Please help me,i am in a lovely relationship with a lovely man and we have a wonderful little boy but my man has a girls number whom he wanted to pursue (before we met) and they occasionally text but am i being selfish as i dont see why he should have her number anymore and move on with his life with me.
2007-01-11 03:52:30 · 22 answers · asked by sarz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've been married to my wife for 15 years now and I've stayed friends with a gal I knew back in H.S. This gal and I were just friends but we both feel that it could have been something more if it were a different time in our lives. My wife tells me that she's not jealous about our friendship. This gal recently got divorced and started flirting with me again. This actualy made me uncomfortable and I told her this and now we don't comunicate much anymore. So what I'm getting at I guess is that you should just tell your man how you feel and ask him how he feels. I know now how you feel as my wife is now friends with a guy and it seems that she chats with him more than me. I now realize that it is partialy my fault because I'm not filling th void that she needs right now, you know we've become too busy with life in general and have grown apart some. So maybe you should ask yourself why he would need to comunicate with this other woman, are you there for him? And then again maybe it is just a friend, it is good for us guys to get advice now and then to spice things up if you know what I mean... I hope some of this helps, good luck!
2007-01-11 04:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by daremn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit i would be jealous too, but i am quite an insecure person and some times i find that due to my insecurites i sometimes get a bit paranoid and its horrible. i think the best thing to do is to talk to him and gently tell him that it bothers you that he has this girls number and it upsets you, if he loves you or respects you he would stop texting and delete the number. iam sure he would be jealous too if you were doing the same thing, why not even point that out to him. hope this helps good luck
2007-01-11 12:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by claire01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i have the same problem in my relationship apart from mine is long distance. I know my man will have female friends as i have male friends, but, this 1 girl really bugs me. He said he has been friends with her for ages but this girl is a flirt........and a pretty one at that. Jealousy is the ugliest emotion that humans possess and it cannot be helped. You need to tell your fella that you feel insecure about this.......he should reassure you and maybe you can meet the girl too. If he has got nothing to hide you can all be friends and you can realise that she is no compitition for you.
He would have got with her 1st if that was the case and left you hanging!!! Remember that.........he loves you!!!
2007-01-11 14:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie_Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get rid of the number at once! why on earth would he want to text this person in the first place?! dont even let him try to explain! this is unacceptable in a relationship! if he loves and respects you he will do it no questions asked! anyway, there would be something seriously wrong with you if you found nothing wrong with this!
2007-01-11 14:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by joanne f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all of us girl. Just remember the three important keys to a healthy relationship alrite:
1st: have trust in your man
2nd: have great communication
3rd: Give him some space.
Men like it when you let them have their space and hang out with their buddies. Do not b e jealous, be cause you could scare him away!
2007-01-11 21:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a woman he wanted to pursue before you,then he is being disrespectful.It all depends on if anything went on at all with this woman before he met you,or if any desire he had for her went out of the window when he met you,they might genuinely be friends.
2007-01-11 15:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be jealous! This was before you and he choose to be with you so he cannot have his cake and eat it! I am sorry, this is betraying the trust you should have in each other. He needs to get her out of his life because temptation is right there as long as she is! I would not be happy of this was the case with my fiance either! You have every right to ask him to stop texting her. What exactly is he telling her that he cannot talk to you about?
2007-01-11 12:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like that, you have every right to feel like you do. He should not even be texting this girl in the first place, out of respect to you. You can still be friends with people but not if it is going to make your spouse feel uncomfortable. Unacceptable!!!
2007-01-11 12:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man shouldn't be contacting a women he wanted to date (have sex with) now that he's in a relationship with you. If you've expressed your feelings, and he ignores you or them, some thing's going on. Put your foot down and be prepared to stick with your decision if he won't listen. There's only one reason for the two of them to keep communicating, and it's not to exchange casserole recipes.
2007-01-11 11:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by QTPYE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most of us do get jealous, - it's only natural! But every case is individual. Usually jealousy is the result of low self-esteem. Sometimes we feel we don't deserve our other halves and that's how we get jealous and paranoid about every female/male they have a friendship with.
The important thingis for you two to talk, tell him how you feel. Then go from there.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 11:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋