Why are men afraid to cry?

Question

I am not one of them.

Answer 1

Like yourself my bladder is attached to my tearducts and I have no problem crying in front of certain people, those that I am close to. There are a lot of men however that somehow look at crying as weakness and they are sadly mistaken. When your involved in a close relationship and that person witnesses you crying they actually respect you more.

Answer 2

'Afraid' is possibly not the best choice of words? 'Inhibited' maybe? And that's got to be down to the way we were brought up,as some one has already said "Big boys don't cry" a good point. Must be something to do with the masculine thing!
However I once knew a guy that was a bare fisted fighter in the UK massive feller he used to travel around these country fairs and batter other guys about, he was massive and very masculine, afraid was not a word he understood! I have seen him cry a couple of times, not in pain or drunk but heartfelt tears because of whatever reason. e wasnt worried about this crying and no one was going to questionhim on the subject.
So I do feel 'inhibited' aout crying, because its been bred into me that its not a thing that guys do, not afraid of crying!

Answer 3

I am a 23 years old guy. I don't know about other men, but I CAN NOT cry, whatever I do...
For me, it is impossible. This doens't mean, however, that I am some selfish, bad person.
I just can't cry. I don't know how. I didn't cry since when I was 13 or 14 years old. Maybe I forgot how to...
I remember that when I was 13 or 14, I had a lot of problems that could make me cry... all the problems that are related to growing up from child to a mature man... aggressive colleagues (or "bullies")... I guess I lost it then... And it's sad, but this is the situation I will be for the rest of my life, I think.
Now I'm watching movies with young children (children between 13 and 17 years old... teenagers)... and they lose their virginity at that age, not their "ability" to cry, like me...
Sometimes I wish I could cry... because I am depressed and when you're depressed everything hurts you... but the heart hurts the worst... and the headache is like somebody hit you with a club.
Maybe you're lucky that you can cry... maybe not... You decide. I know what's better: to cry.
If there are people that "can't" cry (or whatever else), like me, or anyone that "can" cry, I'd like to talk with you... My email is [e-mail]
Thank you.

Answer 4

Unfortunatley our society puts the image in our heads that men do not cry. Society says that crying is only a women emotion. However crying is part of human beings and men are just as human as women are there fore when they are sad they cry. Many men try not to cry because they do not want people to think that they are weak or any less of a man.

Answer 5

Its a self-eestem issue. We feel like we are the rocks holding everything together and if we cry it makes us look bad and weak. Society has taught a lot of men that crying isn't the norm for a male and it shouldn't be. So its been taught through generation after generation. Even in private if a man cries he feels less of a man (like a P*ssy) because this is what was taught. Hope this helped you understand more. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Personally, I feel that when an emotional situation presents itself, it's my job as the man to be the one to hold everyone else together. It's not that I'm afraid to cry, but to me it's pointless. It doesn't change the situation and it doesn't change the way that I feel. I'm of much better use to the people around me by being strong and supportive. Crying is pointless, it won't help matters. It's when the men break down that the women get worse. Women expect a man to have emotional strength. Strength in your emotions means that you are able to control them.

Answer 7

Not all men are afraid to cry. Some guys just dont like to show their girly side of them. I think it's cute.

Answer 8

Men cry and will if they are very hurt or faking to get a woman back ;-)

Men dont cry as easy as women because they have testosterone in them, we (women) have a little testosterone but the progestorene hormones make us cry more......so its hormones and not to mention soiety, boys shouldnt cry or show feelings..old state of mind

Answer 9

Men are taught to squelch their feelings because they get in the way,” says Guy Grenier, a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor in London, Ont. “Women are better at processing important emotions and are more likely to talk to other women about their problems. Men don’t always know what to do with their emotions.”

As a result, many men intellectualize and compartmentalize their feelings, and can have trouble empathizing —all of which can make them more remote. “It’s like growing a suit of armour—it’s hard to get in and it’s hard to get close,” says Michael Kaufman, a Toronto-based educator and expert on gender issues. But if a man can free his emotions from that tough, protective shell, the payoff is worth it. “Men who are able to work towards more meaningful emotional relationships—whether it’s with friends or family—are going to be happier,” says Kaufman.



Scientists believe the male and the female brain may not be hard-wired in the same way. “Research is still ongoing, but there is evidence to suggest that the brains of men and women respond differently to the same emotional stimuli,” explains Sandra Witelson, a neuroscientist and professor of psychiatry and behavioural neurosciences at Hamilton’s McMaster University. In 125 studies in various cultures, boys and men were consistently less accurate at interpreting unspoken messages in gestures, facial expressions and tone of voice.
Men also react less intensely to emotions—and forget them faster. In an experiment at Stanford University, photographs of upsetting or traumatic images triggered greater activity in more regions of female brains. Three weeks later, the women remembered more details about the pictures than the men.

Answer 10

wow for many reasons the macho man father figure saying men dont cry, also their fear of been vulnerable, also the feer of been seen as week, and ofourse it takes more to make a man cry than a woman thats a proven fact. we girls cry for anyhting and is not consider a weakness at the contrary is cute. my boyfriend says he hates it when i cry but i know he thinks im adorable when i do it i can see it in his eyes. i think is ok for men to cry ofcourse not all the time like a sissy but once in a while yeah why not. they are human just like us.