That is what mine says happened but that he didn't really cheat, only kissed and hugged her and now he wants to stay?
2007-01-11 02:33:33 · 24 answers · asked by mae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hugged and kissed is not ALMOST anything, it's CHEATING.
2007-01-11 02:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost cheating is someone asking you to have sex with them and instead of immediately saying NO you think about it for a few seconds and then say no anyway.
Anything other than that is cheating!!!!
Whether you want to let him go or not is totally up to you, but I think that more than just this incident should be taken into consideration, like -(1) I would take into account - although he knew you would be upset - whether he came out and told you what happened or if you found out some other way. (2) If this is an isolated incident or if this has happened before (3) If you can honestly forgive him and move on and not hold this over his head and bring it up whenever there is a disagreement about any and everything that doesn't pertain to this (4) whether you have the ability to trust him again - which is something that you give freely, you can choose to trust him which would be the foundation and and then give him the opportunity over time to build on that foundation and make your trust stronger.
Girl, way ALL the pros and cons.
It is easy to say get rid of him, but there are men that have done much, much worse to their wives.
Truly I wish you and your husband the best of luck in the future
2007-01-11 10:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uuh, YEAH he cheated.
He SAY'S that's all that happened?? Yeah, right. Whatever. He "ONLY" kissed and hugged her? Does the Dumb-nut really think you believe him?? Who says stupid stuff like, "I REALLY didn't cheat, only kissed and hugged her." No, Stupid, you REALLY DID cheat on your wife.
He crossed the line the SECOND they touched. Actually, there's probably a lot more then what you know, OR what he's willing to tell. It started way before the kiss or hug. Yet, he'd love for you to believe his theory on cheating.
He probably told you, "It didn't mean anything" either. Right, it was nothing. He's full of it. He became emotionally tide to this chick the instant HE locked lips and arms with her.
Think about it...the man YOUR married to KISSED and TOUCHED (hugged, whatever) ANOTHER woman! It sure wasn't your lips he was kissing OR your body he was holding.
He obviously thinks your stupid and will believe anything he tells you. DON'T. Don't be naive, and stupid like him. If you let him continue, you have just as little respect for yourself as he does.
He's a LIER.
DON'T believe him.
2007-01-11 13:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by P. ~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your relationship, I should think you could forgive a kiss and a cuddle. If you're married, giving up what you'd planned for a misdemeanour like that seems pointless. Everyone makes mistakes.
What were the circumstances though, that could change things?
Will he see her again?
Was it your sister?
Do you know it was only a hug and kiss?
Was he drunk?
Did he stay out all night?
Is he in love with you?
All things that could alter what your decision should be. If it was nothing but a passing kiss and cuddle, I'm surprised he even told you.
2007-01-11 10:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugging intimately and french kissing is, in my books, cheating. If it's a friendly kiss on the cheek and a hug hello, it's not. It depends on how intimate it was. To be honest, i believe he's playing it down a little... but only you in your heart knows the real answer. Go with your gut. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-11 10:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what my ex-wife told me. then I found out they had been sleeping together for a year. Kissing, hugging it all leads to something else. Why is he kissing and hugging someone else anyways? Im sure there is more to the story, that he has not told you yet. Im sorry but that is cheating.
2007-01-11 10:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by redimix_redimix_redimix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's intent. If he kissed and hugged her, he has cheated. He may have not actually done the deed, but the intent was there and as long as the memory of the other woman is in his head, he may try to pursue her some more. You and he need counseling or you need to cut him loose and make him pay for making your life miserable.
2007-01-11 10:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes.....i would think so say that you were married and you went to your friends house....who is attracted to you and they make a move on you and you guys are kissing and the moment is getting intense ...however if you are the stronger person and tell them no that you can't do this.... then you almost cheated but you didn't go all the way.
2007-01-11 10:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by beth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would be cheating. Before you let him stay find out why he did it,obviously there is a problem somewhere that needs to be resolved. Communication is the best way to anything.
2007-01-11 10:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cheating starts the minute he begins sneaking around to see her then he is cheating.
2007-01-11 10:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think cheating is anything u do behind your spouses back. looks as if he wanted to cheat, and began to do it, but had second thoughts about it.
2007-01-11 11:06:39 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋