I always try to be positive and helpful but sometimes I get the feeling that even those that are close to me are taking my views and feelings for granted. So What do you do when you feel that friends and family are taking advantage of your good nature ? Should I fight fire with fire?
I don't want to be come an A**hole but there comes a point when I just feel that it is the way to be cause people treat me that way.
Close to break point! Any advice...
Thanks
2007-01-11 06:50:57 · 11 answers · asked by flexin4uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes take a stand but if u have a friend who understands you ask if u are starting to be a A**hole but dont take it so far that you lose everyone you love. just take it to where you feel they get the point. because i had that then i took it to far kinda but dont make them feel guilty just tell them that you dont like it
2007-01-11 06:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to become more able to say and stick to the word NO!!!. When you feel that you may be taken advantage of explain that you are unable to help at present time. Maybe these folks are unaware of how they make you feel and it may be a good idea to inform them of your feelings and hopefully they will take a closer look at themselves and see how they have been treating you. Buy you need to show them that you have a backbone and do not want to be viewed as a doormat and live up to that afterwards. It's actually pretty easy to get caught up in this type of behaviour but it is just as easy to stop it if you believe in yourself. Be polite but firm when explaining things and best of luck.
2007-01-11 14:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, but really you should not fight fire with fire. You don't want to be like them, and you don't have to be an a55hole to stand up for yourself. You've just gotta start saying "No" to those who take you for granted. If they don't appreciate your kindness, they don't deserve it.
2007-01-11 15:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know just what u mean!!!
there r some people who will just use u...but u already know who those people r...
users are losers!!!
ok...so...it doesn't matter how cool, popular, rich, whatev u r...there r always gonna be losers who will be jealous and try and take advantage of u...
like "my" nana(exchange student)...the ****** maid is a ***** and she uses me...i am so lame sometimes!!!
but, for example, today i am just gonna go "screw u"
like she goes "make ur bed and clean ur room!!!!!!!!if u don't, the mom is gonna be really mad...AT YOU!!!!!!" and i'm not gonna do that **** cuz i know the ***** is just lying to me cuz she is a lazy sorry loser who used me etc!!!!! i hate this lady....
i think u have every right to fight fire with fire...but my rule of thumb is to never be worst to them than they are with you...keep them the worst!!!
just tell the people no and refuse or try asking them to do stuff for u...they probably won't...those who do...lose them and go hang with ur true friends:D
good luck
ps:i'm learning;D
xaoooooo
2007-01-11 15:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to learn to say NO when people ask you to do something. I used to be the same way and I finally started standing up for myself. I found out that when I stood up for myself that I was actually happier.
2007-01-11 14:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
become reclusive. Dont be so available for people. You can do it nicely, just tell them you have palns and cant help, or can't be there. YOu dont need to explain in detail why. Its hard, when that is your nature, but you have every right to say no sometimes.
2007-01-11 14:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by an_awsome_woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you know that some people are taking advantage of your "good" nature and don't like it. You can stop it. Just let them know.
2007-01-11 14:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by ppv918 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wish i knew cause im in ur shoes and when i stopped being there for them and started focusing on myself they didnt really have anything to do with me until they needed something again
2007-01-11 15:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by debbie o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start worrying about you.
Have relationships with these people.
2007-01-11 14:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nod your head and smile at them. that way you haven't really said anything positive, just shown it. and they might not bug you anymore.
2007-01-11 14:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Dallas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋