I am Bi sexual and I finally told my mom she hasn't spoken to me since has anyone had to do this before and get the same respoce should I tell my dad? my parents are divorced. I am still single but I just can't help the way I feel. Please responded or IM me at skatergirl3722 ( yahoo messenger)
2007-01-11 03:55:57 · 11 answers · asked by skatergirl3722 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your revelation probably just came as a shock to your Mother, my Dear One. She really does love you. Of course you can't help the way you feel. There's nothing wrong with the way you feel, provided that you practice safe sex and are careful with who you sleep with and what relationships you carry on with. A freind of mine once said "Bi-sexuals have the best of both worlds. They don't have to cut out half the population". I'll bet your Mom has already told your Dad (maybe not) but you should probably tell him anyways. Just be prepared for parental disapproval. As long as you are indeed the same good person that you still were and are, they'll see it too. Blessing to you.
2007-01-11 04:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, no its not wrong to be bisexual.... Being Bisexual just means your open to falling in love with either gender. Your not limiting yourself to just men or just women but prefer both.
Your parents don't really need to know your sexually. Alot of parents are old fashioned and think Bisexually doesn't exist. this may be because they were taught it was wrong when they were young or maybe it wasn't something that was spoken about back then like it is now.
I am assuming your a girl due to your yahoo messenger ID.... your mom will always love you. Your her daughter. She could just be having a hard time dealing with it. Maybe you should write her a letter or talk to her in private (no one else needs to hear) and find out whats bothering her.
She probably wants what every mother does.... her daughter getting married to a man and have kids. Yes you'll probably marry and have kids, she may be happy if its a guy but if its a woman, she'll have to accept it. That's who you fell in love with.
Remember, NO ONE has any right to tell you who you can and can't fall in love with. This includes which gender.
The world has changed.... its not the time were bisexual was kept in private and something never spoken about.
Your mom could just be worried cause a lot of bisexual girls are fakes. (not really being serious, just fooling around and end up getting hurt feelings especially if one was serious while the other goes "I don't think of you that way.")
What you feel is normal... .you love guys and you love girls. Nothing wrong with that. Your just open to both. Your mom will come around :-) You should talk to her. She may not have spoken to you but maybe she just needed time to let it sink in that her daughter is bisexual.
If you feel your dad may be more open about accepting then go ahead and tell him.... if not then maybe just keep it to yourself. He doesn't have to know..... BOTH parents should be happy with whatever you choose and whoever makes YOU happy. That's all parents really want... their son/daughter to be happy.
If they can't accept it then its their lost.
But don't ever let her or anyone tell you who you should love and not. Only you know what is really best for you.
2007-01-11 04:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking if it is wrong to be bisexual is like asking if it is wrong to be Chinese; you are what you are and that's it.
As for telling you Dad, that is a personal choice. I think that being out is a good thing, but it is a matter of what makes you comfortable. I know of very few people that are comfortable living in closets. How does he feel about gay and lesbian people in general?
As for your Mom, you may just want to give her some time to think about it. Many parents have to get themselves past thinking of their kids as cute little three year olds and start seeing them as sexual adults before they can deal with the idea of gay or bisexual.
2007-01-11 04:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never wrong to be who you are. If your attracted to both sexes, you have to act on it and do what makes you happy. Please don't confuse being attracted to both sexes with being greedy. I know some people who think they can have a boyfriend and a girlfriend cuz its only cheating if they are cheating with the same sex. (kinda confusing...sry. But in their twisted world, since I'm a girl dating a girl, i can date a guy and that's not cheating but if i date another girl it is... OK, hope that's a little more clear) Anywho, to answer your question. No, they need time to digest cuz its huge news. Just remember to be safe, be honest with all those involved and be you.
2007-01-11 04:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by {{...Ladi...}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nuthin wrong with it. you cant help it...its just how you are if people dont understand it, its not your fault its theres. i would try 2 talk 2 your mom about it and ya no explain it a lil more then she mite understand better ... hope that helps!
2007-01-12 11:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by kingofthecastle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in yourself. People will come around in time. Do whatever your feel is right for you.
2007-01-11 04:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being bi-sexual. your mom will come around. be safe.
2007-01-11 04:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by happybibottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one gets hurt its all good just be safe.
2007-01-11 04:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give your mother time to wrap her brain around that one . . . may take a while.
2007-01-11 04:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Freedspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...just be safe and don't hurt anyone...
2007-01-11 04:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋