be a provider and they go to the rat race of work competing with others to achieve that level of sucess that would make him a better provider for YOU.
After he has already chase you and conquer you, he doesn't need to that anymore (because he doesn;t have to compete with other potential suitors) and therefore his goals are at work and not in his personal life because he has "already achieved that".
Luckily for you, eventually, men get tired of the rat race and will realize that family comes first. That will take a few years, but it will happen.
Good luck
2007-01-11 16:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're reading too much into this. Perhaps you should have asked "where do you see us in 10yrs?" He probably just assumes you and the kids will be there - being supported by his "lots of money". You said you're totally happy - leave it at that.
2007-01-11 16:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you took it wrong. He wants you and the kids to be a prt of his life, he just wants to be able to provide well for you is all he was saying. Be glad you have a man that will work, and provide! hang on to that man.....he is a rare breed!
2007-01-11 16:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had choose a such name for yourself it speaks by itself, so why you get surprised by his answer? He probably does exactly what you want from him. Just continue to be happy and don't ask him questions which belongs to different life and simple people.
2007-01-12 02:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your name is Pretty Princess.
Why?
Does your husband spend lots of money on you?
Maybe there is a reason he feels he needs to make a lot of money.
2007-01-11 16:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what do you think he's working so hard for? I would just be thankful, if he was'nt like that you probaly would'nt be saying " I'm totally happy in my marriage."
2007-01-11 16:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by pooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should have asked
"Where do you see US in ten years?"
Perhaps you would have gotten a more satisfactory answer.
2007-01-11 16:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Aurora 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to get a life of your own outside of your marriage
2007-01-11 19:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋