Last year my husband cheated on me... with an ex girlfriend (before we were married but we already had 1 kid and i was pregnant with the 2nd) I've tried EVERYTHING to let it go... but it seems i cant. He wants to work back at this club (hes a bouncer) where she came and they exchanged numbers met up ect. He wants to work there this weekend and im thinking about sneaking up there towatch him.. am i wrong because hes burned me so badly before. im just afraid history will repeat itself. He's done it once...so why should i think he wont do it again just because he said he wouldnt.. once a cheater always a cheater right? I took him back because he sincerely said he was sorry and that he ****** up he cried real tears and all. said he didnt want to lose me. but hes acting strange again. hes really distant..and constantly fighting with me.
2007-01-11 05:23:50 · 4 answers · asked by Amber Cullen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust your instincts and not the conflict of words.
Know the difference between suspicion and evidence.
You have been badly let down and it is even more profound during pregnancy.
It will not go away quickly even if you left him.
What a horrible flavour to a childs life that they grow in a womb while the mother agonises over the fathers infidelity.
Let your heart decide and leave your mind to settle.
If he is sincere it will take time for him to rebuild your trust.
Meanwhile just love the children you have carried.
2007-01-11 16:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman, I feel for you. Women are pretty intuitive when it comes to infidelity. I believe that if you feel something is fishy, then it is. And you're absolutely right - once a cheater, always a cheater. Most men are only as faithful as the opportunities that are presented to them. As a bouncer, he's around a lot of women. That's a lot of opportunity in an environment where people are looking for some action. Best to see a lawyer and file for divorce. It's not going to get any better and I guarantee you he will never change. Cheaters never do - male or female.
2007-01-11 13:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once he'll do again, he got cheating on his mind otherwise, he wouldn't want to go back to the same place. I'm sure she stills goes to this same club and they have probably had contact with each other and have something planned. You said he cried , those were crocodile tears. He got away with it once and he thinks no problem, I can just put the sob story on her. Follow him set a table far way from him and watch , I did that and it was one big party for him. By the way we're divorced, you get my drift.
2007-01-11 13:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah what Lilith said .
2007-01-11 14:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋