This guy is 4 years younger than me (30, 33) so I've been dreading pursuing him for fear of rejection. On top of it all, last nite in my dream, we finally went out on a date and when I told him how old I was, he was shocked, promptly turned and walked away.
2007-01-11 04:06:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Science & Mathematics ➔ Alternative ➔ Other - Alternative
3 years right now cuz his bday just passed. 4 years once mine passes.
2007-01-11 04:13:27 · update #1
why fear anything?
your dream is your fear
pursue him
the worst that can happen is he can say no
2007-01-11 12:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
C.C. is right. It's not the age difference that is the problem here. It is the mutal feeling between the two of you that is the real question. Are the two of you friends or is this a guy you see running past or around the office? If you are friends, how close is the friendship? Does he share the same feelings that you do? These are just a few questions you need to be asking yourself. When you feel the time is right, go out for a cup of coffee or something and talk about it. The worst that can happen is you either find out you dont really like him or vic versa. Arcamedies(spelling?) said "Even though there are to sides to the coin, both sides meet in the middle somewhere".
2007-01-11 04:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That age difference is absolutely and perfectly within the age range of couples. Your age is fine. Younger couples have a difference in their emotional maturity, the girl being more mature than the boy of the same age. But you are both adults. I can understand being afraid of being rejected. That is natural. But did you plan on being the one to ask him out or are you talking about smiling and letting him know you are interested in him? Those details matter. Decide how much self-esteem you have to wager and then go ahead and smile at him every time you see him. If he never responds please don't feel bad. He may have another love interest somewhere else or he may not be interested in relationships and dating. Some men are extremely ambitious and take precautions not to become a regular date for anyone yet. Aw, go on. You want him. You know you do!! The worst that can happen will be if he doesn't keep smiling back!! GO FOR IT!! Show him those pearly whites at every opportunity. Wish I could be a fly on that wall!! (I miss out on everything!! Phooey!!) Good Luck!! @8=)
2007-01-14 16:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your subconscious has absorbed your fear and maybe that's why you dreamt of being rejected.
You age difference is not so dreadful, why don't you give it a try??? I am sure you do not want to ask yourself for the rest of your life: "What would have happened if I had pursued him more?" It is better to do something that maybe won't work out and say later "At least I tried" and go on with your life.
Good luck
2007-01-11 04:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by C.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams dont tell you what will happen. Dreams are just there to get rid of the bad things in your life and the more bad dreams you have the more good thoughts you will have. So smile and be happy
2007-01-13 08:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by punkman134 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i choose a guy who will hear, no longer purely hear what I' am asserting. somebody who has a impressive humorousness and not afraid to snort at themselves. somebody who's advantageous yet no longer overly so. somebody who will teach emotion and communicate returned, no longer purely close down whilst the going gets no longer hassle-free. somebody who's committed, unswerving, and honest. finally, a dream guy which will stimulate sexually as properly as intellectually with tips from pushing me added to be the final. a guy who isn't lazy and is going after what he needs in existence. with tips from being pushed and ascertain. As for bodily, somebody who's masculine, athletic shape and garments properly.
2016-10-07 00:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have that fear and your mind is working overtime. perhaps low self esteem// i get hit on lots from people younger than me age means nothing i just think your scared. when you look in the mirror are you looking the best you can look? if not fix it so you will be confident..
2007-01-11 16:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subconsciously you don't accept the age difference, even though the other guy might. You will always have these fears in this relationship.
2007-01-11 21:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by karldon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I am 4 years younger than my wife - so that little difference doesn't count.
2. If you believe your dream, it will get true eventually; it's called "self fulfilled prophecy".
2007-01-11 04:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Emil Alexandrescu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just your subconscious mind acting out your fears and telling you to face your fear. The only way to get over a fear is to face it. "It is better to loved and lost then to have never loved at all."
2007-01-13 08:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by ikeman32 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just your in security speaking. You are afraid of rejection. He may not even be worth your time. Age really doesn't matter. You are very young
2007-01-12 03:39:36 · answer #11 · answered by 14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋