No sex!!!!!!?

Question

My husband and I are a young couple ( I'm in my early 20's he's in his early 30's) and we don't have sex! O K maybe once every two weeks , and when we do have it its bad. It used to be wonderful and often. But for some reason he just doesn't want me anymore. I have to pratically beg for sex, I'm fustrated and he doesn't want to talk about it. What am I supposed to do????? I would never consider cheating under normal circumstances but a girl has needs.

No money problems, we both just got promoted and I really don't think he's cheating.

Answer 1

Same boat here, so I left my wife...you have to work this issue out or your marriage is doomed. First, decide if you want to stay married. If so, then you need to talk and possibly see a sex therapist, not a regular counselor.

Answer 2

OK couple of options talk to him figure out why the once hot flame is now a smoldering pile of ash until a breeze comes along. Second go to a store that sells hot irrestible lingerie, i dont know where you live but you could go to like www.fredricks.com it the online store of fredricks of hollywood and click on the seduction line they have some stuff that would really make his heart pound. I know if things with my hubby get slow i throw on something sexy and surprise him, then later i can remind him hey remember when i wore that lilttle black whatever and it gets him going again. If you have a store like that then go to it dont be shy it cant hurt to try it and if you dont know of any stores find out where girls from the local strip clubs buy their outfits, or you could go to the porn shop to find clothes as well maybe pick up something for you guys to watch together. I will tell you victoria secret doesnt have sexy lil things so avoid them unless you want the sexy smell then shop there but clothes are either lingerie shop or hop online. Hope this can help you two burn the house down. If it doesnt work for him either wear it for someone else or buy some toys to meet your needs

Answer 3

Although I'm male, I've "been there and done that"! I was married to a "none" myself, and I suffered during my 30's. Not to be too descriptive in my answer of what to do, you learn to get "up close and personal with YOU!" You're all you've got, so do what it takes, to not lose your mind. I was SO frustrated at times, but cheating is NOT the answer because you have to live with yourself afterwards. I have spent many a night walking the floor, needing a woman, like a dead man needs a casket. It's not easy, but it CAN be lived through. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Sounds like he's getting tired of being with the same women over and over again. I'm not trying to be mean, but it's a problem that some, if not most men have after being married for some time. I think it tends to happen rather soon and can correct itself if he doesn't decide to start cheating first. I wouldn't jump to conclusion and assume he's cheating since there is no proof of that, but it seems to me he is just bored.

Answer 5

There is probably an underlying issue that makes him not want to have sex. Stress at work, fear of not satisfying you, or maybe a health issue with him that he can't or won't talk about. Try talking to him, and if that doesn't work, try making it fun (dress-up, roleplay, whatever you can think of). But try to get to the root (no pun intended) of the problem. And don't cheat, once you do you can never take it back!

Answer 6

Well it's pretty sad that he WONT TALK ABOUT IT! because what else are you suppose to do? Ask him what should you do. Tell HIM at this time your not happy and your thinking that he's not happy! so what should the next step be? What does he want from your marriage that he's not happy about. Because he really does sound unhappy. Are you getting along with each other? Do you do things that annoy him? ask him tell him he's either going to TALK TO YOU, Or talk to a THERAPIST! which would he like to do. Because this is a very dangerous situation not being able to talk about it is NOT GOOD!

Answer 7

Counceling.........NOW!!!!

I'm 37, my wife is 28. We're the opposite. We have great sex all the time, but money has always been an issue. We have kids, so that's where all our money goes ya know??

If he shoots down the counceling, he's probably seeing someone. If that's the case, get a divorce and move on. No use in banging your head against a brick wall at your age.

Peace.

Answer 8

I feel your pain my problem is the exact opposite, no sex from her, she is never in the mood. No way she is stressed, sitting at home not working and only watching TV all day and chatting with friends can be stressful at all. I put in 60 hrs a week and try to be very romantic, taking her nice places and cooking her dinner and paying for our big house. She just ignores all advances except for maybe onece a month. I feel for you and hope it gets better

Answer 9

May be somethings is bothring him...do u ever talk about ur sex life??? he should know that u have needs too but i would say TALK to him....there r a lot of other thing otherthan money that can cause stress...so may be he is stressed..could be something at work or something in family...talk to him abt going to doctor...he could deny at first saying that everything is fine but assure him that u love him and it wont make any difference...so trusting, loveing and takling is the key here...best of luck sweetheart..

Answer 10

i dont know honey I would like to say its cuz your married now but i just got married last aug and our sex life is better then ever

maybe you should ask him if hes depressed or are you guys having financial problems? alot of things could play in to why your not having sex.

and sex isnt the most important thing in a relationship..but like you said a girl has needs so you need to be clear with him

sweetie if you dont see your self being happy in a sexless marriage then by all means get out...but just be sure youve tried everything else first. a marriage is worth saving...but its not worth wasting your life on it