I have been at this job for almost a year, I work at an office with 2 other women. One is my boss, one is a co-worker. (they are of course friends) I am the newbie, and can do nothing right. No matter how hard I try, or how much extra I take care of I am always the scape goat for mistakes. Not that I don't ever make mistakes but my mistakes are treated differently. I am in the bathroom at least once a week in tears. I'm not sure how much more I can take. It is affecting my life outside the office, I'm so drained when I get home I just want to collapse. And I really have no one to talk to because its just the 3 of us here. Outside this office, I know very few people in the company.
2007-01-11 07:17:41 · 9 answers · asked by greeneyesdreamsoft 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
First and foremost there is nothing wrong with finding a new job. Secondly kill them with kindness! Thirdly when you approached with any mistake your fault or not. accept responsibility for it. apologize and ask what you can do to correct it, what you can do to make sure that it will not happen again. Make sure that you seem eager to correct the problem. and re assure your boss that you will do your best to make sure that it does not happen again.
And Last but not least Toughen up!
Who cares how they treat you you just work with them.
You have control over who can and cannot hurt you in life. If you don't give them the power to hurt your feeling then they cant.
Besides your probably allot prettier than them and they are just jealous!
2007-01-11 07:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by nick w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT TO FEAR! Many of us as "newbies" go thru the scapegoat crap. EVERYONE has been there. You may want to point out to your coworkers that you appreciate some constructive criticism on mistakes made - constantly blaming you does not help. Point out that everyone makes mistakes and most important STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If you never say anything - they will continue the course. Once they discover that you will stand up to their criticism the abuse should stop. Most important, network with other people in the company and make it a point that the people you work with know that you know others in key positions that sometimes makes your life easier- To make your life easier, when mistakes are caught - have your "boss" review with you to get on track - it is that persons responsibility that you are trained properly and above all - document any abuse you suffer at their hands, and it is important to have direction on your tasks. The more you ask - the more they'll back off. If all else fails, sometimes you just have to leave, but my stance is that I don't let anyone rule my life but me, don't let emotions get in the way - take a breath and jump into life ! ! ! ! ! Good Luck!
2007-01-11 07:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is hard being the new person anywhere. I would suggest if you have not already done so, you try to be friendly to both coworker and boss. I am sure you have tried a lot of things already, so just remember, people are mean to others because there is something lacking in them. Feel sorry for them. If you have been there a year, and are very unhappy, start looking for another job. Life is too short, and there are too many jobs out there just waiting for you.
2007-01-11 07:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if this job is worth it to you. Look at what it is doing to you emotionally. Maybe it's time to send out some resumes and make some calls. You spend most of your waking hours at your job, so you should find a place that you can at least feel comfortable and productive. If you want to stay, then you are going to have to distance your feelings from your job which is hard to do. Go in, do the best you can and then leave your work at work. It is indeed easier said than done, but with effort can be accomplished. Good luck!
2007-01-11 07:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for a new job. Quit, if you are able. If not definately start sending out resumes.
And be sure to tell your bosses next upper person if you feel comftorable. But I really think you should get out of there. Jobs suck and people back stab and dont get along, but you should not be in tears once a week.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 07:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Hey girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there fast, its not healthy for a person to be in constant survival mode...You didnt mention the size of the company, if its a pretty large company you can probably move to another department...I would recommend speaking to the HR department, but before you do start a log of everything they say to you which you find offensive..if they yell at you for a mistake you didn't do and are sure you didn't do, write it down, WRITE everything that comes to mind down including DATE AND TIMES...that way when you go to HR you are armed with proof...if the company sees all the distress your in and does nothing move on. your health is not worth it...HANG IN THERE.
2007-01-11 07:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is going through a similar situation. She's a nurse and her co-workers treat her like crap. She's becomed distant and extremely depressed. My advice to you is to not let these two women treat you like theyre tool. Demand respect no matter how hostile the situation gets. Theyre trying to intimidate you, and if you let them see you down it'll only give them more power. So just hold on there lovely. Use your tough wit, and prove those b*tches wrong.
2007-01-11 07:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lester Copafeel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boss be up front. You will never no what she will say. If that does not work find another job.
2007-01-11 08:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that job sucks if my boss or someone there was liek that to me i would shoot them in the head who cares you go there for the money forget them lol
2007-01-11 07:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋