i've been married for 13years with 3 beautiful daughters that i love very much.my husband left me for another woman.since he left i cant eat or sleep. he did not give me money for the kids, he didn't call them or see them.i dont know what to do.my heart been broken in little pieces.i feel lonely and hurt.tell me how to get over him please.i dont know how to let go.i've never been with anybody else but him.its hard for me .please help me
2007-01-11 04:40:24 · 9 answers · asked by kency 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From a quick reading, I agree that you must find yourself a lawyer and ask for economic help and yes, divorce the gy, since he left you, you got the wining side.
Now, most important, your feelings, its totally normal what you are going through, time will make it heal, your heart will survive from this terrible betrayal, there is no hurry in getting over him, I know it feels terrible and you want to erase that hurting feeling but it doesnt work like that; its hard but you will do it, you got no other choice.
You mentioned that you cant sleep nor at, its reasonable, its all the pain in your heart; go and talk with a professional about your pain; I once lost someone very special to me in different circunstances and I even went to the pshychiatrist for help! (but best thing Ive done..specially cause I started having some sleep).
You need all the help in the world and your beautiful daughters need the help as well, mostly cause kids often think it was their own fault what happened, they dont really understand like grown ups do; if someone else can be close to them, professional or an auntie or someone would be very cool.
All of this thats going in on its terrible, sounds like a man with a middle age problem, he will regret what he has done to his family; but someone who had the heart to do that its never worth of your time nor your feelings. Letting go takes time, there is no magical solution, but trust me, eventually you will.. one day you will realize its not so important to you; try to make new friends, enjoy more your daughters, go and talk about it.
good luck.
2007-01-11 05:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by luisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ease up.
Dont beat yourself up over this.
I know it is an agonising time and that your daughters must also be suffering watching their mother go through hell.
Set yourself an agenda to get you through this period.
Get your hair done.
Count what you have sacrificed while he was in your life and go and reclaim yourself.
Time will change the way you feel.
Nurture yourself, spoil yourself and let him see what he has forsaken in his folly.
Show your daughters that a woman has an inner strength way beyond a mans, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel,
or life after deception.
I am sorry for you and your daughters.
Not ll men are as cruel as he is.
Email me if you need a friend
2007-01-12 01:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He never helped you at all? I would be heading to the courts to get myslef some child support for these kids first and foremost, as well as filing divorce papers. No matter what he says or tries to make you fell. Then you should consider talking to a counselor to realize that you are a good wife and mother, afterall, you aren't the one who strayed and treated your marriage and family like it meant nothing. YOU have every right to be hurt, but do not let him bring you down. Get out and take walks, get some sunshine, think about what you would like to do? Maybe go back to college or get a job to support your girls...but make daddy pay through the nose for treating you that way. He should be a man and at least help you and the girls get on your feet.
2007-01-11 12:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by LaRae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that will mend your broken heart. But it's time to get mad and move on...It's hard work but you can;'t be the victom any more. So your girls that a women doesn't need a man to live. Be good to yourself and to your girls because no one will do it for you. You need to take you ex to court for child support. Look to your community for help with legal conseling, mental couseling for you and your daughters. The more support you have thet better you'll begin to feel about your life. Good luck
2007-01-11 12:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Beans 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First dear you need to to realize that you wasteing your time crying over someone like that is not worth the effort. He is not worth another single tear from you eyes. You are better then that. You are worth more then that. Don't let him ruin the rest of your life while he has a good time. It is his loss not yours.
Second you need to have him start paying you child support. He need to know that he can not just make a babies and walk away.
Third Remember to take care of yourself that is one of the most important things. Without you where would your children be?
2007-01-11 14:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking?
You need to get money for the children both of you are responsible for. It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to see them, he is still financially responsible for them.
Get out of the house, get a job, get involved in doing something for someone else who needs help, and go to a divorce support group. Call some gal pals and have lunch.
Have a friend come over and help you go through the stuff you need to get rid of to help you not focus on him.
Make changes in your life that will benefit you and your girls.
2007-01-11 13:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first file child support and think of the hurt he is causing you why should you be making yourself sick when he is having a good time find someone too
2007-01-11 12:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that would be preety tough. im sorry. but i do want to tell you that even tho your hurting your girls are pretty hurt too so take care of them
2007-01-11 12:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's obvious. divorce...then go after him for child support.
2007-01-11 12:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋