me and my partner have been havin unprotected sex for over a year now and still cant pregnant.. my periods are normal on the 28 day cycle and are on time...this month i had my period a day early..seemed heavier on the first two days and then got really light..not bein disgustin but before my period started i had mucus with blood spottin..never noticed this before.. still have like pinkisk discharge... has anyone ever had this... i know im prob not pregnant but my breast are firm one day and the next day back to normal..is this just my head playin tricks with me because i want a baby so bad... can i add i was pregnant 2 years ago after havin sex for 5 months unprotected. this time its takin lots longer... my son died unfortunately 6 weeks after he was born 14 weeks premature. so tell m e wat u think...please dont say go to ur doc cos i already have....
2007-01-11 03:03:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
this must be really hard for you!!! Your problem is definitely a psychological one. you are trying too hard and you are too anxious. this is effecting your cycle, that is msot probably why you can't get pregnant. To get pregnant, you have to be relaxed, not just on the day that you had sex, but the longer relaxed you are, the better. relax and calm down, distract yourself from all the thinking and spend as time as possible with your partner, go out, watch a movie, cuddle up and talk (not about the baby) and you will get pregnant, believe me. just relax and let nature do the work.
my friend had the same problem, my advice worked for her, i hope that it will work for you too!!!
i wish you all the luck in the world and hope that you dream come true. I'm sure you will make the perfect mom.
Take care
2007-01-11 03:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky Charm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
Getting pregnant is actually quite difficult. I would recommend charting your cycles so you can see when you are most fertile and so increase your chances of concieving.
Take your temperature evry morning when you wake up. It will rise when you ovulate (12-16 days before your next period) and will stay higher until your next period. Once released your egg remains viable for fertilisation for just 12-24 hours. Also keep an eye on your mucus, it will become stretchy like egg white as you approach ovulation. Sperm can surivie for up to 5 days in this most fertile mucus.
When trying to concieve it is recommended that you have intercourse every other day during the week before you ovulate and then for a day or two after.
In the UK there is a charity called LIFE which runs a highly sucessful fertility programme that I think you should check out. Also if you want to learn more about charting and identifying your fertile time the Couple to Couple League have a great home study course which I can highly recommend.
Finally, make sure you are taking your prenatal vitamins and try not to worry as stress can delay ovulation.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 18:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by MrsC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to first extend my condolences to you about your loss. Regarding trying to get pregnant for such a length of time, many things can be going on. Dr's usually don't get concerned until unsuccessful trying for over a year, even then it is not of major concern right away. In my past I have never had a problem getting pregnant (it seemed all I had to do was think about it). Anyway with my last pregnancy it didn't happen as easily. We ended up trying for almost a year (almost daily) and nothing. I was quite concerned even though my Drs were not. A few things happened about the same time so I do not know which to chalk it up to. We finally gave up and decided to wait a few months to try again (we weren't stressing it). My Dr noticed a slight infection so perscribed antibiotics (for a few days) and then I read in a home remedies book that zinc helped with fertility, so I started taking it, anyway all of this happened within about about 6 weeks and the next month I was pregnant.
So I guess if you do not have any type of infection, take a mental break, pop some zinc and it will happen. I know one or all of the above worked for me. Good luck and just enjoy the trying.
2007-01-11 03:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. That must be awful. If you have become pregnant naturally with your partner in the past then it is unlikely that there is any physiological problem. I know it sounds naff but these things just take time and if you are stressed about it, it will affect the chemical balance of your body and may actually reduce your chances of getting pregnant. Relax, the mucus and blood spotting is normal, I get is sometimes and the heavy first 2 days and barely anything after that. That gets more common as you get older. Try taking a short break, get away from worry about things, try and focus your attention on something else. You could try doing temperature charts to determine your most fertile days (you might need to see your doctor about them) but they will focus more not less attention on the problem which if it is stress related won't help much.
Good luck
2007-01-11 03:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Again i'm so sorry for your loss. i am going through a similar thing at the moment. i conceived my first child within 4 weeks of trying and this time seems to take forever. alot of how you are feeling and the change in your breasts may be down to your mind playing tricks on u as i am feeling the same and no mater how many times i do a pregnancy test it is always negitive. i would just try your best not to think about it and carry on with your life for now, it may not sound like much help but this is what i have had to accept and now i am not thinking about it as much i find that my breasts don't feel tender and i don't feel different like i could be pregnant. it will happen it just takes longer for some than others and we seem to be the latter one. it does say that a couple trying to conceive usually take upto at least a year so i wouldn't worry to much. hope this helps a little, TC
2007-01-11 03:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by lin c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply sorry for your loss I cant even Begin to imagine what that must have been like for you. My opinion would be that when your trying so hard to fall pregnant you start to get symptoms called a phantom pregnancy which could be what your experiencing. My best advice to you is to get ovulating pills that make you ovulate I had to take those as I was battling to conceive too and then its up to perfect timing start trying on the 10-17th days after your period stops your situation with the bleeding and pinkish discharge sounds very much like my situation. Good luck I hope this helps and that everything turns out ok for you God Bless xx
2007-01-11 05:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by sheila99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 1 year old son called Tyler, I personally think that pregnancy comes down to what is going on in the heads of the participants of the people having sex, the mood and feeling has to be right, if your both enjoying the moment equally great things will happen don’t be distracting by wanting a baby too much. If both of you are doing exactly what is natural with any forethought to what might come i think you stand a better chance. Hope this helps.
2007-01-11 03:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by grassmonkeys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the loss of you other baby. I had fertiltiy problems and I thank god every day for my healthy twins. I think that you should go to your doctor right away in case you are having a eptopic pregnancy. You may want to take a preg. test also just to see what it says but I really think you should see the doctor in case. When I got pregnant with the twins I thought that I was getting my period, I had spotting for two days and then it stopped. Good Luck!
2007-01-11 03:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not trying, forget for a short time, and enjoy.
If you know a friend who has a baby or a wee one try to get some time looking after them, it might get the right hormones going.
or I took my wife to a friends birthday party, where she met a former female friend of mine who was there with her 6 month old son. That worked exactly 9 months later our son was born.
2007-01-11 03:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by d_andrews78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's so sad and my heart goes out to u about getting pregnant my sister was trying for 2 years and she thought that it was not going to happen but now she is pregnant and the baby is due in April just relax and it will happen maybe because its always on Ur mind Ur body is not letting nature take course all i can suggest is just do not think about it and it will happen sorry i Can not help u more wish u all the luck in the world!!! and hope that you will get pregnant soon god bless!!!!
2007-01-11 03:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋