He hates crouds and doesn't like to go out or to do anything but stay indoors and watch tv or play video games and then claims that he's bored all day. We used to play board games but he sucks all the fun out of the game by taking everything too seriously. The only time I feel like we get any quality time is after he turns off the tv to go to bed and then he complains because I talk to him and keep him up. It's the only time I get his undivided attention. The rest of the time his eyes are glossed over watching fickering images.
2007-01-11 07:17:21 · 15 answers · asked by Brandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like the man I married. He used this as a form of excaping reality. I could do or say almost anything to him and he wouldn't notice, and my friends didn't like him because he wouldn't talk to anyone. They told me to leave him.
If you want a relationship with this man tell him straight up that it's bothering you. If you don't it will only get worse. Not telling my man lead to a break up, time away from each other, and serious thinking. He did want to try, but didn't know where to start.
Tell him that you want to spend time with him. Playing games he enjoys him, will help you connect, or sit down and watch him play and comment on it.
Let him know what you want, if he seriously wants the relationship he will try. Maybe, you could start out by going to the store with him, don't shop, just talk while he's looking at a new game or something. Ask him about the game and so on. He's talking in public, so there is no fear of that.
It's a gradual process.
DON"T give him an ultimatum, you or the games, because he will choose the games.
If he doesn't want to try go your separate ways, if you have been together long enough he'll come begging you back.
It took about a year and a half for us to get things right, but we had to both work at it. We still have things we don't agree upon (with the gameing). We have been to gether since 2002. He now admits he had problems then and we both made it thruogh.
2007-01-11 07:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shound like a blast to be around! Someday you will get sick of being the invisible person and move on. Alot of people don't like crowds-no problem, but there are small restaurants, walks in the woods, fishing, etc...just sitting around the house all day, and then complaining you're bored? He's a lump.
2007-01-11 07:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- you need to understand that we are individuals 2-when we are dealing with the human kind we are dealing with emotions too! 3-before to share your life with somebody you have the right of to know the most of that person 4- if you want or wish to keep going that relation,you need an expertise to analyze him and you so both of you will understand one each other( the most of the time we carry with past experiences that destroy or affect our present).
2007-01-11 07:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by ticoguana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your guy, 12?
Sounds like he has a real childish thing going there. I hate crowds too but I have a phobia about crowds but it still doesn't keep me from going out and having fun, it only keeps me from going to concerts and things of that nature.
You really need to talk to him on a level basis and show him what he's doing to your (both) lives. If he doesn't straighten up, consider dumping him but give him the benefit of the doubt and try to keep him FIRST.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 07:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My ex-boyfriend become precisely like this. He never went out, he lost his buddies, all he did become take a seat interior his room to play international of Warcraft. He could choose video games over me, he could make plans with me and then blow me off for international of Warcraft. and then I went to college and we grew to become a LD relationship. human beings like this from my adventure, do no longer substitute. make beneficial that's quite what you want out of a relationship. i ultimately had to place my foot down and say look its me or your video games. thankfully for me, he chosen video games. i could no longer stand being in that relationship any greater. Why do you want to look ahead to someone to return around? the guy you're in a relationship with ought to placed the comparable volume of attempt into the relationship as you're. we could say you adult males do circulate in jointly, could that make you happy? could you like being interior the comparable abode with a guy that does no longer something yet play video games and would not circulate out? i'm beneficial you like going out along with your human beings and having exciting, top?
2016-12-12 09:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by fette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he indeed is a dull ***...maybe hes afraid of any kind of contact, intervene among other human beings can be a pretty difficult task for some people...maybe he has some personal problems unsolved so...many things can be behind this, try to talk to him?
2007-01-11 07:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe u should leave him
my ex hated going out in public...as in...he liked to go to ONE SPOT with friends and sometimes he would go out to parties
in a blue moon he would go out in public
why...i still have no clue...but the point is...
obviously u r trying to adjust to fit his lifestyle,
but if he can't even try to put a little effort into changing his lifestyle to make u happy,
u're probably better off going for someone else
good luck
xao:)
2007-01-11 07:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps it is time to call an end to the relationship and see what he does or even if he notices... :D
2007-01-11 07:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guess what girl? It's time to find a new man that respects you and wants to make you happy. Case closed.
2007-01-11 07:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by A T 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How old is he? and old are you?Sounds like a boring relationship if he is'nt working with you on this part then time to move on does he even work? if not then move on.
2007-01-11 07:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by tino 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋