He is 19 and has been smoking it for a year now, but it is increasing, he gets high every night for 5-6 hours (or 2-3 joints). He is failing at college, were in the same class and he is missing loads of lessons. He told me a while ago he thinks he's addicted, and loads of times hes made resolutions to stop and hasnt. I dont want to sound hypocritical cause i smoke with him sometimes too, but im getting the best grades in the class. Im scared hes going to mess up his future. How can i help him? He is getting more withdrawn and moody, and i miss the happy funny person he used to be. He seems so sad all the time, and we dont talk as much as we used to.
2007-01-11 06:43:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How can I talk to him without making it seem like Im persecuting him? I know from experience that weed makes you paranoid
2007-01-11 06:53:41 · update #1
He lives with a flatmate, who also smokes so hes not doing it alone. I dont like the other guy and he doesnt like me. The problem is hes my friends best friend, they do everything together, and although my friend and i used to go places without him, now we just see each other at college, and sometimes when he drives me places.
2007-01-11 07:04:06 · update #2
Sounds like college freedom is getting to him...happens to lots of people. Nothing to do until he is ready to admit that he has a problem and needs help.
2007-01-11 06:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly the only thing you can do is talk to him. It has to be his decision to get help with his problem and you smoking with him isn't helping him at all. Would you really lesion to someone who is getting high with you, but still sitting there telling you you have a problem? No most people would just blow them off, like what the hell do they know there here doing the same thing.
My father has been clean for a little over a year now, he's 50 and he started smoking weed in his early teens. I know that he tried to quit before, and it never worked, and I don't really know what made this time different but it has been and he did do it.
So if you really want to help your friend, be there for him and quit smoking yourself. Expect that he will mess up, but don't tempt him to, meaning doing put a bag of weed in front of him and expect him not to smoke it, after all he's not perfect. It might also be a good idea to join a Drug Abuse Program of some kind so that you can both talk about what you have been throw, were you want to be, and how you feel about it right now.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-11 07:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get physically addicted to weed, like you can to cigarettes. However you can get mentally addicted. Some people use it as an anti-depressant, or an escape from reality. Some people are into smoking weed and others are totally against it. I'd say it's a phase that eventually he'll get over. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Weed isn't the worst thing in the world, and i don't see much harm in the situation. I know from experience that people who are really into smoking weed don't consider it a problem, even if a close friend might see it as one.
2007-01-11 07:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by rosie_posie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weed has no physical addictions. It is a depressant and the smoker believes that he cant give up because he cant sleep etc. Its all Bulls**t. I smoked it for ten years, Its just habit. You have a misconception that life's easier if you've had a joint. Millions of people believe weeds ok. It's only when they grow up, get real and give their head a shake that they realise life is easier without it
2007-01-11 07:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by KATIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a hard case to crack but of course it can be cracked wide open!
Firstly you said you sometimes smoke with him well you could both go to a smokers group thing or both you nicotine patches TOGETHER so he knows you are doing it together and it will probs make him feel better.
Secondly you said he gets high most nights, do something to distract him such as seeing a film or going to a restaurant, i am not suggesting that he becomes ur BF but i think that doing this sort of thing will turn him back into the person you used to know
2007-01-11 06:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by NIcky b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call somebody from Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous and talk to them about it. This is free, and they should be able to give you some good advice. They also have organizations for friends of alcoholics and addicts.
2007-01-11 07:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what weed does to you ask him to seek treatment before its to late
2007-01-11 06:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the only thing u can do is offer him help...... but other than that.... i think u should join him....
2007-01-11 06:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these should help
www.lifeline.org.uk
www.lifelinepublications.org
www.drugscope.org.uk
www.talktofrank.com
www.ibogaine.co.uk
www.ibogaine.org
2007-01-11 13:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋