my husband's sister wrote him a letter wher she says as follow: (my brother since you are very unhappy and you cannot take any more make some plans to come back but with money. You should think more carefull since is not easy to star all over. You have you wife who loves you very much)
2007-01-11 03:45:16 · 19 answers · asked by monik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see nothing in this letter that suggests he doesn't love you. It says, "since you are very unhappy". Have you left some of the letter off? If not, the man could be unhappy about a lot of things. In fact, his sister encourages him to stay with his wife, which suggests something else. If she understood that he did not love you, why would she encourage him to stay with you?
You need to stop making assumptions and take the time to talk with your husband. Tell him you read his sister's letter and you want to know why he's unhappy. Talk to him with warmth and geniune concern. Ask him if it's something you've done, or something you can help him with. Then, listen to what he has to say.
2007-01-11 04:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Im a little confused did you just find this letter or has he told you he wanted to break up? If he truely does want to end it then there is nothing you can do. And why would you want to stay with someone who does not love you, I am sure you deserve better than that. I wish I could help more but not sure on the actual sircumstance. Good Luck
2007-01-11 03:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by little lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must communicate with him and find out from him what it is that he is unhappy about? The most important thing in a marriage is communication. If there is lack of it, mariage will only go downhill. Problems do get solved rather it ends positive or negative. You say you really love him. The best thing to do is talk to him.
2007-01-11 03:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think her sister is trying to say that think before you do any thing with the marriage since you are a loving wife but let me ask you some thing is your sex life going well if not then there are some issues remember do not argue with him just ask him if he can give you more time in the bed
her sister is looking out for him and telling him that it is hard for a divorced guy to start a relationship all over so
so this is what i think you need to do get emotional in front of him and tell him that you are his last love and you do not want to loose him go up to a point where he gets emotional with you too then you would know how much he loves you
generally we men do not like to get emotional but if some one we love gets emotional in front of us we tend to care for them
2007-01-11 03:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by khanaliimran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him but listen to what he has to say. Don;t get defensive if he says you do this or that but listen to him and try to figure out if he has a point. People are pleased in different ways. Some people need conversation to be pleased while others just need to be near each other. For example if he says he's bored, find out what his definition of fun is, not just yours. This could be where the problem is coming in at.
2007-01-11 03:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with your husband ,he just might be depressed or he wants time on his own ,to sort his feelings out ,just give him some time .
If then he as no feeling for you it is time to call it a day, and sort your life out the best way you can,and i know it will be very hard, i wish you all the luck in the world
2007-01-11 04:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that was nice that his sister is thinking of you, its to bad he is not. this is something he should have been talking with you about, but beings he has not. all you can do is move on with your life and it sounds like your going to have to do this with out him. sure you love him and don't want it to end, but at the same time why on earth would you want to try to spend your life with someone that has made it clear to other people that he is no longer happy with you? I'm sorry that you had to find out the way you did, but you did so now it is time to think about where your going from here.
2007-01-11 03:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first where his heart is at, his sis is telling him he needs to really think about what he is doing, he must be having conversations with her about being unhappy and asking her if he can come back. something is on his mind, something that he has been unable to work out, that is making him feel as if there is no hope, u need to find out first what it is, if he doesn't love u, there is nothing u can do about it, but set him free, and allow him to move on.
2007-01-11 03:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it cant get much worse
Onwards and upwards love. Either tell him your not happy that he's not happy and to come to an arrangement or leave and start fresh, its not the end of the world and you can do anything you put your mind to.
Best of luck
2007-01-11 03:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband - what is his feelings. Maybe he is going thru a mid life crisis thing and is unsure of his feelings. Maybe he talked it over with his sister and this is her responce.
You need to discuss with your spouse - have open communication
2007-01-11 03:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋