My wife has decided that she doesn't want to be married to me anymore. She''s going through something in her life that I can't fix so I'm doing everything I can to try to help her. She says she want to be by herself so when I try to make that happen she gets angry. This is a mutual agreement and neithe rone of us is angry but she starts to act mean and tells her families all kinds of lies about me. I assume she is trying to make me mad enough to just up and leave so she can either be the victim or blame me for the death of our marriage. I'm pretty calm and collective but I have 2 boys involved from a previous relationship and she's starting to really be mean (not physically) to them to try to get to me. I have no where to go and no money and all we have is one car so we're stuck.She can't make up her mind if she wants me or not and it's tearing me up.One minute she wants me to leave and the next she wants to snuggle with me. I don't deserve this. HELP!!!
2007-01-11 07:47:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk with her family and explain what's going on. Ask if they have any ideas of what might be happening,,,,,,maybe she's talked to them. It's not fair for her to treat your boys or you the way that she is. Talk with her and see what she really wants deep in her heart. Maybe couple counseling would help.
Good luck. I hope you have the life you want for you and your boys.
2007-01-11 07:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered yourself, dear, you do not deserve this, nor do your children. Forget finances, you have children, you can get some help until you get on your feet..She may be having some deep physcologial problems, but it's up to her to get some help, like you said, you can't fix her! It's easier said than done, but start planning your getaway!
2007-01-11 15:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by janet r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not have any money? Are you not employed? Is she the one taking care of the finances? If so, and she may be going through the change, better get yourself out there and get a job.
2007-01-11 15:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, it sounds like to me that there is something else going on. I really would need more information to tell my opinion. What is she going through? Have you sat down ad tried to talk to her? How long have you been married? How long has she been going through this?
2007-01-11 15:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by mstuffyakim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought was, shes upset at you and says she wants you to leave, but really she wants you to be there for her. She doesnt want you to give up on her and the marriage just becuase she asks you to leave. I think she wants you to fight for her. And your not ,so shes mad and hurt. If you love her stick by her and work it out. Dont give up so easily.
2007-01-11 15:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and get out any way you can.
Don't worry about maintaining good relations with your in-laws. You can't.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 15:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋