Okay I go to special edd private school. All the other kids have criminal records besides me. I just have extreme temperment probs but after outbursts i automatically know things could of been dealt with better. I have been going to this school sense june of last year. I have been putting up with these kids crap for a long time. Yesterday i comepletely lost it because this punk called me a ugly whore. I comepletely went balistic and told him why don't u come say that to my face. He ran like alittle beezy meaning bitc* when i comfronted him on it. He was with hiss group of punk as* freinds when he said it but he didn't have the ball$ COME AND SAY THAT TO MY FACE. I am happy cus finnaly my mom is goin to remove me from that school. Shes a bus driver at my school. PS i was provoked.
2007-01-11 05:37:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
Whats your intake on all of this. Was it right for me to stand up for my self?
2007-01-11 05:44:24 · update #1
**** counciling why would i wanna have someone tell me how to behave they are anal cock suckers. Counciling is very stupid to me it's not my fault i have anger issues i lived with my phycho of a father for my child hood. Cuoncilers do nothing but make u feel shitty I know the setuation could of been handled better is far as im concerened they deserved eveery bit of insult i gave them because they are wanna be thugs..
2007-01-12 03:21:48 · update #2
Ever sense this one counciler tried to throw me in a group home for her sweet revenge of calling her a retard i have not trusted them sense.
2007-01-12 03:24:29 · update #3
From a professional standpoint (my field is disability research and studies), this is a tough one. Strictly speaking, you could have handled the situation more calmly--but at the same time you had real reason to be angry.
The fact that you have an emotional issue to deal with makes this a bit tough--I don't want yo u to misinterpret my take on this--so I'll start by saying you need to contimue to work on self-control. Hopefully you are working with a qualified counsellor who can show you how to develop good coping skills, etc. If that's not the case, that's a major priority for you and your parents to get started on.
Now the flip side: ANYONE has the right to get angry when provoked as you were. But that that would happen in a school such as you describe was inevitable. I don't know who told your mother that putting you in such a school was a good idea, but whoever did has the brains of a peahen. For you, a low-stress environment is appropriate--at least until you've had a chance to develop those coping skills I mentioned. And once you do, you won't need a special ed school anyway. Right now, putting you in that kind of school is like asking a person with a broken leg to run a marathon--you need time and the opportunity to learn to deal with this sort of thing first.
2007-01-11 07:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter has the same types of problems you do. We have changed counselors because they "didn't get it" so I understand what you mean.
My daughter has struggled with the same issues of bullying you have. If she went to the staff nothing was done. If she stood up to them she got in trouble with the school and the law. Her therapist just told her to stay quiet as that was the "appropriate choice". She became more withdrawn and depressed, and the harassment increased.
First of all, the law holds you responsible for your actions, regardless of whether you were provoked or not. Sad, but true. So you need to come up with a way to deal with your anger issues before your outbursts land you in a great deal of trouble.
Secondly, you deserve a school that is going to protect you from harassment. I don't care if that is a specialized school or regular educational environment. I commend your mother for removing you, but somehow you need to get the school you are in to protect you.
Last you need a therapist that will help. You cannot continue to use this behavior. It will cost you dearly in life. Keep searching for one that works.
My thoughts and prayer are with you. It is a tough road. Good luck to you.
2007-01-12 21:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by katty0205 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because no woman should ever be treated that way, You do not have to put up with that type of treatment. I am glad to hear that you are learning about your temper as I have had a temper problem for the past 20 years due to health problems, it is a terribly disability to have at 34 when you are the mother of three. Good luck to you and be sure to love your parents while they are alive. They only do with you what they think is the best because they love you. Good Bless you Sweetheart. Claire
2007-01-11 23:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know that you have anger management problems. Yet you let yourself lose it with these guys. Until you can control your anger and make good decisions BEFORE you lose it, then you are still burdened with your issues. The right thing to do would have been to ignore the behavior, especially since he didn't say it to your face.
Your mom may move you, but you will always have these problems until you get them dealt with. I hope you are going to counseling and maybe a psychiatrist. I also hope that the school you will go to can teach you spelling. You may have been going there SINCE July but you don't seem to have learned a lot of SENSE.
2007-01-11 15:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have to stand up for your self, but it would be good if you were able to deal with your temper a bit better. if you can find one I would recommend that you work with a life skills coach. as they are able to show you how to diffuse your temper, and have a good out come, Life skills coaches came from the idea of diffusing the gangs in New York and Chicago. and to a good extent it has worked, but now they work with people who have difficulties overcoming problems that interfere in their lives, and in your case it was and is your temper, You notice I said work with, not told by, that is why it works so well as you learn by doing, and experiencing. best of luck
2007-01-11 15:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy for you just watch yourself a lot of time your records don't do you justist when you get to your new school ,don't let everybody know what school you came from , your mom had a chance to have your record sealed so the special Ed don't follow you ,I had a grand son who was old enough to take him self out of special ED and I had to records sealed years before that, main thing don't let any one cause you not to get your education ,you need it .Good Luck ,and I mean it from the bottom of my heart
2007-01-11 15:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think what u did was very brave of u to do. That's good ur mom is taking u out of that school, and not to worry i used to be in special ed too plus I have known many ppl in this matter..So don't feel like its a bad thing, just keep ur head held high and feel good about yourself...
2007-01-11 13:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think what u did was v brave indeed, but u shoud contrl ur anger...
no point wasting ur energy on some lousy punks.
mayb u should spend some time helping ur mum with her jb, if she allows.If not, spend time reading and try 2 learn something new.
2007-01-12 01:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Eliel S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it was right for you to stand up for yourself.........
it too went to a school like that and unfortunately i was one of the 'bad' kids...........
i never did pick on the other kids but.......there was alot of that going on..........
my advice to you is just wait till your mom transfers you to another school and try to stay out of trouble or they will probably extend your stay regardless of what your mother says
good luck
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2007-01-11 13:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by bRoWn eYeD BuTTeRfLy®210~TX 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋