My friend & I have been mates for almost 10yrs now. We both over 25 years old and we always shared our secrets with each other. Lately she hasn't been keeping my secrets, secret. I'd tell her a private matter and she'd either a) approach the other party and confront them b) open her mouth and tell everyone. I've approached her immediately and told her that what i've told her was in confidence & she shrugs and says she didn't know that. Another occassion, she arranged a suprise for me but someone ruined the suprise. She asked me who told me & i said i'm not goin to tell her coz i didn't want her to approach that person for ruining the suprise. Finally she dragged it out of me and promised not to approach that person = then immediately opened her mouth.
ITs all very dissapointing for me and i don't know what to do - do i continue our friendship seeing there is no more trust?
What would you do or how would you handle the situation?
PS. I have told her how i feel
2007-01-11 03:52:31 · 8 answers · asked by angelface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her nothing let her know she cant keep a secret
2007-01-11 03:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really sad that you both been best friend for 10 years... and both over 25 years old. and you have keep the secret when ever she told you and now you trust her you told her the secret and now she blah blah let the whole world know.
I think that rude for best friend to do that. Best friend always trust and keep it between two of people. Your best friend said I didn't know!?? and you already told her how you feel about she was doing. And she still doing it.
That bad when she try to dragged it our of you then promise but still immediately opened her mouth.
You know I have best friend she a woman and I am male and she have boyfriend for 13 years me I am marred and boths each have 3 kids and what ever we talk or shared it keep it secrets but i do let my wife know of course so as she. depend which one to tell your parnter...
But we been best friend for long long time. and Your best friend have no respect or anything I was wondering what she doing.... I think you still can be her best friend if you want but don't share anything with her... you can say how your day and my day was great make it plain and simple and soon or later she will get mad why don't you trust me and because not worth for me to tell you you open your mouth.... so if she didn't wnat to be your best friend that fine you will find someone better than her.
2007-01-11 04:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person can't keep a secret. Stop telling her secrets. If she asks why, tell her. A true friend will respect your trust, she does not. You might consider getting a new best friend.
2007-01-11 03:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by c.s. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people 'can't hold water so you know that can't hold their tounge', meaning that that can't keep a secret, so you shouldn't tell her your secrets or ATLEASR limit the information you provide her with. Only tell her enough so that she feels included, but if you fear she will drag the rest of it out of you, then dont tell her anything at all. Also, you should always remember "NEVER NAME NAMES!"
2007-01-11 04:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each of us have something dear inside of us a private space regardless of marriage or relations...that space is yours and nobody enters it.
If you do not hold on to what is sacred to you than you have left yourself wide open to be tortured and hurt by what you have revealed in trust. Trust no one when it comes to your private space not even your wife and it doesn't mean your doing wrong. You are entitled to your space.
It can have severe consequences when you allows anyone to see soemthing you hold sacred for your eyes only.
2007-01-11 04:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 00:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously has a problem!! i dont know about everyone else but i seriously dont think i could be friends with someone who cant keep my secrets!! you will always find new and better friends. she needs help i think. what is a friendship without trust?? not much of one to me!! good luck!!!! and go with your heart!! :)
2007-01-11 05:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by ♣Ally♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no true honesty there, how can you really consider her a friend. Friends like that, who needs it!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 03:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋