I have a boring life how do I make it more interesting?

Question

I have had a relationship for four years now. I am 24 and a stay at home mom of two. My boyfrind says I dont need to work. I never do anything fun. I get up with the kids, cook, clean and do laundry. My man comes home from work and gets to come and go as he pleases like he doesnt have any kids. What do I do that will make my life exciting? I want to work and go to school but I cant what the hell do I do now? Are there any others out there that are like me?

Answer 1

I'm not like you at all but have a suggestion as to how to get out of the house now and again. There are lots of places that would welcome your hands and mind in order to volunteer for their services. Not only would you help people that are less fortunate then yourself but also you would feel like you're contributing to society. As well you may become more grateful for what life has given you by witnessing people who have less and are still happy and smiling. A lot of places have day care available for your children, but if not perhaps you have family or friends that would look after the little ones a couple of times a week. It is a shame that you cannot return to school and continue your education as this would also be great for socializing as well as learning new and exciting things. Maybe you need to sit down with your partner and let him know that you need a life of your own and explain to him in a mature and open minded manner your wishes and desires. You cannot (or should not anyway) be expected to strictly follow his needs and desires as you are not a child. If necessary you and he may want to attend for some form of couples and/or marriage counseling where you can have a third person that is not emotionally attached and has a partial opinion and possible suggestions where you can both negotiate and be happy with life decisions. Best of luck and I do hope that you are able to attain your life goals.

Answer 2

Firstly let me say you are a woman and you need to accept that as a woman your time spent in the home with your children is the most important job you can have. Once you say this is my life and this is how I want it to be then you will begin to appreciate all the great things motherhood brings. Don't just say you clean your home, take pride in making it the cleanest house on the block. Don't make a chore of laundry be happy you have the whitest shirts/dresses since using so and so detergent. Never say you are "just a housewife", a housewife yes, "just a", never. Don't mope around all day in sweats or Pj's put on a nice feminine dress and an apron, do your chores and show the world that you are the best housewife in the world. Once you have the chores down pat try and find a playgroup or similar mothers group that supports women in the home. Say away from the husband bashing "I'm sick of housework"clicks that can trap the unwary as these will only dishearten you more.

Answer 3

I hear this a lot from stay at home moms. If he is not interesting in being a part of the house hold you need to seriously address this on a one on one discussion with him. How about doing volunteer work somewhere near your home while the kids are at school. Or you could take a part time job, which will cure the boredom blues. Why not take an online course too. But trust me it will get better as your kids get older and can do more for themselves. On a serious note......have a back up plan to take care of yourself and your kids if you are not going to marry your boyfriend. If something were to happen to him, God forbid, who will take care of things like bills, etc.? Get your name on some stuff if you have not already.

Answer 4

I am a single mom of one who stayed home for his first year, after being a corporate person, traveling all over, and doing whatever I wanted. My, how things change.

Anyway, here are a few things that may be helpful:

*Sell things on eBay and join one of thier communities. You will make money and new friends. Many are stay at home moms like yourself.

*Take an online class through your local College or one of the many online offerings like University of Phoenix, etc.

*Join a couple of playgroups with other moms in your area, or even start one up.

*Join a "stroller-fit" class. These are lots of fun and you can bring the kids with you.

*Look for jobb offerings P/T out of the home. Maybe ones that you could do that wouldn't be too all consuming and take away too much needed attention for your kids.

*Learn a new language. Many are offered on tape.

*Buy some fun workout DVD's. You could even find some that the kids could dance to. Look for plenty of new and used ones on www.half.com for a great price.

*Do some projects around the house or even some really great crafts. I used my time at home to learn many things like painting, hanging shelves and artwork displays, decorating, crafting,
etc.

*Look in the local newspaper for weekly family centered activities. Many are offered at your local library or community center. You can also check your City's Parks dept for swim classes and child-oriented activities. This is also a great way to meet people.

*Last but not least, Can you possibly do some volunteer work? I always got so much gratification from being able to hel someone else. It really puts your own situation into better priority as you realize there are many others out there in much worse situations.

I have to work fulltime as a single mom now. believe me, there are times I wish I could afford to stay home with my son. They will only be young once. You are very fortunate to be able to have this opportunity so hopefully some of these ideas will help you feel less bored.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well first of all make him take care of his freakin kids to!...your still young ur 24 dont let him stop you from going to school or work...put them in a day care or something or just go out with friends and make him stay home....then that might bring some excitment like u want to ur life!

Good luck

Answer 6

tell him he is stifling you and your spirit,you need some you time outside the home to let your creative spirt abound,if he will not let you,then tell him he is creating a situation that if not cleared up,will be replaced by someone more understanding of your needs. Like me!