I notice that 90% of women in their 40s speak ill of men, even those who smile in their husbands' faces and play the "perfect wife" part? I'm going through a divorce but I don't want to hate all men.
2007-01-11 08:08:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We're not ALL bad......just a few are really, and they give the rest of us a bad name. My ex hated all men...well, that's what she used to tell me before she moved in with one while married to me, but honestly, there's some great guys out there that just want to be loved....and will love you back real good! Don't hate ALL men....just the bad ones. A good one is the best thing, since sliced bread!!
2007-01-11 08:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, reading some of the ignorance here is shocking.
To condmn an entire gender with such broad sweeping statements is truly ignorant and ugly. An ignorant mind is like a room full of junk, nothing of value can enter.
Men and women are different and I love those differences. Men can be good friends and men have a lot of good qualities. Women have a lot of wonderful qualities some of which you don't often find in men. But life is all about differences. Different doesn't mean better or worse.
If you keep an open mind, you'll see the ways that we men are wonderful in our own way. We're different from women but that is not a bad thing. Some of our differences are frustrating while others are amusing. With the right attitude, you don't have to hate us.
I think there is a tendency to become more negative as we age. As we get older, we get more cynical. But it doesn't have to be that way.
What you're describing is negativity and cynicism. It's not a good way to live and it's not very open-minded. Keep an open mind.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through a divorce. My heart goes out to you. I've supported many a friend through divorce and I know how terrible it can be. Keep your good humor to the last and don't let a divorce ruin the way you think about nearly half the world's population.
My guess is that you have nothing to worry about. You don't want to hate men and you're trying to understand why some women do. You sound thoughtful enough to question this age old negativity. I doubt you'll end up falling into it.
Women in their 40's are still wonderful. Don't allow yourself to get cynical and you will not end up like that 90% (I doubt it's really 90%) you describe. I don't even know you but I have faith in you!
Good luck.
2007-01-11 08:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The women have been jilted or damaged by men in the past. Men are naturally pigs, but there are the few wise ones that realize this and over come it. Don’t classify all men the same, but be wary and cautious when starting new relationships.
Men and women think totally differently. It takes some learning on the part of both to understand the complexities of a union. Love is friendship on fire. Build friendships first and the rest becomes far sweeter.
I wish you the best.
2007-01-11 08:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are bad, and I am in my 40s, and a single parent, and still looking for my mate. My ex, lives with her boyfriend with no responsibilities, I have the kids so I have all the responsibilities, and I don't mind, they are better off with me anyway, but still at times I miss having a mate, and my daughters hate seeing me alone. I know the percentage is a lot higher with bad men than bad women, but I still have faith, that I will find someone.
2007-01-11 08:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being 40 has anything to do with how you feel about men. I think its about the experiences that you have had with some of them. I'm in my 40s and I don't hate all men.
2007-01-11 08:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women keep their bitterness in side and never communicate it then it eats them up and hate all men just because of one thing that one idiot man did to them. Yes men are jerks but I am a man and I am the exception (Somewhat). There are many good men outr there some women pant them as bad. I would think it all stems from poor communication from both parties.
2007-01-11 08:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that. I am 41 and divorced 18 months and I LOVE men. I have met some of the lovliest guys since my divorce - smart, educated, gentle, compassionate, good looking. I am constantly amazed by men and the things they do. Of course, I stay away from the jerks, but men in general are FANTASTIC!
2007-01-11 08:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive hated men since my mid twenties. Always realized they were good for nothing selfish *ssholes. All the most vile and destructive things done in this world are done by men. The 10% of women who dont speak bad about men are probably clueless women who dont even have the first clue of what men are capable of.
2007-01-11 08:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to hate all men, remember there is good and bad in every one, do you hate a whole group of people because of there nationalities? remember do not judge all men by the actions of a few.
2007-01-11 08:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by tony rome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to be 'standard' in order to have something to talk about and to gather attention as well as feeling that you're out to pasture at 40... there are many guys still interested in a quality woman even if she is in her 40's.. I would be...
2007-01-11 08:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋