Hi -
I (unfortunately) share custody of my seven y o daughter with my ex. He wants to get more time with her, but he already has sufficient visitation. Do I have to entertain his petty requests, or can we just stick to the old schedule that was working out fine? She spends plenty of time with him, and she has a little sister (my youngest) who she loves to spend time with too. How do I get him off my back?
2007-01-11 05:01:00 · 13 answers · asked by mommydearest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with theofloff. If your ex wants more time have him go through the court.
2007-01-11 05:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by water.bratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really bitter. Maybe you need to take yourself out of the situation a little bit. It's not up to you to decide if your child and her father have "sufficient time together" because you don't like him. That's your kid's father. And no matter what else he may or may not be, he'll always be that. The more you try to keep them apart or say little mean things about him, the more the kids will want to be around him. If he wants to revisit the custody schedule and your kids want that as well, then suck it up and do it. You're the one who choose this man to father your child. Now deal with it like an adult and put your personal drama aside. Your children are lucky their father loves them and wants to see them. A lot of kids don't have that at all.
2007-01-15 12:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your call to decide if he has "sufficient visitation".
I don't think a father's request to spend more time with his daughter is "petty".
Statistics show women who were raised without a father figure have lower self esteem and other emotional problems.
I recommend to do what is in the best interest of your daughter.
2007-01-11 14:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What seems to be appropriate visitation for you, may be inappropriate for him. If you share custody, it is much easier to get a peaceful and out of court agreement to longer visitation, as long as he is not abusive to the child.
But you obviously hate the man. However, that is not an excuse to prevent him to spend more time with his child. If you don't agree to longer time peacefuly, he can request that time through the court, and you will be the one to lose.
2007-01-11 13:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by David G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be technical he can go to court and try to get 50/50 if he wants. It would be up to a judge if he granted him that. I guess just tell him that your sticking to the visitation schedule you guys already have in place and that's it. You'll be hearing about it if he decides to go to court asking for more legal time with his daughter.
2007-01-11 13:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your daughter what she wants and go from there. I can't see her wanting more time with her dad when she has a sister at home. But remember he could be bribing her too. The whole situation is tough. My ex wasn't paying child support and spend tons of money last christmas on my two boys so they could see how great it could be at his house. Exs can be snakes!
2007-01-11 13:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Man, you should feel great that he wants to spend more time with her! Do you know how many fathers don't even care to see their kids?
Sit and talk. Why not squeeze him in on more time. That should be between him and your daughter.
Be a nice mommy and give him more.
2007-01-11 13:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's an odd thought... Maybe you should consider how difficult it must be for a child to have to have split time between her parents. And that just maybe she would benefit and be happy to have a little more time with her father.
2007-01-11 13:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to give him any more visitation than the court ordered! Make sure your daughter never feels caught in the middle!
2007-01-11 13:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just comply with the current order. If he wants more time he can go back to court and request it. But let him figure out that one on his own.
2007-01-11 13:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋