Ok so heres the thing....About a month ago i got on my finacees myspace page and seen that he sent this girl a friends request, then i looked at the history and he actually did a search for her, which means he obviously knows her. Well about a week ago he bought a cell phone and i went through his phone book, and saw that he put her number in there under sargent ... then her name. He is in the marines and i know for a fact that she is not one of his sargents. He drives an hour away to go to drill, and on this girls myspace page it says the city she lives in and its only about15 minutes from where he has to go. Well then last night i went through his wallet and found a peice of paper with her name and phone number in it. I want to confront him about this but then again i want to wait until theres more proof so he cant lie his way out of it, what should i do, im sooo confused. We have been together for 5 years and have a 16 month old daughter. So what do you all think?
2007-01-11 06:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by ANDREA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would also like to add that she is 30, and he is 23. But i think He has always had a thing for older women. I just dont want to waste anymore of my time with him if he is cheating but im afraid if i confront him too soon, he will try to be more carefull about what he does and then ill never know the truth.
2007-01-11 06:36:56 · update #1
Hi sweetie!! I think that I know this situation quite well, so I would say to get more proof then nail him. Wait until this weekend is over and see what happens. You got some really good answers on here, so I would go with what people are telling you. I'll just bet that little girl of yours is alittle doll!!!!! Thank heavens you have her!
2007-01-11 08:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by pebbles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know how you feel. And I would worry about the right timing also. I hate when men do these things but what I would do is ask him about his commanding officers, sergeants(sp?) and act like your genuinely interested. See if he talks about her with his line of work. If he doesn't, hes cheating. I'm sorry to say this but I think he is cheating. I'm so sorry about your situation, but trust me, you dont want to marry him if you are having doubts. it can be the biggest mistake of your life. I got married too soon as well and I'm dealing with some problems of my own. Listen to your heart and instincts most of all...they will tell you what to do.
God Bless
2007-01-11 14:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by niknikki86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become your own private eye follow him get pictures and then you will have some legal ground when it comes to the divorce . Here is something else call her and ask her if she knows that he is married and has a daughter and that she is being a homewrecker? Yes and if he is cheating he will try to lie his way out of it they always do .
2007-01-11 15:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait a bit more. Don't tell him what you know. Arm yourself with proof and then throw it out to him. Never give away what you are doing. He will get sloppy and when he does he will get caught. If you inform him of your suspicions, he will be more careful. The key here is for you to say nothing but for you to be more aware while he gets sloppy. Good luck.
2007-01-11 14:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow him........... don't let him catch you but follow him and see if he meets up with her that will be your proof. That is the only way you will know. Something has to be going on if he has her number and myspace page. Good luck
2007-01-11 14:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right on sister.
wait for proof.
Trust your instincts, but be aware of the possibility you may be wrong.
Women have a natural instinct for sensing lies, and I doubt you will be fooled by his if he does.
While you hold some of the cards it is better not to lay your hand down.
Stay alert and prepare a back-up plan.
2007-01-11 23:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with harleychick follow him and as soon as you see him so much as hug her...go to them and tell him its over and get out cuz once a cheater always a cheater
2007-01-11 14:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him point blank.....mention her name. If he gets angry and unreasonably defensive you'll have your answer. Also, read over your post here....imagine it was a friend telling you this....what would you advise? Go with your gut instinct...it's rarely wrong.
2007-01-11 14:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what's going on! Either he's cheating or he's toying with the idea.
2007-01-11 14:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer.
2007-01-11 15:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋