My husband when he was in his 20's told me that he let a man go down on him and they use to jack each other off. He told me that was the only expereince he ever had. We move into our new home and I am going through his army book and there is another picture of him and this male touching tounges.
I am very understanding about this and would not change my opinion of him, but he swears up and down that that was in his past and has no attraction for men. I am bi and I would like to know the secrect of how you can at one time be attracted to the same sex, but then it goes away? Is this possiable? Or is he just in the closent?
2007-01-11 03:40:04 · 10 answers · asked by brytezes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He can tell you that all he wants to those urges don't go away. He is in denial or "on the downlow".
2007-01-11 03:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in the closet. However, its no big deal. Married people put themselves in an "A sexual" closet when they get married all the time.
Couples commit themselves to each other and put themselves in the closet from anyone else (man or woman).
Best Friends become more distant. Dating other people stops. Its all part of the same thing.
As for him turning his back to what he had done, that could be how he defines himself. He may think it more manly to not be attracted to other men. However, I've know some gay military guys that could snap me like a twig and I would never in my life say they are less manly. Your husband is just trying to be what he thinks he should be (like most of us). Example I think I'm honest so I try to be honest. However, I do lie every now and then, I still consider myself honest.
2007-01-11 05:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the individual and how the idea still holds its appeal as they mature.
If you, yourself are bi, why do you ask the question?
Yes, it is "possible" that the attraction goes away and also quite "possible" that it never does, but because of lack of "opportunity," people just don't pursue the attraction because it's more hassle than its worth.
2007-01-11 04:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have heard a lot about these kinds of things. I think in many cases what your husband is saying is true.
One of two things is happening here:
1. He's coming out of the closet = end of marriage
2. You have a husband who TRULY trusts you, making himself that venerable = very strong marriage.
I hope for your sake it's #2.
2007-01-11 03:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows Hon. As long as your relationship is working out, I wouldn't worry about it. I'm assuming that since you are BI, even if he was attracted to other guys again, you would be more accepting than most folks.
2007-01-11 03:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I know is homosexuality is not a choice, ppl are born that way. And some people can have experiences and be hetero. And they will be hetero for the rest of their lives.
2007-01-11 04:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by december_changes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm...he's kept pics...touching tounges...and he has admitted one homosexual act.. I'll admit when I was young and drunk.. sometimes it happens..usually it's a one time thing you know an erect penis...any port in a storm....but multiple...and sober and keeping pics...I don't know...But hey if your married....dude or chick...it's cheating.
2007-01-11 04:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by dj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in the closet. He will come out one day and you will feel like a fool.
2007-01-11 04:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One side of me says that he admitted this all to you and didnt have to so why would he lie about it ESPECIALLY since your bi. The other side of me says .....anything is possible
2007-01-11 03:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still likes to pack fudge.
2007-01-11 03:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋