Why would a guy who is 52 yrs old, has 18.8 million dollars on deposit in the bank, drive a 15 yr. old pickup truck, live in a average house. buy the same average quality furniture as everyone else. He's a widower. I'm his only child a step-daughter. He Doesn't chase after women or men. Attends plays, sporting events, goes camping and fishing, doesn't drink or use drugs. Pays for my tuition and books and apartment and utilities, but won't buy me a new car. Says i should get a job if i want one of those.
Is he crazy, or a miser tight wad or what?
2007-01-11 02:57:00 · 23 answers · asked by ash84102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's your step father, paying for your college tuition and apartment and all that goes with that. I don't think anything is wrong with his driving his old truck. If runs to his liking and he doesn't mind, why waste the money on a new one.
As far as him telling you to get a job and buy your own new car, I don't see anything wrong with that either. Just because he's a man of means, and has that much money doesn't mean he's a tight wad or a miser.
He's probably trying to instill in you some form of responsibility for life's needs, rather than handing you everything you want in life.
As far as living in an average house, and furnishing it the way he does, i don't see a problem with that either.
He seems to be a rather straight guy and father figure. I don't see why you would think otherwise, unless you are one really spoiled step child.
He seems to have made his money early in life and doesn't desire to waste it on trivial stuff. I mean he's paying for college and apartment those items aren't cheap by any meaning of the word and over a 4 year period could amount to several hundred thousand dollars depending on the college you attend and the type of apartment you live in.
2007-01-11 03:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. He actually owes you nothing. He pays for your housing and education, and you must get the extras yourself.
2. I knew a lot of rich guys. They are all this way. They hate to spend. They save and save and save and have a saving plan. So he is normal.
Then, you know, if you want to be happy, forget about his money. They hate when they are "used". They hate the thought that when they die someone will enjoy their money. That someone else will spend what they collected. They usually leave everything to some university or foundation, or something. And they like playing with those who wait for the inheritance: they even may show them a fake will, when in fact they are leaving everything to charities.
Use him now to get an excellent education, and try to be
self-sufficient. If he leaves you something, as by law you can't
disinherit a child, it will be a pittance. If you are not legally
adopted, you won't get even that pittance. So as not to be
disappointed, just do not count on him.
p.s. Unless he dies in between changing wills, uncertain as to leave it to the college or some foundation. Plus he can marry again. Someone young. When he is 63.
2007-01-11 03:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really don't get it.
Happiness and Wealth break down to a simple equation.
If your WANTS are MORE than what you have you are sad and poor.
If your WANTS are LESS than what you have you are happy and rich.
Your step father does NOT WANT MORE therefore he is happy and rich.
However you WANT MORE therefore you are sad and poor.
When you earn something like a car or a home or a family you learn the value of time/money/sacrifices to get it. Would you trade your left leg for the new car? How about your boyfriend/husband/child? How about the first time your child spoke or walked?
Maybe your step father is teaching you how to be happy is life by being happy with what you have.
2007-01-11 04:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he is a miser or a tight wad, but i do think that your spoiled and selfish, and ungrateful.there a great deal of people out there that have struggled to get to college and work to pay there way. and every day they might be tired of the whole thing and at times want to give up but they don't. yet you have this all handed to you and you want to complain? complain because he wont buy you a car!! many people that have jobs don't have a car they walk or take a bus.i say get a job!!! lets say he did buy you a car would you offer those that don't have one a ride? for some reason i doubt it.
2007-01-11 03:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to teach you responsibility and that money doesn't really matter. He doesn't need all those expensive things and neither do you. If you want a car GET A JOB AND BUY ONE! Why rely on him when you can do it on your own. He is obviously a smart man. If he didn't live the way he does and decided to buy super nice things...his 18.8 million would be gone...then NO inheritance for you!!! But you probably won't get it anyways since you are acting the way you are and you just expect him to fork it over...its HIS not YOURS,
2007-01-11 03:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't buy you a car, hon. And you should get a job if you want one. You aren't even related by blood to him. He's giving you a gift to pay for your tuition, books, apartment and utilities ---WOW! Lots of parents don't/can't do that!!!!---HIs gift is way beyond his obligation to you. Finish school, bust your butt getting good grades, then get a job, and learn to support yourself. Hopefully he will give his money to a university for tuition for other kids. " Give a man a fish, and he eats one day. Teach him how to fish, and he can feed himself forever." He is giving you the gift of an education... of teaching you to feed yourself.... Good for him, even better for you.
2007-01-11 04:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call him a GREAT parent.....never mind the "step" part. He truly cares about you, and wants the best for you. He is paying for your tuition. If he bought you a car, you would not appreciate it. I remember telling my youngest son the exact same thing when he turned 18......"I wouldn't buy you a car, if I was a multi-millionaire!"...".I'll HELP you get a car, but I will NOT buy you a car!" Pissed him off too......hate it for him!!! Go to work and buy your own car.....I promise it won't kill you!
2007-01-11 03:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him you spoiled freakin BRAT. He has that kinda money cause he earned it. Your lucky he is even paying for your schooling so you can get off your butt and get a good career. He also pays for your apartment and utilities. You should be gratefull he gives you any of that. Your sitting here whining about him getting you a car. GROW THE HELL UP.
2007-01-11 03:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is HIS money, NOT yours.
MOST people who are millionaires, do not live the HOLLYWOOD life.
He is right. Get a job if you want a new car. Be very thankful that he is supporting you this much. You sound like a spoiled brat who thinks that just because her daddy (even if he is a step parent) is rich, you are entitled to everything.
Grow up!
2007-01-11 03:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to "learn" responsibility and respect, not saying your disrespectful, but he is humble, and I am more than sure one day you will get it all, but he wants you to learn how to do things for yourself and be self sufficent. Yea maybe he pays for all the "neccessities", and what you need, not want, and there is a big difference. I assumed he worked hard for what he has attained, and he just wants you to learn the "good" things in life concerning money. Like I said, not just the wants, but the needs.
2007-01-11 03:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋