i am an ordinary woman and i fear i lose his love , wht is yr tip , plz help
2007-01-11 07:48:34 · 12 answers · asked by Dream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've met four ladies in person, that I met on the internet. I'll tell you right now, ALL four exceeded anything I could have imagined. All were exactly what they said they were, looked like they said they looked, and were a real delight to get to know. In fact, the last lady, by far the best one, is one of my favorite people in the world, even today. Be yourself, and go meet them(as long as you feel safe). If not, then DON"T!
2007-01-11 07:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a public place. Be safe. Be confident.
We are all ordinary people. There is nothing wrong with that. Those who are not "ordinary" are often egotistical and arrogant. So I think ordinary is a good thing.
If you've lied to this person about who you are and what you look like then don't bother meeting him. You're off on the wrong foot and it's all fake anyway. That or come clean first on line and see if there is still any interest.
If he is your net love, how can you lose love? If you've been honest about who you are then I don't see how you would lose his love (as you say). I'm not sure I'm all that convinced of love between two people who've only talked on line. Maybe you should start with a phone call?
We're all ordinary people and at the same time, none of us is ordinary so you're in good company.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 16:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done my share of online dating...my job does not allow much social time. Yes, it can be a bit nervous meeting the first time, but if you get along on the phone, most likely at least you will be fine in person. Take the pressure off of the "date" and go in with the attitude that you are meeting a friend.
Think of the online dating as being just another medium in a new century. No different than cell phones and video conference calls really.
Meet some place simple and public...coffee always works. Avoid alcohol as it impairs judgement. Also fancy restaurants are nice, but I never expect a blind date to foot a big bill, it seems awkward.
Go get your nails or hair done before...it will make you feel good about yourself. Wear a simple outfit that expresses yoru personality...
Chances are he will be nervous too.
2007-01-11 16:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is forget all about the idea that there is a "love" there. There is not. You two have never met, and despite all the silly things you may have said to one another online, you are practically strangers. Keep your own safety in mind, meet in a public place, and don't go in with the expectation that you're going to have a coffee and then go straight to city hall to take out your marriage licence. Go with the mindset of "OK, I will meet this person and see if maybe he will turn out to be someone I'd want to be friends with." Then see what develops from there.
2007-01-11 15:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, he is probably just as scared of meeting you as you are of him. Just make your first meeting in a wide open public place as a restaurant. If you havent given your address, just tell him youd feel better meeting him there, he will understand. This is advised to prevent future trouble just in case this guy is one of the strange ones on the computer. In public hes less likely to try something and you can always walk away in case it doesnt work out and he wont know where you live. This is just playing it safe since you really know nothing about this guy. If the first meeting goes good then take it from there. Just please be careful and have a good time
2007-01-11 15:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have told the truth, you have nothing to be afraid of. The trouble is that "net love" is a fantasy played by two people and only very rarely comes to any good conclusion. I think that you should look for men who are real and have a REAL relationship.
2007-01-11 16:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is the only way to find out if you two really have anything or not. I suppose it is a big risk, because if it doesnt go well, you are left empty handed. But isnt it time to know for sure? Good luck! It may be the best day of your life!
2007-01-11 15:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by shannon d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send in a midget to survey the area first, LOL
2007-01-11 15:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone in real life. You may be the one who is disappointed in the end if you don't start dating in reality.
2007-01-11 15:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Tink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boost your confidence and have a make over.
2007-01-11 15:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋