am in desired condition , please help me to over came?

Question

really i was in acritical condition about my family problems , just to overcome , it better to die , ihad lready commited sucide but mybad luck is with me , please give any suggetions

Answer 1

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 2

1.Do you think that people who are living are not having any problem?
2.You cannot show a person living without any problem.
3.For you your problem may be big but, when you discuss with your friends and family members you will understand that yours is nothing.
4.Suicide is not solution for everything. There is a solution for everything.
5.Also don't assume everyone is perfect in the world and you are not the one imperfect. Generally people talk as if they are perfect but in reality the meaning varies.
6.Please read some good positive thinking books which will give confidence to and your family.
7.Don't bother about your society it is a time to pass, think that you are under bad periods. Once this is over everyone will appreciate. Move in this direction

Answer 3

Death is never a solution to any problem.
If you are in a mental state that may lead you to commit suicide, you better open up and start talking to your friends .
At the present moment you must have closed many windows of your mind and cannot see the lovely world outside. In spite all the evils, it is really a lovely and wonderful world.
I don't know about your specific problem. I expect it to be something serious involving you and your family. But no problem is insurmountable. Be brave and face them. Don't try to escape from your problems.
I am ready to listen to all your problems and discuss them, if it helps. But please promise me and everyone else in this platform that you would never try to kill yourself. It is very very foolish anyway.
There are many experts who can help you. Not only in supplying mental strength, but in suggesting ways to solve your problems. This is why I told you to discuss your problem with your friends, at the beginning.
Lastly, remember, as long as you try to keep your problems within yourself, you will be like a well-shaken lemonade bottle - ready to explode any time. Open the cork at your mouth.

Answer 4

Yahoo Answer Tag-line includes "Real Person" and you have asked from a real person. The fact is that I'm also passing from this condition, but I'd never tried suicide because it is not cool that we committed suicide for anyone else' problem.
Now, when the family problem arises, I feel it's normal but if it doesn't arise I feel something missing.
Just change your view dear and everything will be fine...

Answer 5

a wise man once helped me realize that "on the track of life, there is no hurdle that is too tall and that you cant get over." i have had friends who have committed suicide, and ill tell you now, its just the coward's and the quitter's way out. ive been there myself also, ive tried to kill myself, and (obviously or i wouldnt be here answering this) failed. there are people out there to help you, and theres always someone there for you even if you just need someone to yell at, even if its some random person on the internet like me. in the grand scheme of things, we're only here on this planet for a short time, theres no need to make it any shorter. if i knew more about your problem, id be glad to help you more, and im sure that there are plenty of people in your life that feel the same way. let them help, and most important of all, have fun

Answer 6

suicide is not the way. they dont call it the gift of life for nothing. u were given a gift when u were born, and that gift is the ability to learn, and care, and love, and endure. u were given the gift of perserverance, and patience, and strength to get through it. u have to have faith and realize everything happens for a reason. when the childrens aid took my son i could have given up hope. but instead i fought and said over my dead body ur taking my kid away from me. and hes home now, cause i never lost faith in god or myself. my point is he was taken away and why? the answer is to make me a better mother. and i am.

Answer 7

Be positive in life. Critical phases are temporary phases and come in every human's life. Be an Ostrich and dig your head to weather the storm. Come up when the weather clears out. Suicide is for the cowards.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I'm having trouble deciphering your question...

If you tried to commit suicide and lived, that in itself is a sign that you are destined for something else...

Answer 10

Not sure what you are trying to say but, suicide is never the answer.