When you were pregnant did you ever feel left out?

Question

Like when your friends would go out to bars or do something and not include you?

Answer 1

No, I didn't really feel left out. I don't drink or smoke so I didn't think i was missing out.

Now that my son is here, I am more limited than when i was pregnant. I still dont feel left out, because it was a choice I made to have my son.

You can still go and do when your pregnant, you just can't drink and things.

Answer 2

I had a best friend that I used to party with and while I was pregnant I introduced her to another friend of mine. They became close friends and they often left me out of the bar scene because they knew I couldn't drink. Finally I approached them and reminded them that I was preganant, not dead! I was still able to come out and join in the chatter if they would like. They apologized but things staye the same. They had more fun with each other and when I am not drinking I don't much enjoy the bar scene anyways! Now she is a mother and I wonder if she went through the same thing she put me through?

Answer 3

Of course!!! My husband and I got pregnant shortly after I graduated from college. Most of my friends were still in college...talk about being left out! I was in a completely different galaxy than them!!!

It is hard. I still feel left out (and sometimes bitter)....but in a couple months I know I'll have something more incredible than any nights at the bar are worth. But it's hard to see that when your at home pregnant - can't smoke, can't drink, can't have fun....and you know your friends are out having a blast without a responsibility in the world!

I think the feeling gets better though...It bothered me a lot in the beginning, and it bothers me less and less with each passing month.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

With my first two, yes, and not the bar thing cause I don't drink. My oldest was born in Feb, my sec in March and my husband, sil, bil and a bunch of our friends went skiing and for obvious reasons, I couldn't go. With our youngest I didn't feel the left out thing, maybe because my sil and two younger sisters were prego at the same time (2 in March, 1 in June and 1 in Nov) so we did a lot of stuff together.

Answer 5

Yes, I feel left out sometimes and I think those feelings are magnified by the hormones! Remind your friends of the thing you can still do and take it upon yourself to set up some of the outings. Also, try to make friends with other pregnant people; it's nice to have friends who understand what you're going through. Your non-pregnant friends probably aren't try to be mean, it's just really strange for them.

Answer 6

Yes I felt that way! I think everyone does to some point. It did not bother me that I couldn't drink or smoke, but it did bother me that everyone thought that just because I was pregnant I would not want to do anything or go anywhere... Most of the time I did not want to do the things they were doing, but I would have loved for them to at least ask. Once I told them that, they felt really bad... Now one of my best friends is pg and she said she understands now. She is one of the last to have a baby so it is a little different for her... we are all home now with our kids so she is not missing out on what we did.

Answer 7

Just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you have to be left out. Of course you cannot go to bars and drink, but you can invite your friends over to your place and play cards or just hand out, they can drink and you can have non-alcoholic drinks. You can even get the Margarita or Pina Colada mix without the alcohol and make yourself some fruity little drinks. Have fun, your pregnant not dying!

Answer 8

at the beganing it did, but after a while, specally when you see your belly growing and have ultrasounds done, you stop careing really, haveing a baby is way better then going to a bar and getting drunk, think of all the memorys with your baby that you will accually remember because you will be sober, compared to going and getting drunk and prolly not remembering what you did the next day. i am 22 and personally i have never been a big fan of drinking, so when i got pregnant it was SO easy for me to not even think about it. good luck, it gets better, well kind of hehe, aside from all the aches and pains :)

it does make it easyer that my husband doesnt really drink either. (hes almost 25) its by choice of ours not religous reasons or underage or anything.

Answer 9

Definitely. I couldn't drink, so I was left out of anything that had to do with that, but this was the worst....at Christmas my family had assured me that the coming baby (I wasn't due until July) would have her own category for gifts. I didn't ask about it, it was just offered as an answer to an unasked question. However, when Christmas came, I think I might have gotten one gift that was actually for me...everything else was for or about the baby! Get used to it....it doesn't get better, although, when you hold that little one, it won't matter anymore! Good luck!

Answer 10

of course you feel a little left out. i got prego during the summer so i could't jet ski, or ride a roller coaster or anything. good friends would also try to think of things that you can all do. my hubby was great about that. we went to play pool and went bowling, and u can still go to the bar, just don't drink. focus on having a good time with them, rather than feeling like u can't do anything with them. and don't forget, they are gonna feel left out when u have the baby when your too busy for them at first. just ask them to support you and you should be fine!