how do i improve myself in the working environment with my colleagues?

Question

I was wondering if people could give me some advice. I am quite shy and quiet and feel im not able to express my personality as well as id like. I get the impression they feel awkward and dont know what to say. I want to try and rectify the situation but am worried i am too late. Its like when i go on work dos i feel im the odd one out. We have also had 2 new starters who are overly confident so all the guys are chatting to them and when i try and join on the conversation its like im not wanted. I just feel very insecure and unhappy which in turn isnt helping

Answer 1

hi, i know exactly how u feel as i am experiencing the same thing, i am quiet and a bit shy and i am 24, often feel like i dont fit in and wish to be more confident.
i think u have to face facts that because u r shy, u arent always going to fit in and ppl will not include you. maybe if you take an genuine interest in the ppl there, that may help, i have tried this but most of the ppl are self centrered and want to chat only about themselves. however i do work in an office so i cant speak for u. hope things work out and if u find a solution let me know!

Answer 2

I can understand ur problem very well as i was also facing the same problem earlier. I m a student preparing for Civilservice of 25 yrs of age.Problem here is not with others but in our own mind we always see ourself with others views n eyes this will change only when we start to see ourself with own view. First of all see toward ur own quality n speciality. Then keep it in mind why should run behind others let make myself that perfect so others will have to run behind me. then dont hesitate to talk to anybody. During conversation always keep a smile on ur face.Always try to make conversatin light with few funny lines n comedy.esp. with females. Because if u can talk to a female make her smile then this will let u out of ur shyness. then in conversation try to be versatile n energetic. These are the things which i did after my graduation n during postgraduation.this all changed my life.now if a person talk to me just for 15 minutes he will my friend esp. girls. And it was first love of my life which change me n all situations.So now be energetic n enthusiastic. then reply me via email.