I told a friend of many years that I liked her, but I wanted to remain friends. She seemed to have lied to me so many times, but she denies all of the lies that she had feelings for me. Last night, we decided to be friends, but she treats me differently than a friend sometimes. She has tried convincing me that I am like all her other close friends, but I do not know what she will try to pull. Why does she want to be friends like this?
2007-01-11 05:55:17 · 3 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to tell her how you feel cuz it seems like she is playin both sides of the fence. Tell her if you really want to be my friend then you would have no problem with my wish to want to keep it platonic. She will see when you drop her like a hot bag of potatoes
2007-01-11 06:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by HustleGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand, although your question kind of confuses me. Basically, I think I get it. I'm like your friend, in a way. I have many close guy friends, but with a couple of them, I got really close...some days they actually got the impression that I wanted to date them, when all I was doing was being my affectionate self! You have to learn to distance yourself from her, and yes, this does mean forget about EVER dating her. That will only cause conflict in your relationship. If later on down the road, she changes her mind, so-be-it....but it won't happen with you waiting around for it. You need to move on, accept her as a "friend' and keep it at that. If you guys have a "more intimate" (physical or whatever) relationship, you need to remember that is all she wants from you...not a partner. Remove any physical aspects from the relationship if this is a step in the right direction. Whether she is lying or not, that's her choice and her decision. If she wants you and is mature, she will admit it. We women don't lie to guys about whether we want to date them or not. If we say no, we MEAN no. Give everything time and stop stressing. It won't do anyone any good.
2007-01-11 14:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by rissagirl05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your self, what you want and need from this friendship, if you can not see any thing beneficial, then it is not going to work out, as well I would keep fore most in my mind her history of lying, and all the other little thing that just do not add up. I can not say what her motive is . but perhaps with a bit of observation on your part you will soon find out. best of luck
2007-01-11 14:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋