I love my boss, but I have come to a stand-still in the company he runs. Since there are limited growth oppurtunities I have been casually looking around for what else is out there and have come across a very promising position. I now feel horrible because I've been smiling and happy to my boss's face. He feels secure in the knowledge that he has someone to fill this important role in the company, but if I do leave there is no one to step up and take over. It's a small company and I hold the bookkeeping/Office manager position so if I leave it will negatively affect the overall company. If I stay I will continue to feel unsatisfied. How should I handle this situation if I get the job? Any advice to overcome the feelings of guilt? Am I being backhanded? Help!
2007-01-11 07:02:32 · 10 answers · asked by luvbean_xo 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You should never feel guilty about doing something to improve your financial situation or about positioning yourself for upward movement in a company. If he truly respects you as a person, he will understand and be happy for you as well. Just give him some notice if you can, once you know you have the other job. The other employer should be flexible and let you work out a notice.
2007-01-11 07:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple of answers. Just as a company should not allow an employee to hold them hostage, an employee should not allow a company to hold them hostage. That would be for any reason, it's just business.
If the current company you work for relies on your position that much, be honest, could take the pressure if you, for example, became ill and couldn't work or moved, much the same as your currently thinking.
If you have a good relationship I would suggest trying honesty. Tell the owner you want to do better but don't want to make things take a down turn for the company. The bosses reaction should tell you how good the relationship is.
Ultimately, your life, your decision. Most companies wouldn't have a problem laying you off if things get bad.... Book keepers don't always know everything that goes on in a business!
2007-01-11 15:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same situation in August. If you have to leave, you have to leave. The company will find a way to keep going. You shouldnt feel guilty because if you are THAT important to the company that you feel bad about leaving, they should be paying you plenty, because they consider you that important. If they arent paying you that much, maybe they dont need you that badly. I left my other job, and they are doing fine without me, and I am making much more money now. Change is good sometimes.
2007-01-11 15:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Geebies100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty you have to do what is best for you. Tell your boss you are looking and might have found a career change. Offer to train someone before you leave to help out.
I recently left my job after 3 years for a much better position making 3x the money and I still felt guilty. But my old boss said she understood and we talked it out. It made leaving easier knowing that she was happy for me.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 15:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Should be Working! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past I've tried to be up front and honest in all dealings related to job hunting, and all it's ever gotten me is hosed. I would not advise you to tell your boss you're looking, because then he'll be looking for your successor, possibly before you're ready to go. If you really like the company you're in, then see if your new employer will let you give a month or two months' notice instead of the standard 2 weeks, and then offer to help your boss find and train your successor.
2007-01-11 15:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by thunderpigeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give two weeks notice and train someone for your position before you leave. Your boss has always known that it would be hard to replace you when you left. He will probably try to give you more money if you are as valuable as you think you are. This is not backhanded and you should not feel guilty. You are trying to better yourself and your boss should undersand that.
2007-01-11 15:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know as soon as possible and tell him you will give him a months notice as apposed to two weeks. If he is as nice and professional as you say then he would be happy for you that you are moving up. Also, if the other job doesn't work out, then you left him in good graces and he would more than likely hire you back.
2007-01-11 15:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by That Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to do what is best for you. However, if you feel such a connection to the company, talk to your boss about your concerns. If he is not able to do anything more for you, then at least you have cleared your mind by speaking openly with your boss about it.
2007-01-11 15:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully, no one is irreplaceable, and it is rare for many people to leave a job without leaving their employer short. but at the end of the day you have to look after yourself and your own career prospects - so i don't think you should experience any guilt at all. employers do expect people to leave, especially when they can no longer progress, so just make sure you do the best thing for you.
2007-01-11 17:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The golden rule to remember is that it's only a job. Family is forever, friends and jobs come and go. You have to think of yourself first.
2007-01-11 15:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋