wife can't have an orgasm with any sort of penetration (not to be graphic). so ya, she only has clitoral orgasms. she says it feels good when we have intercourse but it doesn't seem to escalate at all for her. any advice?
2007-01-11 07:04:30 · 19 answers · asked by helplesshusband 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There are many women who cannot orgasm by means of penetration. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her. Some women are just more sensitive than others. Everyone is different. It probably does feel good when you have sex and that may be satisfying to her. I wouldn't worry about it, it's just the way her body is! Just keep having sex and enjoy it!
2007-01-11 07:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with her. I'm the same way, as are the majority of women. Don't stress over something that isn't broken and don't let her stress over it..... or else she might be unable to have ANY orgasm (because her mind will mess things up). A woman's mind is the major factor if she can have an orgasm - she needs to be feeling good about her beautiful self, gooda about the person she's having sex with, and nonstressed. Leave well enough be. She enjoys sex and can have an orgasm. She's perfectly healthy. Just sit back and enjoy what you two have. Get out and try new things like swinging or new toys or porn if you want. But don't try to fix something that's not broken and please don't let her think there's anything wrong with her :)
2007-01-11 07:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by deepvioletfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way and I havent had an orgasim while having sex in a long time and I am getting pretty bored. I dont even really want to have sex anymore. To keep your wife from feeling this way too you need to try diffrent ways to stimulate her clitoras.
I know when Im ontop in a kneeling position and kind of move back and forth I have an orgasim. You should also tell her to play with her pussy while your in the doggy style position so she can do it her self after all she knows her body best. when ever a guy tells me to do that the words turn me on sooo much. If shes shy about doing that just say it then move her hand to that area and tell her to do it again I like it when Im told "play with your pussy baby" I hope this helps! You dont want her to get bored and look somewhere else for excitement.
2007-01-11 07:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow. Not all women can orgasm from intercourse. It doesn't mean we don't like it and enjoy it just as much. Clitoral stimulation is all it takes for some of us. Don't worry about it just take care of her first and everything will be OK.
2007-01-11 07:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by tiffantre 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that it's actually very uncommon for a woman to have an orgasm with penetration alone. I myself can't! The best way around this would be to have her on top (straddle) that way she can control the speed, intensity, etc. Or, if you go doggie style, you could penetrate her while at the same time stimulating her clitoris from behind. Good luck!
2007-01-11 07:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by vrrygood 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your wife is fine with just clit orgasms then just keep doing that while you are penetrating. that way both of you get what you want. if that isn't ok then a sex therapist or you regualr doctor might be able to help. sometimes this is cause by not being able to relax and the nerves on the inside are not as sensitive. they have creams and techniques that can also help with this.
2007-01-11 07:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find there is a large percentage of women who only orgasm with clitoral stimulation. Nothing wrong with her or you! Just the way she is built!
2007-01-11 07:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad for what you have. Most women don't orgasm....it is simply not as important for us as it is for you men. We can love sex, but still don't "need" to orgasm. Also, many girls fake orgasm. Is that what you want? She may do that if you put so much pressure on the issue. Be happy she enjoys what she's got.
2007-01-11 07:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her more foreplay, (emotional as well as physical). Make her feel beautiful inside as well as outside. Create an ambiance before you head to the bedroom. After you've turned her on emotionally and made love to her mind, start your physical foreplay. Take it slow. Undress her slowly while dancing with her. The more foreplay, the more aroused she'll be, and the better the orgasm for her.
2007-01-11 07:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend with the same issue,she can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation.you can always go to a doctor there are shots that make the g-spot more sensitive if that is her problem.
2007-01-11 07:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Small_And_Mighty 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋