I will NEVER understand this. My husband and I never planned...and we have three beautiful children!!!
2007-01-11 06:36:35 · 17 answers · asked by Lynnie M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Amen! I have three beautiful Children as well. Although, My second was quote unquote planed I guess, but not really planed! We just wanted another baby and I thank God daily that all of my children are healthy! *Smiles* ♥
2007-01-11 07:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Peaches ( . ) ( . ) 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went two and a half years without birth control assuming I would just get pregnant. You can't imagine the emotional stress it puts on somebody to think they might be pregnant every month and then to find out that you are not. Eventually, I started actually "trying" to get pregnant and found out that I was ovulating sporadically.
If I had not planned everything out and done research I would not have my beautiful eight month old daughter. Did you ever hear that God helps those who help themselves? Maybe that is the case with people who are planning their children.
You obviously have no fertility issues. I'm glad for you. However, you might want to look up the word empathy in the dictionary.
2007-01-11 15:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie J 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wish it was that easy for me! If I had simply left it up to "God" I wouldn't be pregnant right now. I have PCOS and I wasn't ovulating at all (bright side - I wasn't getting any periods, either). I don't believe in God, so I certainly don't think my not ovulating was a "sign" that I shouldn't have kids. I want children, and unfortunately my body needs medical help for that to happen.
Advanced planning is also important to give a baby every chance to be healthy. Sure, 200 years ago plenty of babies were born just fine. But many weren't, and many women died during childbirth. I want to give my child the best possible chance of being healthy, and that requires me being healthy and knowing what's best for my body and my baby. I don't get that knowledge from God, I get it from good books and from my doctor.
You obviously did some planning - you did get married, after all.
2007-01-11 14:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by kris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not always easy to just pop out three babies like it's natural. Some women don't ovulate when they are 'supposed' to, some women don't ovulate at all; therefore making it impossible to conceive. Things need some help along and thank God there are medical professionals out there that can provide the knowledge to help women figure things out. You should walk a mile in someone's shoes before you just assume it can happen as easily as it did for you.
I don't think you can leave everything up to God and His divine will/ magic or else things may never happen.
2007-01-11 14:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For some people 'waitng for the magic to happen' just isn't an option. Be thankful you've been able to have three kids with out much difficulty.
As one who has struggled with infertilty, trying, tracking and being aware of what's going on with my body is the only way I can ever hope to have my own children.
2007-01-11 16:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself and my husband....
We waited and planned when we wanted to start trying because we both wanted to make sure we had a stable environment to bring a child into this world. We waited until we felt that we were financially prepared to handle the responsibility, owned our own home that we felt was suitable to raise a child or children in, and wanted to be emotionally prepared for the responsibility of raising a child.
God has a plan for me and my husband, and I believe that our planning is part of his plan.
Stop judging, live your own life.
2007-01-11 16:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are very fortunate. Some couples aren't. There's nothing wrong with planning for children and making a conscious effort to conceive.
2007-01-11 15:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have to plan in order to get pregnant. I've been trying with my husband for the last 2 years and still no pregnancy. So obviouly "God" isn't working his/her magic on me.
2007-01-11 17:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by AMarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some people want to be more in charge of their fertility. Its not a bad thing, just a way for moms to feel more involved in the conception of their children. Also for people with reproductive issues, it becomes important to "plan" so that they make sure they are making love on the correct days! Be glad you didn't have to plan to have your 3 children.
2007-01-11 14:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by gamerpinky 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you mean planning in terms of needing help to have children then think of it this way.....why would God allow for so much tecnology and medicine that helps women who are unable to conceive naturally like yourself???
2007-01-11 16:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by lesm77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋