I suspect my partner of having an affair with one of her colleagues. She is a manager. She has several men and and two women as her staff. She is exceptionally friendly with the manager of another branch nearby and has several times wanted to go to overnight conferences with him as driver navigator ( she says). After recently throwing her mobile on the floor and damaging it, she asked if I could get it going. I eventually got it working and while she was sitting across from me I pretended to 'test' it. In her Inbox were several messages from the 'suspect' but I was only able to read two of them without raising suspicion. The first was in REPLY to (I assume) to a suggestive message from her. It read..." Oh, you are naughty,....but I like you! x". The second was also a reply to suggestion from her and read......" Why?, have we arranged a snogging session for the new year?.x). Can anyone guess what the 'suggestion' was?. (I know that 'snogging' meant bonking.)
2007-01-11 04:59:48 · 26 answers · asked by JohnH(UK) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
.I dont think they are having an affair just flirting...she obviously wanted you to see them and is playing games with you..maybe you are not showing her enough attention and shes trying to make you jealous.
2007-01-13 21:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that snogging meant bonking?
This could be an affair, but really has all the signs of innocent flirtation. Some women just like to flirt and some people act completely different with their work colleaugues than their partners imagine.
If your wife spends a lot of time at work then it is fair to say that these people are her friends and that she probably spends a lot more time with them than with you. Sure this can develop into affairs but it is much more likely to be friendly flirting. Maybe you just need to ask her, but don't go accusing her.
hope this helps
2007-01-11 05:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by peachybumcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Snogging means kissing not bonking!
I think she's obviously being very flirty but that doesn't mean something has happened, but then it doesn't mean that something never will! This needs to be nipped in the bud! I suggest texting the number pretending to be your partner and see what happens! Or keep checking her phone! Does she not have a sent items folder on her phone? xx
2007-01-11 08:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by lou lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could be having an affair but surely if she was she would cover her tracks a little better.
Did she know you'd read her texts? what was her reaction?
You have 2 choices really , you either forget it and decide to trust her or you follow it through and be ready to face the consequences either way. Innocent or guilty you are both in for a rough ride.
2007-01-14 02:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's smoke, there's usually fire. There is a wonderful website that provides things for you to look for to confirm or deny your suspicions, it has a forum that was very helpful to me when I went through this myself. If she is so bad at covering those tracks, then I'll bet she's not covering them in other areas.
Look at her phone when she's sleeping.
Follow her when she's on a trip. If you feel like she'd spot you, get a friend to do it.
There will be more tips on that site. One thing that site teaches you is that the cheater ALWAYS denies it. It is a type of addiction and addicts normally lie about their problem. Good luck and get ready because it gets worse before it gets better.
2007-01-11 05:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does seem that she is at it, the trust is gone (or it sounds like it is) best dump her and move on. I had a relationship like that and it ends up sending you round the bend.
Don't hold onto something that is finished, even if she is just "flirting" with this other chap, you have to ask yourself do you want to go on like that? Difficult to make the break though it may be, she clearly isn't happy with you (or she wouldn't be trying it on withsomeone else) once it's broken you can't fix it even though you think you can.
Time to get out whilst the going is good
2007-01-11 05:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Snogging means kissing.
Sounds like she is having an affair or is seriously toying with it.
Check that - "driver/navigator"??? GIVE ME A BREAK WOMEN NEVER DO THIS
unless she is boinking him
I would bet $100 she is doing him
2007-01-11 05:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grab her phone now and have a look,
at the end of the day if u suspect anything its best to confront her about it,
ok so maybe the answer is its all harmless but at least ur mind is at ease! u will go mad if you dont know so dont waste time and get it sorted right now! hope the answers are all good and that ur being stupid!!!
2007-01-11 05:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
check her emails' also does she sleep with her phone under her pillow this is a common sign that a woman has something to hide. Also look in her undies draw for any new undies that might look appealing to the man's eye. Does she still show you affection or make girly giggle comments when this other man is mentioned. these are signs to look out for.
2007-01-11 08:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by chicky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
drop her or better still HAVE AN AFFAIR YOURSELF. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE AND DO YOU REAALY WANT TO BE QUESTIONING YOURSELF AND YAHOO FOREVER MORE BECAUSE OF A MISTAKE YOU MADE. LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL..................I'll explain. Do you really want to lead yor whole life by an answer you got of a computer. I suppose my answer is more akin to revenge but if you feally have any sellf respect then drop the b*tch. Pull yourself together and give me a call. 07842798660
2007-01-11 06:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Snogging is kissing!
Just sounds like banter to me and flirting.
Don't think it is anything to worry about......yet!
Wouldn't do anything just yet - she obviously hasn't given you any other reason to suspect and if she was seeing him don't you think you would already have had some suspicions???
2007-01-11 05:22:56 · answer #11 · answered by peachy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋