but they act very goody, goody, How do you confront them? How do you get them to stop?
2007-01-11 06:04:11 · 17 answers · asked by Sunrise 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, if you're non-confrontational, like I am, then just knowing what they're up to is enough. Nothing wrong with being civil towards someone, as long as you're one step ahead of their game. I've found that very manipulative people are usually very intelligent as well, so you could drop some subtle hints that you're onto them and they'll more than likely catch on.
2007-01-11 06:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't give them a speech or a bawling out. They will not change. That should be a plaque on my wall. BUT it's SO true. If you honestly don't want to be manipulated, stay away from them. If you can't do that in your situation, learn the subtle art of passive-aggression. It's an art. Figure out what they want. Then don't give it to them. They will be stunned the first time or furious is a possibility. I call it "sit and spin" when manipulators go off like that!! BUT they will regroup and try again. If you fall back into your old habit of capitulating, just back up and keep starting over. Act as if what they want slipped your mind. Or you won't talk when they shout. Or you drive away when they have their story made up and are setting your trap. Use Yahoo Search and read about passive-aggression and ignore the implications it is for sick, demented people. It is a natural defense that many people use. We don't notice them because they are usually quiet and we don't notice if they're upset anyway!! Counter-punch Sweetie!! Good Luck!! @8=)
2007-01-11 14:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is much less likely that you can be manipulated if you are aware of what is going on. The easiest way to change the behavior of another person is to change your reaction to the person. That then changes the person's reaction to you. So think about how you interact with this person, and make a change. Do the unexpected, for example. React in ways that this individual doesn't expect. Try to be unpredictable. Then stop worrying about the manipulator. When you are unpredictable, the person will most likely move on to someone else.
2007-01-11 14:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Significant manipulation is a sign of a fairly serious mental or personality disorder. You need to protect yourself from them. Find away out of the relationship, or at least limit it to safe level.
2007-01-11 14:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Boilerfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DONT!! Get YOURSELF to stop being manipulated. Refuse their offers and requests. Thers little you can do about the other person but there is everything you can do about yourself.
2007-01-11 14:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by margaryan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Manipulators don't stop manipulating and preying on people. Run away fast from this person and don't look back.
2007-01-11 14:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by locknkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn the tricks of verbal judo.
Basically you can turn any conversation to your advantage without people even knowing.
some of it is instinct but I think many of the principles can be mastered by anyone who considers themself highly verbal.
2007-01-11 14:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slowly shut them out of your life and do suble things to show you dont really need them but it is the other way around and do it smiling
2007-01-11 14:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them out of your life.Or,,dont play into it.Be with the truth.
2007-01-11 14:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont be afried to stand up for yourself if you have a school councler you should get help and or tell somebody you trust.
2007-01-11 14:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by gerble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋