Was I in the wrong?

Question

Here's the story:
My mother in laws husband asked me if he could go down on me, in exchange he would pay our electric bill while my husband was at work. I told my husband that he asked me, and he said to leave it alone. Well awhile later she told me that he was a convivted sexual predator, (which by the way has been around my children!) So I told her about what this sick man had asked me, and she thanked me for telling her, now she calls me at work asking me if I am seeing her husband, and pretty much harassing me about him. So Needless to say now I am THE SLUT, and she got back together with him. Was I in the wrong to say anything, or should I have kept my mouth shut, and what can I do to repair the damage with her or let it be as is? Thanks.

Answer 1

maybe u need to distance yourself and your children from this man, protect your kids, something like that could ruin their lives. your mother in law is in denial about him. he is a dirty old man, and also a pr editor. your husband should have confronted the man, that makes u feel as if your husband is a coward. unfortunately u can't repair this, the damage is done here. just be concerned about your kids safety.

Answer 2

This isn't your problem anymore. If your MIL wants to be around someone who cheats on her and shows her no respect, that's on her. But keep this man away from you and away from your family. And stop taking the MIL's calls. I would tell her once, firmly, "look, I did the right thing by telling you the truth. I don't know why you've decided to act as if I've done something wrong by being honest with you, but that's not my problem. I love you, and I know you can do much better than a sexual predator who would proposition your daughter in law. But if you want to keep that man in your life, that's fine You'll just need to leave me out of it." And stick to your guns. There is nothing else you can or should do. This is her problem to fix. I am surprised, tho, that your husband just blew it off like that.

Answer 3

You did the right thing by telling her what her husband proposed to you and discussing it with your husband. Your mother-in-law needs to know the truth. Whether she chooses to acknowledge it or not is her choice. Chances he is now preying on someone else and she is suspicious, which may be why she called you.

You can try to explain your position to your mother-in-law but she may not be very understanding until she sees what a sick person her husband is. In the meantime, take the necessary steps to keep you and your children from this man.

Answer 4

Protect yourself and your children. Your mother in law should be looking out for the best interest of her grandchildren. You were right to tell what this jerk was asking. Hiding it does not do anyone any good. Your mother in law will come around when she finds out the real truth. Still to your guns and protect your kids. If your mother in law is too dumb to see what her husband is shame on her. The truth will come out. Hold your head up high for speaking up and protecting yourself and your children.
Do not let her harass you either.

Answer 5

What is wrong with you? Why repair damage with a woman who is married to a convicted sexual predator, and didn't feel the slightest bit of concern to tell you because you have children who need to be protected. Think about your children why involve yourself with this mess, and possibly have harm come to your children or even you.

Answer 6

You did the right thing that man can not be trusted around any child nor woman. And if your man can stand up for you and say something to that sick f*** then you should leave him. And for his mother end your ties with her she isn't much better then her husband if she knows his history and stays with him. Think of yourself and your children's safety. Good luck!!!!

Answer 7

I wouldn't try to repair the damage at all and you were not in the wrong. They are sickos and I wouldn't want to be associated with them at all. Especially if he is a convicted sex offender?!! It's completely disrespectful to you- treating you like a hooker- and to your marriage. They are completely disgusting human beings! She is just as much at fault as he is for getting back together with him. I would especially not allow my children around these people!

Answer 8

what does your hubby think of it all i would not mend that relationship if she wants a perve i would let it be but she would not being seeing my kids he is a total perve i would never ever want either of them near my kids and fight for what yo think is right i hope your hubby is in your corner i don't care if it is his mother those kids don't need that, and if your kids are your hubby's he should be on your side and if they aren't and he doesn't agree there is no man as important as the well being of your kids and if your kids are old enough i would be asking questions to see if this perve has ever said or done anything to them for your sake i hope not good luck sounds like you are gonna need it.

Answer 9

1. You were certainally NOT in the wrong

2. Your MIL sounds like a nut case..no...IS a nutcase

3. Your FIL needs to be neutered

4. Your husband needs to take your FIL's now-neutered testicles and attach them to himself and address this issue once and for all.

Answer 10

RUN away from BOTH of them.

He LEGALLY cannot be around your children, and if something were to happen to a child at this house, she is going to be liable too because she allowed children in her home.