I'm pregnant... what should I do??!?

Question

I took two pregnancy tests on Satuday, both came out ++ when I was late a little over a week. I told my mom last night, although I don't live with her, she wants me to have the baby and she'll help me in any way possible. Me and my boyfriend are both teens, still in High School. He dosen't want kids, but he also dosen't want me to "miscarriage" or "abort the baby myself" and he has always been against abortion and I have always been for it. I feel like I want to keep the baby, though my grandpa (who I live with) and my dad will flip (parents divorced). My mom said she would get me an abortion and make it private if I wanted to. I just think my bf is afraid of getting into trouble with his parents and that's stopping him from being really positive about this baby. It was an unplanned pregnancy and I fear getting an abortion for many reasons. I don't want to have this baby without him. Help?! What do I do?!

Answer 1

Consider yourself very lucky that your mom is so willing to help you out and support you in whatever decision that you make. Whether or not you keep the baby is completely up to you. Just know that you don't have to have your boyfriend to be able to have the baby. I know that right now it just seems impossible but you obviously have the support system that you need. A baby will ultimately change your life. If your boyfriend is not ready for that then he may not be the person that you are supposed to be with. My first husband died before my baby was even born. I thought that it was the end of the world. I was recently married and now my four year old calls my husband Dad and I have come to the conclusion that everything happens for a reason. We may not know why something is happening but you just have to trust in yourself and Him.

Answer 2

you cant take it back once the abortion is done, if he is against it, and you go ahead and have it just because of fears of telling your parents, are you going to be able to forgive yourself from the guilt later on when you are grown up? Of course you are both afraid of your parents flipping..however what young teenage couple wouldn't feel that way? He doesn't want kids, but he was willing to sleep with you. A little late now, and the consequences are there. I think you are blessed that your mom is willing to help you. The relationship may not last if you do get the abortion, and it may not last if you have the child. Consider adoption, there are so many couples out there who cant have children. It's the responsible thing to do under the circumstances, and then you will not have the guilt for the rest of your life, but you can rest assured that you gave your baby the best chance at life that you could with a loving and mature family.

Good luck and God bless

Answer 3

Well congratulations I know this is hard but you have a big decision to make. There can be complications with an abortion also if you end it now you may regret it later in life. If you carry the baby toterm you can always keep the baby and if the father doesn't want to be involved then file for child support so at least he will be finacially responsible. Hopefully you can resolve this can your mom be with you to tell you dad and grandpa I know this was unplanned but look at the bright side at least one of your parents supports you so take it and run let her help you out. I was raped when I was 16 found out I got pregnant kept the pregnancy but gave the baby up for adoption, I just met my first daughter last year she had a lot of questions but she understands why I gave her up. You could always go that route. Good Luck with whatever you chose.

Answer 4

Well I wish I can just give you the right answer to your question but this is one that should be made only by you. I can give you advice. I too was a young pregnat teen but i did not have no one the baby daddy had other things on his mind so I had the baby not even knowing what i was getting into. But in the past 6 years i've had 2 abortions and let me tell you I don't recommend it. Only because for me I regret it. Don't make that your decicion based on what you think people are gonna say or think about you and your boyfriend, that baby growing in your belly is his and yours NO ONE ELSES!! And if he don't support your decicion to wanting to keep the baby than he is not man enough to lay in bed with you. Having a baby alone is hard but let me tell you when you push that baby out and hold it in your arms for the first time all those worries go away because the only thing that will matter will be that little one. My daughter is 7 now and I'm 25 and i'm still doing it alone and i love her with all i got. So please just think this over. It's good that your mom wants you to have the baby cause you will need her. and about finishing school, you can do it, so many young girls have kids and finish school and college. You can do anything having a baby does not stop your life it should motivate you to wanna give the little one a good life. So I don't know if i helped in anyway but please think this over and make the right choice for you and the baby. NOT for anyone else.
Take Care,Personality

Answer 5

You should defiantly keep the baby its not the baby's fault about this situation later you are gonna regret what you have done if you abort if you have your baby you are gonna be happy with the decision you made think that he or she will always be there for you later in life if your boy friend doesn't have the balls to take care of the baby then i didn't know why he had the balls to not use protection remember you will always have your parents and your babies love and protection look at it this way when you abort you don't gain anything you are actually losing something if you keep the baby you could have unforgettable moment with your baby you will be your babies hero if you don't want the baby give it for adoption giving birth and abortion hurt the same way so u might as well have the pain for giving life

Answer 6

I know this is a difficult situation. Only you can make a decision. You have to remember that any decision you make will affect you for the rest of your life. Ask yourself if you decide to keep this child are you willing to do this without your boyfriend? You may be in love now, but the two of you are going to grow up and become two totally different people, either growing together or apart. As far as your family is concerned, I'm sure they love you and will try to be there and help as much as possible, but ultimately this is your responsibility. On the other hand an abortion is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life, and although it may not see real now, you will think about it everyday for the rest of your life. Take that from someone who knows as a teenager had an abortion and regret it everyday of my life. I am married now with 2 children and one on the way, and as much as I love them and feel loved by them, they cannot erase my guilt for what I had done or fill the whole that will always be in my heart. I hope you make the decision that is right for you and my heart goes out to you, it's a tough choice, but follow your heart and really think it through, you can't take it back.

Answer 7

Well you and your Bf are in a big dilemma! 1st off WHY THE HELL ARE YOU HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX??? As you have heard I am sure having a child is the single biggest responsibility there is! You need to all sit down and discuss the options. I am pro choice to let you know. So all the numb nut pro-lifers out there who don't think of the BIG picture of having an unwanted child so just keep their mouths shut. Now can you support this child, will the father be a part of the child's life (because a child will grow up with resentments if they feel abandoned!) and are you ready to start being an ADULT RIGHT NOW!!! Adoption is an option to but and here I go again IS NOT A GUARANTEE that the child will A. Get adopted and B. Have a loving home!!! There are chances no matter what you decide so it is something that you and others need to look at! And if you do keep the baby be there for him or her and shower them with love!!!

Answer 8

Babies are important and life changing. It sounds like you have some supportive people around you, but at the end of the day, you will be this child's mother, no one else. Finishing high school will be a bigger challange than it already is, and you want to give this baby the best shot possible if you choose to have it. Your relationship with this boy, one way or the other, is probably headed south - this is too much to handle for most high school guys. So try not to let saving the relationship affect your decision one way or the other.

So circle the wagons - tell everyone who is important to you, dad and grampa included. Get a realistic idea of who is going to be there to help in the long term. Then decide if you are ready to be called Mom for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Well Hun, your gunna get allot of different answer's but if you want to no what others think, then here it goes. the baby is Innocent in all this, it didn't tell you to have it, but it happened,according to the bible from the moment your conceived God now's everything about you, And causing a death of an unborn child in all the bible account's was paid back injury for injury Exodus21:22,23 ,Psalm127:3 which would mean abortion is wrong.Leviticus24:17-19 Psalms139:13-16 ,Genesis9:6,Exodus20:13.2 Timothy3::16,17. and their are allot of options out there if you decide, your not ready, there are thousands of people out there that can't have children, that would give your baby a loving home, there's open adoption were you can still be a part of the baby's life. I hope this helped

Answer 10

OK, please don't think I am being mean, but do you really know what an abortion does? I really want you to do some research and find out all about abortion before you decide to have one. It sounds to me like your mother is willing to help you raise this child. Why not either go live with her or give the baby to her? Or have you considered adoption? There are different kinds. You can have a closed adoption where you don't have any contact with the child after he/she is placed with the new family. Or there is an open adoption where you and the adoptive family agree on visitation. I am posting some websites with information on abortion. Please look at the pictures, I really think if more girls saw that this is an actual person, they wouldn't kill their baby. Please also understand how many girls have had an abortion that regret it. I have a friend who had one last year and she lives with the grief and knowledge that she killed an innocent life. She cannot bring herself to forgive herself.