My 6 year old is sometimes wetting her bed lately.I am 27 weeks pregnant and she currently is the youngest. She also has expressed concern about where she is going when we go to have the baby. Any suggestions?
2007-01-11 02:46:20 · 9 answers · asked by Sterlingrose 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like she might be worried more than jealous. I would actively involve her in your pregnancy activities, like taking her to the doctor with you, let her rub lotion on your belly, spend special quality time with her coloring or out to eat to make her know that this baby is not going to interfere with her relationship with you.
Tell her that while you have the baby, that the doctors have to have you by themselves so the baby can come out okay, it has to be quiet and it might hurt a little, so she can't be there to see it. But explain that as soon as the baby comes out then she can be there with you but might have to stay the night somewhere until you come home, but can be there during the days.
2007-01-11 02:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her who will be looking after her when you go to the hospital. And that after the baby is born you will come back home, and bring the baby with you. Talk about what life will be like with a new brother or sister. That she will still sleep in her bed, and where the new baby will sleep. She may think you are sending her away for ever. Try to find time to give her more attention than usual. You could read stories together about brothers and sisters. Find out what she is thinking and reassure her. Best Wishes.
2007-01-11 11:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because of all the change that is happening around her. And yes she is probably expressing jealousy and concern over the new baby. This is completely normal though. Just make sure she is involved in the daily actitives of caring for the baby. That way she will know she is needed.
2007-01-11 10:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here is the questions you should ask yourself does she do thhis all the time? if not she might be feeling some jelousy or maybe wetting the bed to get some attention. Make sure that you sit down and tell that you will love her no matter what tell her that she will always be her 1st born
2007-01-11 10:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the bed wetting could be anxiety more than anything. she is worried that the new baby is going to take her place. you need to make sure she knows that you are gonna need a lot of help from her. tell her while you are in the hospital having the baby you wont be able to watch her so she will have to stay with family or tell her who she will be staying with, but make sure you tell her that as soon as you get home with her new baby brother or sister you will make sure she comes home the same day becasue you are going to need a lot of help from her.
2007-01-11 10:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by merwin5236 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My niece is having the same sort of trouble. My sister is preg. with her second, and her little girl is finding it hard to cope. She has lately tried to involve her more in her pregnancy, talking to her about being a big sister, helping out mommy with the baby, getting things ready. It has made a big difference. Just in the last little bit, she has talked about being a big sister, and HER baby in mommy's tummy! She even said she will be a big sister to her baby in my tummy, haha, since I am about a month ahead of my sister...we had a good laugh over it, but she is starting to feel proud of her 'new' responsibility. She still has lapses where she gets jealous, but she is doing much better. Good luck and just try to involve her in this new experience in her life. Best Wishes!
2007-01-11 10:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know that its jealousy exactly, but she's obviously curious and certainly apprehensive, since she asked where she was going to stay while you were in the hospital. Be very open, let her know your plans, let her help in some of the baby decisions...like the nursery decor or preparing for the arrival of the little one. Or choosing some names to possibly pick from. Let her know that she would be very valuable when it comes to helping to care for the new arrival.
2007-01-11 10:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily jealousy, but a bit uneasy about all thats going on with the pregnancy and all. just reassure her that everything will be fine and that you love her and the new baby the same. She'll come around. and congrats!!!
2007-01-11 10:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds more like she is a little insecure give her lots of cuddles and make sure she knows that she is very loved,
all my children seem to have had moments like this.
its hard but she will be fine x x x x
2007-01-11 10:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋