how do i tell my wife that i want a divorce? i have met someone that will meet all of my needs. i always tried with my current wife to make her happy but she just uses me. plus i never have sex with her. she doesnt want to have sex for some reason. please let me know.
2007-01-11 05:01:02 · 28 answers · asked by astone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you are going to have to be open and honest with her. Its only right. If the shoe were on the other foot how would you want to hear it???
2007-01-11 05:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by lady bug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have got to be kidding!
No one ever meets ALL your needs. The only reason you are even thinking about divorce is because you've found someone to have sex with. So look down the road in about 5 years. Is that new person going to meet all your needs then too? Or are you just a shallow cheater hopping from wife to wife?
Get real! Grow Up! Be a man! Look at the mess you are making of your life!
2007-01-11 13:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best course of action is to talk to her and like the other guy said, be honest. Sit down and talk about all the troubles that you have in your marriage and decide what issues can be worked on and which ones can't. In today's world people are quick to up a leave when things don't go the way the expect them to. That is fine when you are dating, but we are talking about marriage here. The value of marriage has dropped to an all time low and people think it is a joke. Do you still love your wife? That is really what you should be asking yourself. Does the girl you are messing with now really make you happy or is the happiness you feel with her caused by the fact that she fills the voids that you have in your troubled marriage? Before you throw all the years you have invested in your marriage at least try to make it work. If you have tried and it still fails then by all means get a divorce and move on with your life.
I am divorcing myself after 6 years of marriage and a year of counseling we just found that we didn't real mesh that well, but at least we tried to make it work. Good luck to you, it is never easy brother let me tell ya.
2007-01-11 13:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel used by your current wife, because you never have sex with her? Have you asked her why she doesn't want to have sex anymore? Is the lack of sex your primary problem in the marriage?
Keep in mind that things may change with your new lover, once you've left your wife. You may find that she's not as accommodating as you think. However, If this is really what you want, simply tell your wife you want a divorce. For all you know, she may feel the same way.
2007-01-11 13:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you are wrong for leaving your wife because you think you found someone who will meet your needs, well guess what in a few yrs it will be the same story, when you marry someone you say " for better or for worse" well instead of working on your marriage you are just going to find something new and move on, i guess you just need to go to her and tell her " hey i am a coward, and i did not take my vows seriously, and i want to see someone else who i think can meet all my needs" of course this other woman will only meet your needs for a little while and then you will find something wrong with her
2007-01-11 13:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before you began another relationship u should have had a discussion with your wife, and at least given her a chance to change the things she needed to. the new relationship u think will meet your every need will not, in a year or so u will be in the same delima as u are now. just be honest, and leave her, she don't need any more heartache from u. hope u get everything u deserve.
2007-01-11 13:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to tell someone you want a divorce. So just tell her. What's more important your happiness or being miserable. Take the step and just tell her straight out.
2007-01-11 13:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say exactly what you said here
"honey I want a divorce, I have needs and Ive met someone who can meet them, i want us both to be happy but Im not happy in this marriage and I feel you arent either"
Just be honest...shell respect you more for it later
2007-01-11 13:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wanting a divorce for the wrong reasons.....another woman. The grass is NOT greener......and truth be told, it's even harder to mow! Work things out with your wife. If you showed HER the attention you're showing that other woman, maybe she would want sex too.
2007-01-11 13:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, you should have told her this before you found someone else. You make all women suspect men because of your way of thinking. Maybe you should have tried to work on your marriage first, now your hopefully going to get into a worse relationship. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED!
2007-01-11 17:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its quite simple .. just tell her you want a divorce you obviously cant do anything to not hurt her feelings because you have already spent the time finding someone else. . you should of divorced her before you met someone else .. but yeah just tell her straight up
2007-01-11 13:04:58 · answer #11 · answered by Brittany K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋