He passes out from drunkness almost every day. He doesn't hurt us physically but I don't like to leave him alone with the kids because he might drink to much and pass out. When he is not drinking he is wonderfull but he is more than not. I'm a Christian so I don't think I can leave him what do you think?
2007-01-11 04:52:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make him stop first of all.
You have to make sure you and your children are taken care of therefore you should find a support group for your own sanity.
Lots and lots of prayer and frankly I don't advocate divorce, but being Christian does not mean that you have to live with him.
Get out now, and if he wants to change then you can start talking about that process, but talk with a Christian counselor.
Your children do not need to be subjected to this and it is your responsibility to ensure they are protected from his behavior since you are the responsible one at this time.
Furthermore you must realize that while he may not be hitting you physically or be abusive at this time... it could be just around the corner. And his behavior is damaging your children and you right now. It doesn't have to get physical.
You do not say if he is Christian.
If he is not there is plenty of scripture to help you through at this time.
You really need to find Christian Counseling, Look up Stephen Ministry on the web, and go to Al-Anon. Each of these sources will help you through the rather long process of getting you and your children in safe place.
2007-01-11 05:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should get help for yourself and your children. You can not make anyone stop drinking, that is up to them. Try going to your local Al anon meetings for help, sit listen to the suggestions, keep an open mind. As said before being a Christian has nothing to do with it. YOU need to go to get help. Do not think that your 2 small kids don't know what is going on, children learn what they live, children live what they learn. Make a difference in their lives and yours go get some help.
2007-01-11 13:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does CHRISTIAN have to do with it? You mean only if he beats the crap out of you are you allowed to leave him? or is that not part of the Christian faith either?
Ya I'm sorry that's not a good enough excuse.
Your right about one thing, NEVER EVER LEAVE THE KIDS WITH HIM. He needs to get him self into a program. I'm sure that wont be easy since most Alcoholics don't ever think they have a problem. You really are going to have to get him to get cleaned because THAT IS NO WAY TO RAISE A FAMILY.
2007-01-11 12:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, I only left him for a while. I taught him his lesson and he got help. I then came back and worked on other areas of our lives. But growing up with a drinking dad, I did not want that for my kids so i chose the best solution. Everyone is different.
2007-01-11 13:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by CityGirl_loveselvis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered doing an intervention? Obviously your husband needs some serious help. If he is abusive you may consider leaving him for a while--this may be the wake up call he needs. Nowhere in the Bible does it say a woman cannot leave her hubby temporarily----will pray for your situation. Blessings
2007-01-11 13:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not willing to leave him then really just hush up about it and don't let the kids stay with him alone. Do you really think you are doing those kids any good by staying with this man and having them raised by a drunk? If your kids end up drunks when they grow up remember to point that finger at yourself for the blame for allowing this to be their life growing up.
2007-01-11 12:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need to get him some help, as just how long do u think u can stay in a marriage like this? even a christian can take only so much.
2007-01-11 12:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband has a bad problem. The best thing to do is take your children and leave him until he stays sober, that way he knows that you are serious. If you did leave him, he would see what he's doing to himself and his family. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-11 13:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by karsen_10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you owe it to your kids to get them away from that environment. You don't have to divorce him, but at least separate. It may be the wake-up call he needs to get himself together. Why should he if you just allow this behavior. He isn't much of a role model for those kids either now is he?
2007-01-11 12:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your children come first! This is not a constructive environment for them, and unless he gets professional help, he should not be around them. Call your local Alcoholics Anonymous and ask for help; they will be glad to give it!
2007-01-11 13:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋