I want to be pregant and i am only 14...........................?

Question

I am only 14 but i want to be pregant because then i can be younge when my child grows up but i think that if i get pregant my parents are most likely to flip so i dont want to get pregant unitl i know that it is okay with them but is this wrong or me to want to be prgant because i have a love for babies and i love how cute and stuff and like taking care of them so i want one of my own but is that so wrong of me to think i want to be pregant????

Answer 1

extremely wrong. you are still a baby yourself, your considered young if you have babies in your 20's, go talk to your mom right now and don't have sex, your too young for that too

Answer 2

I read this question as my own 2 and a half month old infant cries in the background and wish I could talk to you more than through the internet. Although I am married and no longer in school, there are MANY things I wish I had done before deciding to have children. Don't get me wrong, babies are wonderful, and I love my own dearly, but they are A LOT of work! 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with no breaks! Think carefully before you make a decision - it isn't only your own life a stake here. Can you afford to care for a baby? They go through roughly 90 diapers a week - that's anywhere between $12-$20, plus the cost of wipes, powder, lotion, soap, shampoo, etc.... The average labor and delivery in the US costs more than $10,000!! And that's if your birth is uncomplicated - with no meds! Epidurals are expensive! Not to mention ALL those OB/GYN visits for the 9 months of pregnancy. Plus, being younger than 18 puts your baby at risk for certain birth defects. What about school? You won't have time to finish for a very long time. Work? Daycare? Let me warn you, babies ARE cute and adorable, but at 3 in the morning when they've done nothing but scream for the past five hours, and you are exhausted, they don't seem so cute anymore.....Weigh your options - but realize this is a life-long commitment, and you still have a lot of your own young life left that you should be enjoying without a child of your own. It's the most challenging job you'll ever commit yourself to.

Answer 3

How do you expect to go to school, take care of a baby, and work? There is no possible way you are financially capable of taking care of a baby at only 14. Why don't you get a job babysitting or as a teacher's aide at a daycare. Just because you want to be young when your child grows up is definately not a good reason to have a baby. You need to wait until you're at least out of High School, financially stable, and in a stable relationship with someone you know beyond a shadow of a doubt will not abandon you. You seriously can't pin your baby on your parents either. Wait a few years, see if you still feel the same way.

Answer 4

I think you're seeing the trend here - you are too young to be a good mother and you will NOT be happy with a baby this young.

Still, at 14 you need convincing don't you. Ever babysit an infant? You need to do it. And I'm not talking about for a hour while momma runs out to the store - committ yourself to watch an infant for the whole afternoon every day after school for a week or two. If nothing else, you'll earn some cash - but I'm betting you'll get more out of it than that. You'll learn about changing diapers, being thrown up on, holding a screaming siren that is incapable of telling you what's wrong but will not shut up until you figure it out for yourself, and much, much more.

Now, imagine that is your life all day every day. You're getting a little closer to reality now. Add a landlord putting all your things out in the street and locking you out of your home because you can't take care of your baby and hold down a job at the same time. At 14 you couldn't earn enough money to pay for child care so this is what will happen. Also imagine no boyfriend because no one your age is going to want to deal with a baby.

And imagine that it's not going to get any better because you have no education, no skills, and no time/money to gain either now that you're tied down with a baby. Your parents aren't going to want that for you because they love you. If you did get pregnant your parents would make you give the baby up for adoption because it would be better for you and the baby both.

Trust me - try the babysitting thing. You'll feel different afterward.

Answer 5

You aren't old enough.There is so much you don't know yet. I was the same way when I was your age, thank goodness I didn't follow through!

I found after doing some soul searching (I'm 30 now)
That the reasons I was feeling this way were that my relationship with my parents was not good. I wanted to love a child and be in that pure state again.
There is no way I could have offered my two kids then what I can now.
Single motherhood is one of the hardest things a person can do and all my friends that chose to be pregnant young (or didn't choose) love their kids but would not have them that young if they could do it again.
you should talk to a health nurse or a councilor, and tell them what you are thinking and feeling.

Also don't be hard on yourself for feeling this way!!
These thoughts mean:
-you are a deep loving person
-you will be a wonderful mother when you are older
-you need to feel unconditional love, in time you will live and learn and meet your husband and have a life they way it should be, if you slow down and be the best person you can be for a while.
-you have to remember that you have just started into puberty (maybe a couple years ago still i say just started)
your hormones are very powerful. Focus on enjoying your young adulthood so that you will grow with wisdom into a woman who is strong, wise and capable.
You are wonderful as you are, just hang in there for a few more years.
I can relate to you so bad it scares me...please don't go get pregnant, talk to someone (adult that you trust)PLEASE

Answer 6

It is not wrong to want something.

It would be very wrong to let it happen.

At your age
- there would be a much higher chance of perterm birth and a very sick baby who would be in the hospital for months or might die
- it would be very hard on your body too
- you wouldn't be the real parent, legally. Your parents would have the final say to overrule you in any descision you might want to make. Or Child Services might step in and appoint a legal gaurdian.
- How would you finish school? What kind of example would it set for your child if you didn't?
- How would you buy your child food and clothes and provide safe shelter? What about toys and extras?
- How much would you actually get to see your child if in a couple of years you were abandoning the child at daycare all day or at grandparents day and night so that you could work two or three low paying jobs just to pay the rent?

Go ahead and dream about having a baby. Babysit and spend time with other babies. Make plans for when you do have one, if you like. But be very careful and wait to actually have one until you can be the best mother possible to your baby. You don't want to feel guilt and regret for how you've failed your child every time you look at them.

Having a baby is a huge responsibility. And the first part of fulfilling that is being willing to wait.

Answer 7

Getting pregnant at 14 would likely be the worst mistake of your life.

You are going to have to take care of that baby for the next 18 years, and how exactly are you going to do that? You are four years away from being able to get a job. Without an income who is going to feed and clothe this child? Without a job who is going to provide the health care insurance? Who is going to look after it while you get your GED? What kind of income are you going to make with a GED and no college?

It is clear from your writing that you are painfully immature, even for a 14 year old. You are not mentally or emotionally equipped to raise a child. It is also likely that there will be no father figure in your life, since the odds of you still being with your present boyfriend three years from now is almost zero.

Start thinking about having kids in college and consider having them in your early 20s when you have a good job, a home, a marriage, and the ability to raise a child in a positive environment.

Consider too that having a baby will damage your body in various ways and it will never be the same again. While your friends are out partying you will be working as a mother. It's not fun, and it's not smart.

Answer 8

You can borrow mine kids for a week they are 8 and 6 and a little more self reliant than a baby is, and then tell me in a weeks time if you still want them. Kids are tough work, EXPENSIVE!!! and take 100% of your time.

Babies are cute and cuddly but think about when they are not, like when they are screaming at the top of their lungs for hours and there is nothing you can do, its nerve wracking! A baby of your own never leaves, they need you ALL the time 24/7 they need to be changed, fed, burped, cleaned, diapers changed seems like every 30 minutes, taken to the doctor, held, you need medicine, formula, clothing, housing, bedding, car seat, car, gas to name a few! Diapers alone are $25 per pack (approx 52 in size 1) IF you just use one package a week (ha that's funny) that alone without anything else like diaper rash, wipes, soiled clothes is $100 a month on the bare minimal side. And that's just diapers

Having children is a huge responsibility! and I'm sure that you want the very best for them. So go to school, go to college, live your life, buy a house with a backyard, so they have a safe place to play, and a stable environment. Have a good career so that you can send them to college, and little league, dance class, art class, Disneyland, the movies to name a few or just to be able to buy christams gifts for them. But dont forget Easter (basket approx $30, Halloween (costume approx $30), 4th of July, Presidents day, New Years, School Supplies, Clothing, Toys, Doctor Visits, Medicine, FOOD, Bathing supplies and the list goes on.

Best advice is get a babysitting job and wait to have your own kids until you can give them the very best!

Answer 9

We were all young once and I did want a baby at a young age (at one time) but you need to discuss this with your parents because my want for a baby was to be loved from something and that was why I wanted one. You may need more one on one time with your parents and the want that you have would go away. I didn't have my first child until I was 21 and MARRIED.

You are too young and your body isn't ready to carry a baby. Babies may be cute to look at and to take care of SOMETIMES but they are ultimately hard work. There are many sleepless nights and a huge financial burden that you couldn't handle right now. Go to school and then go to college so that you can provide the best for your children when you are older. You can still have a child and grow up with it but you are WAY to young to be thinking about a baby.

Try volunteering at your church or babysitting on the weekends for friends and family this will change your mind in a heartbeat. Ask for a baby doll or something but you need to be thinking about getting other things done in your life then having a baby.

Answer 10

Sweetie, you can be 20 years older than your baby and still be a young mom. Babysitting and being a mother's helper is a great way to feed your baby fever.

Becoming a teen mom will cheat you out of your childhood and teen years. It's not all that easy and the fun is highly overrated when you can't hand that baby off to another person when you are exhausted.

Your earning power is significantly diminished, you won't be able to have choices that are your own.

Bottom line, I loved babies at 14 but waited a long time to be a mom. When I became a mom, I was ready and had a successful marriage and a bank account that enabled us to have a home and security. When the babies came home, I was ready because I DID have experience as a babysitter and a mother's helper.

Be patient, talk to your mom and dad.

Answer 11

U are only 14..u still have years before deciding to have a child. Wait until u finish school and get a job. At least until u are 18. Babies might be cute and fun to look at and play with but it is not easy..especially for a young mother. How are u going to buy everything the baby needs? Diaper,clothes,bottles,formula,wipes,medicine,doctor visits,child careetc. Babies are very expensive.u are looking at spending well over a couple hundred each month. They are also hard work,waking at all hours of the night,crying,sick etc. U cannot raise a baby being a baby yourself. Just wait when u are ready and stable..Ur baby deserves the best care possible.