It is not fair cause it is not right. tell him to leave her...if he doesn't do so immediately then leave him.
I would leave anyway as he is a cheater but that is just me.
2007-01-11 05:48:12
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answered by rcbricker33 3
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It's completely fair. You started playing this game knowing the rules. He said he was married and you decided to play the game. If he had lied to you, it would be a different story.
You can't win this game, though. The only one who wins is the guy.
Married guys who cheat on their wives have no intention of leaving their wives, so the only reason to play around with a married man is that you really just want some sex without any emotional commitment. It's that simple.
If you want a commitment, you need to find a single guy, and by the way, there are A LOT of nice, lonely single men out there. Look around at your job. There are a lot of men who aren't the most handsome men, but they are kind, generous, reliable and could be great hubands and fathers.
My guess is that you keep choosing unavailable men because you're in a poor self-esteem cycle. Deep down, you don't think you deserve happiness, so you keep getting in impossible relationships.
Get a therapist and start learning that you DO deserve real happiness.
2007-01-15 05:46:13
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answered by D 3
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It is not fair. Right now, he is " having his cake and eating it too". Sooner or later, it will catch up with him one way or the other.
99% of the time, they just say that they are getting a divorce when in actuality, they never will, to keep you from going forward with your life to bigger and better things.You seem like an intelligent woman, (I am speaking from experience, but my situation turned out a lot differently.) If things seem to remain the same, more often than not, his wife has no clue that he is cheating, and therefore, he thinks that he has is made by being able to have sex with two women, without suffering any consequences. Get out now, and move on with your life. Good Luck!
2007-01-11 05:58:30
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answered by ladysea8 3
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Its not right the society is just brain washed into believing that it's not as bad when its the guy who is cheating. Its just that double standard thing. You should tell him not to bother getting the divorce especially if it has something to do with you cause you have moved on. Tell him that even if you really haven't. That will give you control and put the ball back in your court instead of his, cause as of right now you are just waiting on something that may possibly never happen.
2007-01-11 05:53:59
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answered by Pretty Young Thing 2
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Run! Run! Run away from this guy. Do you honestly think that he'll be faithful to you if he's not faithfull to her? Right now, he's got the best of both worlds. The little wifey at home tending the hearth and the piece on the side who he keeps hanging by telling her that he'll divorce...someday.
2007-01-11 05:51:51
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answered by Lilith 4
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Your the other woman I take it, he is feeding you old line that D word comes easy from a cheater. You should think about yourself your trying to break up marriage, sorry girlfriends and wives don't mix. They haven't started because he has no intentions of getting a divorce, you are the one that is fooling yourself. dating married men is a no, no.
2007-01-11 05:56:45
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answered by Anonymous
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There are lots of reasons for the postponement of a divorce. I never ever want to get one, and maybe therer are kids involved. They are trying to ease into it gradually. Or, maybe there is something going on and you should confront him about it. You'll probably get lies if there is anything going on, but feel him out. You're with him, and you should know if he's not being on the up and up with you... Good Luck!
2007-01-11 05:56:02
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answered by Shannon Kay 2
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do they still live together or are they at least seperated?
when i split with my now-exhusband we didn't get divorced for 9 months for financial purposes, for a while we even tried to be roommates until we got the money to live seperately, but that didn't work at all!!! only lasted a couple weeks and he went & stayed with friends. (well, actuallly he went to a mental health facility for a couple weeks, then with friends)
if he's still living with her & not MISERABLE & making plans to move, i'd say they aren't splitting.
2007-01-11 06:12:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Take a stand. Tell him you refuse to be the "other woman." and when he's divorced he can give you a call. You deserve way better than this, so move on.
2007-01-11 05:49:36
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answered by reddevilbloodymary 6
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He's trying to get more time from you before he goes for the big D.
2007-01-11 06:27:19
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answered by Anonymous
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