I have been separated for 6 months now. I put him out because he
recieved a text mess from some girl asking him if he was busy?
I have no proof of them ever having sex? I now what him back. He wants to come home. For some reason I alway bring that text mess up. Please how can I forgive and forget? I do truely love him. The only man I have been wit for 12yrs. married 8yrs. 1 son.
2007-01-11 03:40:43 · 10 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-11 03:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you put him out because of one text message without all the facts, that was pretty strong of you. What has he been doing for the last 6 months? Is that going to bother you too, if and when you let him come back? If you have been doing good to be without him for that long then maybe you should leave it that way. There's probably alot more to the story now that he has been out of your eye sight for 6 months. If you let him come back, you will have to push that part out of the picture, if you want your relationship to be successful. Everyone deals with things differently so, I guess the best thing for you is to put your priorities in line. Your child being the top, the history (time) that you have together, the fact that you are married. After taking a good look back on all of that, the text shouldn't seem so big of a deal to you. Try to just let it go, everytime you start to think about it, PUSH the thought out of your head. Make the other things more important to you and keep it that way.
2007-01-11 03:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's right girl show him he can't play with you. Kicking him out was the right thing to do. But now it's time to get your man back. You want him back before the world sucks him up and you will lose him for sure. Stop playing the victim part in get your man. Otherwise other women will. And then your going to be really crying. And your son needs the both of you. When you feel like bring it up take a time out. Tell your husband I need a time out. That means take a walk or just be by yourself and him not talking to you at that moment. Let him know baby I need a time out. Your the one who is going to part your family for some girl. You need to tell your husband never again. And if that girl calls back you get on there in tell her. Not to text or call your husband ever again. And if it don't stop by him a new phone with numbers. Its very easy to resolve this problem. You need to read the proper care and feeding of husbands and the both of you need to read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger.GET YOUR MAN BACK.
2007-01-11 04:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to ask yourself if you trust him, that is key.
The only way to truly make the relationship work is for you to fully forgive him and vow not to bring it up.
Air it all out and let it go (I know, easier said then done)
My Husband had made some mistakes years ago and up until about 3 months ago I would always bring that up. I learned that I had to let it go and fully move on. It has been hard but I have done it and so can you.
2007-01-11 03:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well event though you didn't have any proof of him cheating, you probably felt it for a reason..usually your gut is always right. but if you now feel strongly that he wants to come home and be a good boy, then maybe you should give it a try. but you NEED to have a talk with him before and explain to him that you cannot forget that text message and he needs to gain your trust again..start back slowly, but if it ever happens again, then you know he will not change
2007-01-11 03:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should have talked to him before u threw him out, and seen where his heart was at. but maybe he realizes he did wrong, and if u truly love him, let him off the hook, and bring him home. if he wants to come home, u are one of the lucky ones indeed, most of them want to stay with the other woman.
2007-01-11 03:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he living in and all boys society off course he has girlfriends but the real issue is if you trust him enough sorry to say because i don't know the whole story you all seem to be together to long to bother yourself with technology move on
2007-01-11 03:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by tease :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say time is a great healer. Your going to love again when you're ready. If you still trust him, take him back.
2007-01-11 03:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by angel007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time and he has to earn your trust. Be patient and good things will come.
2007-01-11 03:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells u, but if u r never going to be able to trust him again, then i dont see much point of trying.
2007-01-11 03:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by greengrass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋