I'm attracted to my husband's brother and he's married as well!
I know he has interest in me. He always give me compliments even when I look bad... and I feel from his eyes that there's something between us.
Is it bad to feel that way or normal? what can I do if I had the chance to be with him alone?
2007-01-11 05:52:03 · 61 answers · asked by cosmicwoman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you realize , what this would do to your family. I know from experience, my younger sister, was always flirting and hanging around my husband. It finally went into an affair. The children did not want to believe , it , I did not want to believe it till I could not stand it anymore. He was buying her diamond earrings and having lunch with her every day. Bragging to his buddies he was banging her yet telling me they were just friends. It has destroyed a marriage. It has destroyed the relationship of two sisters as well as the relationship of the other brother and sister. STOP
and listen to how sick this relationship is and what it would do to your family. Grow up and be an adult instead of a slut. Walk away from him and tell him to leave you alone. You love your husband and you would not do anything to hurt him. He should be the most important person in your life . Not his brother.
God help this family.
2007-01-11 06:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by springer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek some professional help! That is terrible to even ask what you should do if you have the chance. Maybe your husband would then find out and his brothers wife would find out and then they can also get together, because chances are, they may also have the hots for each other and you don't even have a clue! I say this so you can STOP for a second and put yourself in there shoes if you acted on your fantasy!
Sounds like you have some serious growing up to do. So Sad!
By the way, I looked at your other questions and you really need some help. I mean this is one of your questions (quoted) "I always thought that faithfulness is not in human nature.. what do you thinK? One can't have sex with only one person all his life... it's really confusing me".
You really and truly need some help and fast! I wonder if your husband has any clue how messed up you really are. Poor guy.
2007-01-11 05:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by MG 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really think that you would rather be with your brother-in-law, and you better give this considerable thought. Then you must tell your husband first. It will save you a whole lot of trouble in the long run. I know it will be rough at first, but the old saying that honesty is the best policy is right. You owe that much to your husband anyway. I didn't say it would be easy, but it is the best way. And no, you are certainly not the devil.
2007-01-11 05:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is bad to feel this way. Let's see..... how would you feel if your sister (or sister in law or friend) was attracted to your husband and was secretly seeing him behind your back? If everytime you all got together they had this "secret", kept eyeing each other and couldn't wait to get alone with each other? How would you feel? Come on, I think you already know the answer to your own question. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the pigsty. If your brother in law will cheat on his wife, he would cheat on you! WISE UP!!!! Your poor husband!!! You're a real great wife aren't you??!! You're probably the kind of woman who would be "crushed" if you found out your husband was cheating on you. Grow up and put all your efforts into your own marriage or else do your husband a favor and divorce him so he can move on to someone who loves him.
2007-01-11 05:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay away from your husband's brother! You two could end up hurting a lot of people. If you love your husband stay with him and work on making your relationship better. I know you can't help but fantasize about his brother, but that's it. It's normal to feel attracted to other people than your spouse, but you shouldn't act on it, you'll break a lot of hearts, and probably yours too! That's just asking for trouble- oh and your not the devil
2007-01-11 05:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart, if you are both married, you shouldn't even be trying to get a chance alone with him. It's not bad to feel that way, but you need to consider it's not just about you 2, you have 4 in the picture.
2007-01-11 05:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
We are all tempted at one time or another so the feelings are normal. It is how we decide to act on those feelings that matters,You know in your heart that it would be morally wrong to go outside of your marriage bed.You must also know your marrage will be over if you do, Is it really worth it?You know in your heart it isn't.You will suffer irreperibly from guilt and low self esteem for the rest of your life.Think long and hard before you do any thing.
2007-01-11 06:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by handyguy192000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its o.k to have a crush on someone as long as that's how it stays you aren't blind just married but don't have an affair it will make you consumed with guilt and you will probably feel terrible about yourself would it be worth losing your husband over and he will lose his brother as well you need to find out what is missing in your marriage that is making you want to stray
2007-01-11 05:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would act it is wrong to act on it because it is his brother and you are married. My husbands brother and I get a long really well and I think of him as my brother so I could not imange these feelings but you are far from the devil there is a lot worse out there.
2007-01-11 06:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by ?asker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let go of these feelings for your husband's brother. You made a commitment to your husband ONLY. Don't do anything with your brother in law if alone - and if he asks you or tries to make a move, remind him you're married to his brother. Don't let anything happen - if it does, it's a guaranteed diaster!!!
2007-01-11 06:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋