I am very proud of my 5 month old baby girl, and I love her soooo much, but i don't feel like a mommy yet. I guess its because i haven't heard her say mommy. I just don't think its kicked in. I don't think of myself as the mommy type. I'm only 20, but I'm responsible with my daughter and I think I'm a good mommy. Is this normal or is it because of my age? Has any other mommies (or daddies) felt this way too?
2007-01-11 06:31:28 · 9 answers · asked by aneps_grl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This is totally normal and I'm pretty sure your age has very little to do with it. I'm 31 and felt this way for a while after my son was born. He's 7 months old and is just starting to say Ma-Ma, though he still mixes it up with Ba-Ba!
The reason you feel this way is that all your life you've had an image of what a "Mommy" is and it had nothing to do w/ you. So it's weird to suddenly find yourself in a category that, up to that point, you thought was for older, fatter, slower (or fill in the blank) people than you.
I think each woman redefines what a Mommy is in her own life by making conscious choices about how she will care for her children and still maintain her own personality. It's a challenge when you feel that your whole identity is wrapped up in that title, but lots of smart, caring women manage to find a balance between the two every day.
2007-01-11 06:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom in regulation did the very similar ingredient, from how a lot she eats, even as she eats, how I potted educated her, how I disciplined her. She nonetheless does it and my childrens are 9, 3, and 2. So i'm no longer a "new" mom anymore. i comprehend the way you experience basically carry close in there keep searching after the toddler the suitable you are able to and as long as your fiance doesn't have an concern with the way you're raising your toddler then ignore about her. i turned right into a very gentle human being too and it truly is hassle-free for my emotions to get damage. finally you'll construction up the braveness to inform her the way you experience. I did and that i felt so a lot more effective useful.
2016-12-29 03:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way, I don't think age has much to do with it, it's just getting used to it. I don't think I really felt like a "Mommy" until the first time I was thrown up on! That's one of those things you always think, "Mom will clean it up" and that time, Mom was me.
2007-01-11 06:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I feel the same way, for a month I used to just look and her and be like "dang, I got a real baby". My baby is 7 months too, and she says"Da-Da" but not anything that comes close to mommy. I sometimes feel that I have to force myself to feel like one. I love my daughter, but its like she's just this being I'm responsible for. Like a ritual, feed, clean, play, sleep. I enjoy her don't get me wrong, but mother I feel not!
2007-01-11 06:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by MICHELLE C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously dont think thats bad because Im in your shoes at the moment. My little Ricky is about to be 3 months and I still dont feel like a mother either. We will soon get there. Dont feel bad its normal
2007-01-11 06:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by chaparrabonita21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a long time too. I'm 37 and first son is 16 months old. I was alone along time in my life before I became a mom. It finally does sink in just keep doing what you are doing and one day you'll proudly say, yes I'm her mom!
2007-01-11 07:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i didnt feel like a mommy for a couple of months. i kinda felt like a babysitter. trust me it will go away you just have to get use to her.
2007-01-11 07:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely know what you mean, I had the same problem when my son was born. I was 20 when he was born and it took awhile before I really believed that he was mine... but now, it's awesome!
2007-01-11 06:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mom goes through that. don't worry. i went through it with my first kid and she is a mommies girl .
2007-01-11 08:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by stefstudy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋